Why I want to earn a lot. What prevents you from earning a lot? How not to be afraid of losing money? Where do financial problems with grooms or husbands come from? In the service of "mammona"

"He is weak in spirit who cannot afford wealth."
Seneca

Today we will talk about the sexiest topic :) - about money. And not just about money, but about big money. Where to get them, how not to be afraid of losing, and why someone does not allow themselves to earn a lot.

And we will also think about whether it is worth choosing the role of a housewife for ourselves, and leaving the husband to solve all financial problems.

By the way, I take all the questions from our blog. If you want to see my answer to your question - ask it below in the comments.

“I have black envy, which I try not to accentuate. I need to remake it into white, because these are my goals, what I want!

My problem:
There are men who set big goals and achieve them, and my husband works on little things. Since I pay attention to such men, it means that mine will be the same soon, I just need to remove the fear that I will not be able to correspond to it. I can, and how!

People who have a lot of money are dishonest. I myself also want to earn with five zeros, but I'm afraid, what will I do with this money? What if I "get dirty"?

An aunt from Gazprom comes to my mind, spoiling her money for children who grew up useless people. And my subconscious does not want wealth, so as not to spoil the children. Maybe it's true that big incomes are not good? Why four lemons a year? "

Tatyana.

Mark Twain once said: "Actually, I'm against millionaires, but if I was offered to become ..."

People love to scold the rich, call money "dirty", although everyone does not mind getting financial independence and the benefits that it gives. But in order to get what you want, it is extremely important to stop scolding money. So that your Subconscious mind does not contradict their entry into your life. This is what we will do in this article.

Tatyana, how to properly manage money?

They can be invested wisely. I wrote about this in the article

You can do charity work. I know several wealthy families who spend money on the education of children from orphanages. Someone pays for the treatment of sick children. And it brings a sense of satisfaction and happiness.

Money gives you free time. Rich people have more of it. And part of the resources (and free time is an important resource) can also be spent on charity. And enjoy yourself - life can bring joy. True, not all people are smart enough to live like this.

Those who are constantly engaged in self-development live with joy. To spend a little time and still get great results, you need to develop your brain and study a lot.

How to spoil children

"... An aunt from Gazprom comes to mind, spoiling children with her money, who have grown up useless people. And my subconscious mind does not want wealth so as not to spoil the children ..."

Children are spoiled not by money, but by human stupidity. There are spoiled children (with a lot of destructive scenarios) both rich and poor people. If the child is raised correctly, there will be no problems. By the way, I wrote on this topic in the article

If a child is given the correct life program, he will grow up to be an adult and self-sufficient person. And money will only help with this. In the end, they give the opportunity to hire tutors, allow the child to learn different sciences from real professionals.

The German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, who once created the idea of ​​a super-man, wrote: " Wealth allows you to choose the most beautiful women, pay best teachers, it gives a person cleanliness, time for physical exercise and relieves of stupefying physical labor. In this sense, it provides all the conditions for learning to step nobly and beautifully and even act in a few generations. "

Money itself is neither bad nor good. People make them bad, good, harmful or useful.

Unfortunately, in Russia they look up either to the poor or to the bandits-oligarchs. And this is the wrong type of thinking imposed on TV. Look at famous scientists, people of creativity. They earn a lot, but at the same time they educate their children competently, invest money correctly, and consciously spend it. They are engaged in charity work. And they are constantly busy with self-education. Look for positive examples of rich people.

Yes, after the collapse of the USSR, Russia has not yet managed to come to its senses properly. It is clear that in England or the United States, a child born in the upper middle class will grow up and become a successful lawyer, doctor or scientist. A child whose parents earn a lot will be brought up with the aim of preserving the family business and increasing it. Such a child will not play video games for days (they generally give him a computer for a very short time). He will read a lot, learn languages ​​from childhood, and master various useful skills.

In Russia, many parents are accustomed to giving their child somewhere and not participating in his upbringing, which is a big problem for both the rich and the poor. For example, Donald Trump has an interesting description of his college education. Father constantly wrote to him, sent him important quotes smart people, took an active part in the development of his son's worldview. Now Trump's children are successful businessmen.

There is nothing difficult for a parent to find on the Internet and tell about 16-year-old Volgograd schoolboy Mikhail Kozenko, who independently learned how to make 3D printers, and who opened a successful business in their production.

Or read, for example, a book by Robert Kiyosaki, and tell his eight-year-old son how Robert wanted to become successful, wealthy - and became so. Why not tell a parent the success story of Howard Schultz, founder of Starbucks. Or Ray Kroc, who promoted the idea of ​​Dick and Mike McDonald, and, by the way, explain why he ruined them, and why they LEFT him ruin themselves.

I like the story of the Russian neurophysiologist, Academician of the Russian Academy of Sciences Natalia Bekhtereva. She somehow wondered why, in hungry and besieged Leningrad, she went to such a distance, hungry, in a terrible frost to study at an institute? After all, no one forced her (her parents were imprisoned) and she actually grew up in an orphanage. Why?

Because my mother used to say to little Natasha all the time: "You are the daughter of great scientists, and you will study at the institute and become a scientist." And she became him! Because her mother programmed her for this. And how many discoveries she made later!

Raising a child on the example of successful individuals is interesting and exciting. It is useful for a child to know how Lomonosov with a fish train went to conquer Moscow and became a famous scientist. How Suvorov from a frail dead man became a great commander. Seeing your admiration for these personalities, your child will one day want you to look at him with the same admiration. This means that he will have a STIMULUS to grow above himself!

It is important to understand that it is not money that pamper children, but parents who are not involved in raising them. And the upbringing and development of a child is, first of all, the self-organization and personal growth of the parent.

What is Big Income?

Many people have a lot of illusions about high incomes. Many people want to have a lot of money, but not everyone understands that this is a big responsibility. If your income grows by one, two or three zeros, you will no longer be the same person. There is a lot to learn and understand. For example, to solve an issue with a reasonable investment of money. With competent business management. To have a high income and at the same time be happy and contented with life - you need to learn a lot.

For example, there are rich people who live in perpetual fear of losing their money. They don't want to live long. After all, now they earn a lot, but in old age they will not be able to. They are building a "not live long" program for themselves. And this program is being implemented - they really do not live long, they get sick a lot and die early. This is sad.

But there is another way. Learn to correctly save and invest money - and you will live a long, rich and happy life. What is smart investment?

Someone invests in real estate, someone in gold. By the way, in order to invest in gold, you don't need to earn millions, EVERY person can do it. Someone invests in startups or securities.

But there is another one hundred percent option for investing money, which works very effectively.

This is self-education. If a person is deeply and diversified, he will always and everywhere work. Most importantly, it is a very pleasant investment. If you get carried away with it, it brings a lot of joy and satisfaction. And this has been scientifically proven: when a person learns something new, hormones of happiness are produced in his body. And this is constantly confirmed by my readers. They regularly write what emotional boost they get after reading my articles :).

Big money and little stupidity

For example, one student did not allow herself to earn a lot, as she was afraid that the money would take a lot of her time. She will have to do what she does not like, and she will no longer receive the joy of life ... Yes, there are such nonsense in the minds of people. How did she substantiate her opinion?

- I'll make a lot of money. Immediately concerned about buying a home. And then you need to do the repairs. And where will I get it for all this time?

And I was really afraid to earn a lot :). And she dreamed of her renovated apartment ...

We got rid of her fears by what we were looking for, how we can solve problems with the purchase and arrangement of housing with a minimum investment of time. And they found it! True, she had to read several books on this topic, and then describe what she learned, understood and is going to apply in her life.

A couple of years later, I received a letter from her. She said that she bought an apartment and is now doing repairs there. True, she is now resting in Thailand, and some very good guy, a jack of all trades, is doing the repairs in the apartment :). Now she is not afraid to make a lot of money.

Every person has a brain. And it's great if he constantly pumps it. In this case, he can learn how to use it effectively, and with minimal costs (energy, time, money) get the maximum result.

Where and how can you make money?

"... There are men who set big goals and achieve them, and my husband works on little things. Since I pay attention to such men, it means that mine will be like that soon, I just need to remove the fear that I will not be able to correspond to him. I can, and how! .. "

Tatyana, this is the wrong strategy in life. You cannot strive to remake a person. Don't expect anything from him. And you shouldn't be equal to him. You need to strive to match yourself - the best Tatyana, the one who has realized a lot of her desires.

Take care of yourself, your development. Learn to earn a lot yourself. I write about it all the time. Readers often ask me: "Is there any sense in this? And in general, is it possible to somehow influence the life of your own and a loved one?"

I'll tell you a story in this case. Somehow one cadet named Nastya complained to me that she had no options at all to improve her financial situation. She was unlucky - she could not receive higher education, works as a seller. And her husband also works as a seller. And sellers don't earn much!

Well, how can a person have such nonsense in his head? You can find a way out anytime, anywhere. Of course, if you set this goal.

Nastya and I agreed that every day she would spend at least one hour of time to increase her income. I sent her a long list of things to do during this hour.

Nastya wrote a fairy tale about how much she would earn. She reprogrammed and read inspiring literature. I wrote down my goals and made collages.

By the way, about the goals. It is important to set high goals for yourself, otherwise there is always a risk of falling back. What could have happened to our heroine. After a while, she found a job as a salesperson with a salary that was three times that. Oddly enough, before she did not even suspect that sellers can earn so much. But when I set out to increase my income, I found out that they can. How can they!

These are people selling something valuable, unique, where special knowledge and skills are required. Nastya passed the necessary educational course and began to sell expensive jewelry. And since she had a high goal, she did not stop there! And now she has grown in her firm to the top manager. She realized: to increase income, you do not need a higher education (especially, a lot of people even with two higher education cannot earn money). The girl was convinced from her own experience: to earn a lot - you need a person's INTENTION, and his purposeful ACTIONS.

When there is an Intention, you will also find your path to wealth. You will begin to look not towards poverty, but towards increasing income. And if you have the right goal, and there are no restrictions, you will definitely earn your money!

Anastasia's husband, looking at her work, at first laughed. I laughed for a couple of months until I realized that my wife takes her "Hour of Money" very seriously - that's how we called her work on herself.

Her husband did not study with his wife. But he also increased his income just by looking at her actions. He smoothly changed the profession of a salesman to the job of an advertiser. Now he works on the Internet, sits at home, earns a normal income, has a strategy for the development of his business.

This is where dreams can lead - if they are turned into Intentions!

About those who do not know how to solve financial problems

Recently, a reader asked me this question: "My fiancé is busy, so busy! Horror, it's simple! He doesn't spend time with me, always at work. True, he makes good money, but he doesn't sleep well ... He works! I'm afraid I'll get married - he won't find time for my family at all. to be?"

How to be? Do not suffer from nonsense, and pursue your career growth.

You see, what is the matter here. When a woman is engaged in her development, nothing worries her, and she does not doubt anything. She is not afraid that her husband will become a workaholic, as she herself develops "Conscious workaholism" in herself. Develops your brain to work NOT MUCH, BUT EFFECTIVELY. And if a woman herself knows how not to become a workaholic, then her husband will help not to suffer from foolishness :).

She is not afraid to give birth to children, because she is not afraid that a brick will fall on her husband's head, and the children will remain hungry.

About housewives and homeless women

It is important to understand that a woman in Russia has never, even 300 years ago, under any circumstances financially depended on her husband. And if it depended ... Such in the old days was called "Dowry". And this is bad. Such a fate cannot be desired even by an enemy.

When a girl was married off, she had a complete financial package that would ensure her a good career in life. What was this package?

Four cows or eight goats, ten pigs or a small herd of rams. Not counting: chickens, ducks, turkeys, geese or rabbits. Plus, bags of wheat, spelled, buckwheat, etc. And also, the ability to treat cattle (this is the profession of a veterinarian), take care of it correctly, so that there is offspring (the profession of a farmer), and sell or exchange the products of one's labor (this is the profession of a seller). But in addition to this, she knew how to spin, weave, sew, knit, etc.

With such a dowry, the girl could not be afraid that something would fall on her husband's head. She could feed herself, and her children, and her husband, if need be.

If the girl is "dowry" - then it's rubbish. And you yourself perfectly understand that. Of course, such girls were also taken in marriage, but with a different attitude - they could offend and reproach with a piece of bread.

By the way, people then lived richly. Read Gogol's "The Night Before Christmas". How much did the father prepare a dowry for his beautiful daughter Oksana? And how many old women did they throw into the sacks of the carols? Half a pie, sausage ring :).

Now I see a fashionable trend - to live off my husband. I'll be honest: if you want to choose the role of a "dowry woman" for yourself, then it's rubbish. And nothing good will end. I have an extremely negative attitude towards housewives. This is the path of personality degradation. And for those who do not understand this idea poorly, I will repeat: even 300 years ago in Russia, a woman was much more developed than a modern housekeeper (sorry, housewives) - she knew and was able to do ten times more.

And if someone tells you that a woman should depend on her husband, think about how this life strategy can end?

Every day I receive bags with letters about how husbands offend housewives - they reproach them with bread, they don't give money, and even insult. Well, if a husband wants to get divorced, then a woman generally has hysterics ... And who is to blame? You are the one to blame.

If you don't believe me, check it out. The choice is always yours.

By the way, I wrote about the girl's modern dowry in the article

What do you think prevents YOU from making money?

Write us your thoughts in the comments below, and I or the psychologists of our project will help you translate them into a constructive channel :).

About the fear of losing money

"Wealth serves the clever, and commands the fool."
Thomas Fuller

Once a student wrote to me about her aunt who owned a jeans store. When large companies selling inexpensive branded clothing appeared in their town and a crisis broke out, the aunt went bankrupt and fell into depression ... Now the girl is afraid to start her own business, because does not want to repeat the fate of his aunt.

A typical loser scenario goes like this: "Why would I do something if it still doesn't work out."

Yes, anything can happen in life. Many people just want to exclaim in the voice of Galkin-Litvinova: "How scary to live!" And then sit down, hang down the arms, and do nothing.

But is it really scary to live?

Aunt, following her script, decided to get depressed. But there was another option! She already had experience in creating and running a business, she just needed to open another business, for example, selling shoes (cosmetics, household chemicals, food, etc.)

And in general, conscientious entrepreneurs, especially during crises, always try to create a safety cushion. In order not to be afraid to do your own thing, and live in peace :).

Many, selling shoes, additionally begin to sell children's clothes, or in general, bake pies and gingerbread. Opening additional options business, you get a guarantee: if one business goes bankrupt, another will remain. And if you continue to grow and develop, then you can survive any crisis.

I suggested to the girl look not at your fears, but at reality. And reality is much more beautiful than the inner fears of a person. In reality, people, as they were doing business, are still doing it. And they earn a lot. And on her aunt the light did not converge like a wedge!

If you manage financial affairs competently, a person will always have the opportunity to make good money. Money is an intimate thing. You need to do business with them with love and joy - showing attention to them and taking care of the future :). It's like with your wife - when you love her, take care, kiss her on the cheeks, give flowers, take you on dates - she will not cheat! Money also does not change with this approach :).

They must be able to put off "for a rainy day." Be sure to invest somewhere, not forgetting about your health, education, professionalism. If you do everything correctly, you can put airbags on yourself from all sides, which means that it is easy to survive any crisis. You just need to drop your fears, look at reality - and start LIVING!

10 comments

13.12.2016 21:31:18

Oksana, you once wrote that if a feminine woman wants to build a career, do business, let her do it, if she doesn’t want to, she can not do it. Because by nature it is laid down that a man is a breadwinner, and a woman is the guardian of the hearth, and she is not obliged to earn money. If she develops constantly, engaged in hobbies, creativity, charity, she will always be of interest to men. and even if something happens to her husband, she can quickly find another. now you write that she is obliged to earn money.