Time management of a mother of many children who works at home. Time management of a mother of many children

Today we are guests Snitkova Natalia. As you may have guessed from the title, Natasha is not just a mother, she mother of many children.

I have always been interested in how they run the household and, most importantly, manage the children of mothers who have not one, two, but more children ?! Therefore, I give the floor to Natalia.

Natasha, tell us a little about yourself and your children

Greetings to all readers of the blog ""! This is my first ever interview. Thanks Irina for the honor!

About myself? I am a mother and ... mother, and 4 more times mother. Yes Yes I have six of them: 3 sons and 3 daughters. So there is no time left to be someone else. In fact, I realized my plan, which is rooted in childhood. When I was 9 years old, I had a brother, and after another 3 years - the second. It was during that period that I realized: nothing makes a woman's life as rich and meaningful as the birth of children. And even then I made a decision: I will have a lot of them.

My first child, Yura, was born when I was in my 6th year of medical school, and although I planned not to interrupt my studies, to resort to the help of my grandmothers, I took an academic leave. I returned from the academy after 4 years, being the mother of 3 wonderful babies, I completed my studies for the required year. When I was awarded the long-awaited diploma, I was pregnant again.

Now Yura is 13 years old, Lena is 12, Lisa is 10, Natasha is 8, Vita is 4 years old, and the youngest Philip is 2. Each of them is a separate story, with its own character, hobbies, with its own shortcomings and advantages.

I am aware that I belong to that endangered species that considers many children not an atavism that disappears in the process of evolution, but a kind, useful, and necessary phenomenon in modern society.

How do you deal with six kids? Yes, the elders probably help, but you need to collect everything for school, and check the lessons, and much more. Do you have your own success secrets?

In my opinion, dealing with 2-3 is much more difficult. Today, I feel that I have become on some kind of rolled rails and food is almost effortless. Many elements of my mother's activity have been worked out to automatism. Plus, as rightly noted, the contribution of older children to household chores every day is more and more significant.

Of course, I can not say that I have time for everything. Over the years, I have developed immunity to failure. I don’t worry and I don’t punish myself if something remains undone. I have a blog post about just that.

I am constantly in search of a balance between useful and necessary. What is more important: reading a book to a child or knocking out a carpet? What do you need more: spit with the kids or wash the windows? There are things that do not seem to be of momentary benefit, but bear fruit after years have passed: for example, children regularly see me with a book - they themselves are drawn to read; girls see that I am doing needlework - they ask me to show how to crochet, embroider. Therefore, I try moderately, but to let into my life such “unhelpful” things, sometimes tearing me away from pressing worries.

School is a separate issue. Lessons are sometimes more exhausting than a couple of screaming babies. Gradually I teach students to be independent. Almost taught. Collect a briefcase, fill out a diary, prepare clothes for school - all by yourself from the 2nd quarter of the first grade. My own mission: difficult math problems, untranslatable texts in English and essays. In these cases, I help, and often sit for hours, trying to explain to the child what I myself barely understood.

BUT my main secret is my faith. I believe that the Lord, who gave me so many babies, will surely give me enough strength, knowledge and means to give them everything they need for every day, including care and affection. I clearly see that a day that begins with prayer is much more fruitful than a day that begins with vanity.

Do you plan your time? Is it possible to follow the plan?

To be honest, I'm far from clear planning. There are so many force majeure in my life that you never know how you will start the day and how you will end it. Although, in addition to everyday activities (cooking, washing, cleaning, activities with children), I keep in mind a couple of tasks that need to be completed if I have a free minute. So, today, I went through the toy box, got rid of all the "debris and remains", took some of the annoying toys to the attic. Already good! But yesterday was a failure. The younger one was capricious - I had to give him exactly as much time as I planned to spend on cleaning the bathroom. And nothing. survived.

I try to plan my stay on the Internet. My time at the computer is very limited: from the moment the children fell asleep to the moment when I fall asleep myself. As a rule, it is 2-3 hours. By the time I go online, I try to have a clear idea: where I need to go, what to write, who to answer, etc.

Every mother with children sometimes wants to be alone and spend time only on herself - for example, soak in the bathroom or go to the cinema or shopping with her friends. How are you doing on that front? Do you take time for yourself?

Here I must say: Honor and praise to my husband! Sometimes he gives me the opportunity to be alone: he takes the children for a walk or lets me go to a friend. But I notice that the further, the less I need it. Even a short fall of children from my field of vision instills anxiety in me and does not allow me to relax. I understand that this is a “brood hen syndrome”, from which you need to get rid of, otherwise it will be hard to let go of them who have matured.

More recently, I discovered that my elders are doing quite well with the younger ones in my absence: it has freed me up a lot. But the most blissful thing is that my husband and I began to periodically go out together. Rare, but so wonderful. We see this as a retribution for the hectic years we have behind us.

And recently, my husband went for a walk with the children and met an old acquaintance. He, surveying the entire brood, asked Sasha: “Is this all yours?” Hearing the answer, he whistled and said: “Yes, you live in paradise!” And now, when it's hard, vain and hopeless, I repeat to myself like a mantra: I live in paradise, I live in paradise, I live in paradise. Really, it helps!

Natasha, thank you very much for your sincere and positive answers. Your story is inspiring. And probably to those mothers who want to give birth to a second, third, or maybe fourth child, but doubt that he will help make the right decision.

Somewhere out there, in the background, sports, work, favorite hobbies are lost, the phone numbers of friends are still preserved ... But there are only 24 hours in a day. What is left for a woman? Is there a chance to have time to be an ideal mother, and a wonderful wife, and just a happy woman?

Many-armed many-legged

It would seem that the more children, the more worries. All children are different, everyone wants attention, everyone has their own interests, aspirations, whims. One for school, football, music, English; the other - in the garden, dancing, acting; the third - to a speech therapist, to drawing and yoga; the fourth one is a baby...

But there is also a husband who would also like to see his wife. And once there was a job that I would like to do. Somewhere in the background, sports, a favorite hobby, were lost, the numbers of friends are still preserved on the phone ... But there are only 24 hours in a day. What is left for a woman? Is there a chance to have time to be an ideal mother, and a wonderful wife, and just a happy woman?

Accurate hit gives advantage

What do we spend the lion's share of time and energy on? On doubts, torment, procrastination, search for inspiration, unloved work, attempts to establish painful relationships, attempts to re-educate unbearable children, to fight your own fears or depression, bad habits or obsessive thoughts, to resentment and dissatisfaction with your own life, and so on ...

We spend half our lives solving problems that simply would not exist if we had the necessary knowledge of human psychology. Just imagine that all this time you have freed up! So you can have time to live one more life, at least.

If you know exactly your own desires. No, not those about chocolate or a new dress, but those very subconscious roots of all aspirations that form priorities, values and outlook on life in general. Then, for example, you unmistakably choose for yourself a field of activity in which you are not only like a fish in water, but which gives you satisfaction, fills you.

If you understand how relationships are built between a man and a woman, you create these relationships for years. You choose a partner for yourself (yes, it is you who choose, and not His Majesty the case) according to your principles and views on family life. And this person is not a mystery to you - you already know for sure at the first meeting what you can expect from him and what not.

If you accurately observe the psychological characteristics of your children, you can easily determine their interests, their capabilities, their inclinations and develop them in exactly the direction in which they are talented and move at the greatest speed. And if not? We are able to inflict on children, without wanting it, great psychological trauma.

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System polymother sees the child through and through

For a mother, knowledge of system-vector psychology is the key to the effective development of all children and her own balanced state. That is what she can give them all at the same time, regardless of their number. And this is exactly what solves many of the problems associated with education at once, and gives all her children.

It's not about armored doors or home security. We are talking about that very subconscious feeling of a happy childhood: when Mom is nearby. A person who radiates an atmosphere of calm confidence, peace of mind, warmth and kindness. The feeling that you are at home where your mother is, because nothing threatens you, because next to her there is and cannot be violence - neither physical nor moral.

Children can get such a feeling only from the mother and in the case when she herself is in a balanced psychological state.

The very presence of this feeling in children is already half the success of the upbringing and development of each child. After all, it is on this basis that his natural talents develop.

And then even easier. Distinguishing the vectors of the child, that is, the features of his psyche, the mother can easily understand who is in front of her - an obedient, thorough and patient baby who should be entrusted with cleaning the nursery, or a dexterous and resourceful fidget for whom a sports corner is the most necessary thing in the house.

It is thanks to an understanding of the characteristics of the baby's psyche that an emotional child with a wild imagination (owner) goes to an acting studio, to dance or vocals. A silent, quiet and concentrated child (co) goes to music, swimming or astronomy. And a talkative and contact joker (c) goes to a school of oratory or a culinary studio, depending on his desire.

Because all this exactly corresponds to their innate properties of the psyche, that is, vectors. And because all this CAN be developed in each of them. That is why there are no disappointments in children - there are no false expectations. Moreover, when they are comfortable, when they feel a sense of security, they willingly develop - you will not have to force them, there will be no problems with behavior - tantrums, theft, resentment and stubbornness. By systematically understanding the psyche of children, you prevent the appearance of any behavioral deviations.

Over time, thanks to systemic thinking, a certain operating system is built in the mother’s head, which automatically and accurately distributes responsibilities among children.

Going to the grocery store with a mother's card and a shopping list - the most responsible and honest will do the best: a child with.

The most rational and resourceful will be able to make a schedule for the week, including all circles and an entertainment plan for the weekend: a child with.

Such a system of competent delegation of authority allows everyone to make their own contribution to strengthening the family and feel their own importance for the common cause. Such a skill creates the right direction in the development of each child. Today he does it for a family or a class, tomorrow he will be able to take place better in society.

Succeeding the main thing - you have time for everything

The main thing for a person is a full-fledged realization. Otherwise, dissatisfaction accumulates, the internal state worsens: everyone suffers from this - both children, and the spouse, and the woman herself.

However, with a full house of children, it is unrealistic to go to work with a tight schedule and office regime. Well, we define priorities, select options that allow you to maximize the properties you have set. Here, a deep systematic understanding of one's own psychological properties, which require constant and complete implementation, comes to the fore.

Part-time work, remote work, freelancing, needlework, home day care, private lessons, entrepreneurship and more. The modern world provides a lot of opportunities in this regard.

Many young mothers successfully combine work with motherhood, practicing counseling on breastfeeding, baby sleep, nutrition, massage, early development, and so on.

It is often on maternity leave that women discover their creative abilities - they begin to write a book, draw pictures, sew, knit, take a great interest in cooking, photography, and design.

The full realization of innate psychological properties brings the biochemistry of the brain into a balanced state, which is felt as satisfaction, inner balance, meaningfulness of life, fullness.

A realized woman is always in a good mood. It is difficult to piss her off, she is not a burden to household chores, she remains desirable for her beloved man, provides her children with a strong sense of security and safety. Such a woman lives with enthusiasm, inspiration, joy, generously radiating positive, kindness, warmth and tenderness.

A mother of many children feels the fullness of her realization especially acutely, because her internal state is immediately reflected multiple times - everything is manifested in children.

When a mother suffers from her own dissatisfaction, does not see the results of her work, then the children do not receive a sense of security, which means they begin to act up, sleep poorly, disobey, quarrel with each other, turn away from their parents, move out to study, lose interest in hobbies.

To this are added household chores, the implementation of which I had not even thought about before. They turn into a heavy duty, a senseless routine hard labor, as they annoy everyone and infuriate everyone.

Relations with her husband deteriorate, which further knocks the ground out from under her feet. Problems roll like a snowball, and there is no way out of the impasse. But everything could be different! If you start from the main.

Let's make our day

Anything that can be combined is worth combining!

Cooking with lessons - quite, cleaning with games - very much, jogging with a walk in the park - wonderful, delivery to kindergartens, schools, followed by a run to the store - excellent. It is best to wait for a child from music with needlework in hand (a laptop on your lap), and it’s just fine to meet your husband in a coffee shop near the garden half an hour before the time when you need to pick up the children.

A systematic understanding of priorities helps to devote time to what is really important, relegating to the background what can be postponed.

Listening to a child's story about a matinee in kindergarten is more important than answering the phone, since the constant interruptions and jerking of a baby with an anal vector turn into stubbornness, resentment and problems with the intestines.

Move the trip to the pediatrician for help because it is today that your child is warming up in physical education and he has been waiting for this for a whole week. After all, it is so important for a skin child to acquire the skills of an organizer and feel like a winner.

Children can take a walk in the yard themselves, if you and your husband want to have lunch together, because an emotional connection with a loved one is a guarantee of mutual understanding in a couple.

Once a week, you can still order pizza - but read your favorite book to your children. Steam cutlets cannot replace the education of the senses and instill a love of reading.

And yes, the older ones may well take care of the younger ones when mom needs to finish work, because then mom can play with them, and not scroll through the thought of an unfinished project.

And then it is worth remembering gratitude and reasonable systemic rewards. A child with an anal vector - praise and recognition of his skills (including dad), a skin baby - extra time or educational entertainment (maze, zoo, attractions), and so on.

The same with penalties - everything is according to the vector nature. A skinner for deceit - a restriction in space or time (deprivation of a walk, entertainment, gadgets), an anal baby - to express his mother's grief and scold his behavior at the family council. Systemic rewards and penalties are just that pinpoint hit that DOES work, which means that conclusions will be drawn, which means that this will affect behavior, which means that there is a chance that misconduct will not be repeated, but feats are just the opposite.

Parents with many children, who, as it seems, are not able to do everything, can do much more than anyone else. They just have to be psychologically savvy. They are forced to understand themselves and their partner. They must be excellent in . After all, this is the only way to write a clean copy of the happy life of your large family immediately and without errors.

The main thing is to live your desires, realize yourself, understand others, consciously build relationships, and educate children competently. Then everyone is happy. Then there are no sticks in the wheels and insoluble problems. There is no boss-tyrant, husband-goat and difficult children. And there is no psychological garbage in the head, which takes time, effort, life ...

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Mothers often ask themselves questions: how to do everything, how to properly allocate time. And also - how to make sure that there is time for a husband, and for children, and for business.

I must say right away that beautiful glossy pictures, in which a mother and a baby are sitting at the computer, all with makeup, styling and in a business suit, while the baby enthusiastically and calmly looks at the monitor, are nothing more than the author’s fantasy. Reality is different. You don't always need makeup. And not always the baby will be happy that his mother is not busy with him. But after all, we don’t need a picture, but a feeling that we did everything and were able to.

Time management for moms: features

The basic rules of classical time management are the ability to prioritize, highlight the main and secondary, determine hard and flexible tasks. But how can this be applied to a mother who wants to manage her own business and devote time to her family? How to prioritize? Which tasks will be hard and which will be flexible? What tasks include going to the movies with your husband, posting on your personal blog, and a business trip for a week?

Often mothers try to do everything at the same time and rush between priorities. They drag along with them a sense of guilt for not being efficient enough in business, spending little time with their children and abandoning their husband. Many of us have a feeling from school that we must do everything well and perfectly - “a good student, an excellent student.” All of this applied to me as well.

I am a mother of 4 boys, and also an entrepreneur and retail store manager. And all the experiences, throwing and doubts are very familiar to me. But one day the instinct of self-preservation kicked in.

I realized that I want to enjoy life, and not rush from duty to duty without raising my head. And I began to observe what and how I do, analyze and think about how I can solve problems differently.

As a result, I made my life easier. No, not easy. I don't have to sit. But the question of time is no longer “sick”, but a working one. And most importantly, I understand that I not only do a lot of things, but also get high from the processes: work, time spent with my children and husband, and I always have time for myself. All this was achieved by simply introducing a daily routine and a schedule of all activities into the life of our family.

Daily regime

I noticed that if you do not create interference intentionally, the body will intuitively return to its daily regimen that suits it. Already within ourselves we carry a system, not chaos.

Example - the very first feedings of a newborn always begin with the fact that you feed the baby on demand, as soon as he asks. But after a very short period of time, the child enters his rhythm of feeding and sleep, and he sets his own daily routine. It is in him by nature.

Even if the baby has his own regime, then adults even more so. But for daily affairs and attempts to do everything in time, we drive ourselves. It is much easier and more effective to create a schedule for yourself in which activities and rest alternate, then every day will be rhythmic and productive.

How to organize your daily routine

At my house, the whole coming week is painted on a poster that hangs on the refrigerator. My guys had a hand in the design of the schedule, so it looks very fancy, but there is a big system inside.

A poster showing the entire family timetable

1. First of all, I put the most important things on the sheet. We have a schedule of children for the week: training, clubs, classes at school and kindergarten, the start and end times of which are fixed and do not depend on us. In fact, this is our weekly planner, an offline version of the Google calendar. And when planning personal and work affairs with my husband, we start from this table.

2. I make a schedule of additional classes and training. I personally control this moment - I make sure that it is convenient, and the guys have time for games and rest. In fact, such a planner is very useful, especially when there are several children in the family. For example, I sent a ready-made table to our English tutor so that we arrange the classes in a way that is convenient for us, her three students, and herself.

3. I add important details. At the top of the schedule you see multi-colored T-shirts - this is the dress code in the garden of the youngest, every day is different. In order not to forget anything, I simply graphically designate the T-shirt of the desired color. My husband uses the same system when he is in charge of the guys wardrobe in my absence.

T-shirts - dress code in the garden of the youngest, every day is different

4. I move the schedule toGoogle calendar .

All. Now this is my field for planning. I clearly see the time when I need to be at home, who comes home from school and what time, who needs to be met, fed and helped with homework. And there are large blocks of time that I can use as I need: for work, for myself, for household chores. In these blocks, I post my meetings, sports, trips to the hairdresser, beautician and other non-weekly events.

Planner Benefits

It is clear what to do.
The whole family has a clear plan for the week, busy and free time is known in advance. The head is free.
For any questions, you can check with Google-calendar or "refrigerator". No need to remind anyone.
Forget about control, because everything is already written large and clear. The main thing is that everyone knows where the information is located about when the tutor comes or the karate training ends. It is convenient to coordinate joint affairs. My husband and I just open the calendar and immediately agree.

Interview with a mother of many children Natalia Snitkova, author of the blogs "Grafomamka" and "IMHOmama".

I am a mother and ... mother, and 4 more times mother. Yes, I have six of them: 3 sons and 3 daughters. So there is no time left to be someone else. In fact, I realized my plan, which is rooted in childhood. When I was 9 years old, I had a brother, and after 3 years - the second. It was during that period that I realized: nothing makes a woman's life as rich and meaningful as the birth of children. And even then I made a decision: I will have a lot of them.

My first child, Yura, was born when I was in my 6th year of medical school, and although I planned not to interrupt my studies, to resort to the help of my grandmothers, I took an academic leave. I returned from the academy after 4 years, being the mother of 3 wonderful babies, I completed my studies for the required year. When I was awarded the long-awaited diploma, I was pregnant again.

I am constantly in search of a balance between useful and necessary. What is more important: reading a book to a child or knocking out a carpet? What do you need more: spit with the kids or wash the windows? There are things that do not seem to be of momentary benefit, but bear fruit after years have passed: for example, children regularly see me with a book - they themselves are drawn to read; girls see that I am needleworking - they ask me to show how to crochet, embroider. Therefore, I try moderately, but to let into my life such “unhelpful” things, sometimes tearing me away from pressing worries.

And my main secret is my faith. I believe that the Lord, who gave me so many babies, will surely give me enough strength, knowledge and means to give them everything they need for every day, including care and affection. I clearly see that a day that begins with prayer is much more fruitful than a day that begins with vanity.

To be honest, I'm far from clear planning. There are so many force majeure in my life that you never know how you will start the day and how you will end it. Although, in addition to everyday activities (cooking, washing, cleaning, activities with children), I keep in mind a couple of tasks that need to be completed if I have a free minute. So, today, I went through the toy box, got rid of all the "debris and remains", took some of the annoying toys to the attic. Already good! But yesterday was a failure. The younger one was naughty - I had to give him exactly as much time as I planned to spend on cleaning the bathroom. And nothing. survived.

Honor and praise to my husband! Sometimes he gives me the opportunity to be alone: he takes the children for a walk or lets me go to a friend. But I notice that the further, the less I need it. Even a short fall of children from my field of vision instills anxiety in me and does not allow me to relax. I understand that this is a “brood hen syndrome”, from which you need to get rid of, otherwise it will be hard to let go of them who have matured.

One of the most popular questions that I, a mother of many children, regularly hear: “How do you manage to do everything, how do you cope with everything?” One feels like answering: “I don’t know, everything is done by itself,” but you begin to explain that it’s difficult with one, and when there are five of them, it’s much easier. And then they remind me of the heroine of the film "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears" Ekaterina Tikhomirova. How did she say it? "It's hard with three, and when you learn how to organize three, the number doesn't matter." You may not believe it, but family life is almost the same. Personally, it was much more difficult for me with one child than when there were two of them, then three, and so on up to five. Now I even have my own time that I spend on myself, and neither my husband nor my children are deprived of attention.

And so, what is the secret, I thought, when a thousand_I don’t remember_what time I was asked the question: “How ...?” Silently. I take and manage. In our time of technological progress, when, if desired, tap water flows even in the village, and household appliances, not to mention disposable diapers and diapers, facilitate household chores and child care.

And the secret is simple. The most difficult thing is to organize the children and teach them to immediately put their things away. They came from school, from a walk - clean clothes in the closet, dirty clothes in the laundry basket. Shake off the shoes on the porch, wipe them on the threshold and immediately put them on the shelf. A jacket on a hook, mittens in a pocket, a hat and a scarf in a sleeve or on a shelf, wet on a dryer. It is worth making efforts and patience, sometimes repeating, like a parrot, stop writing once (but in no case do it for the child from the moment when he is already quite capable of doing all these actions himself) and showing by example how, where and why. And, in the end, the child is already on the machine, when he comes home he puts everything in its place. This means that you don’t have to rake the hallway every evening and look for a hat or mitten every morning, being late and nervous.

They ate and cleared the table after themselves. Even a two-year-old child is able to put his plate in the sink and push the stool under the table. We ate, put the plates in the sink, forks and spoons in a special basket, stools under the table. Older children may well wipe the crumbs off the table and sweep under the table. The parent (yes, it is the parents, and not just the mother) can only put the dishes in the dishwasher ... But we will return to this later.

Toys are probably the hardest part. Kids love to play, but they don't like to clean up after themselves. Patience and only patience works wonders. Plus a little ingenuity: motivation for the older ones and an element of play for the younger ones. And the duty schedule, which shows on which day who is responsible for order, vacuums, wipes the floor and window sill. In the room of the older sons, I clean only during the general cleaning of the apartment, thanks to all the above methods. The younger ones more often, but walking with a vacuum cleaner and a rag after the kids have collected toys is not such a big waste of time.

In general, this is the whole secret. And the rest is a matter of technology in the literal sense of the word.

My main assistants: washing machine and dishwasher. One is loaded with linen, the other with dishes, and two processes are carried out independently without my intervention. All I have to do is put the dishes in the closet, and put the laundry in a basin and hang it out on the street - pleasant with useful, we do gymnastics in the fresh air (tilts and stretches). In the meantime, everything is being washed and washed - walk with a vacuum cleaner through four rooms, a kitchen and a hallway - 15 minutes maximum and the same with a mop. You also don’t have to spend a lot of time on cooking, because. Now there are a lot of all kinds of household appliances that turn cooking into a kind of hobby. I use a combination stove, microwave, steamer, food processor, and... flight of fancy. Children eat with pleasure. I also appreciated such a thing as a multicooker. Saved very well during pregnancy: threw it in, turned it on and you're done. But since everyone in our family loves to cook, a slow cooker is not a mandatory thing.

And now you can ask the question: “But what about the children?” And children take an active part in all household chores. It has already been said above about the older guys, who are now 12 and 10 years old, and there are also younger ones: 6 years, 3 years and 5 months, and when the older ones are at school, you need to organize everyone so that the children don’t get bored, but I don’t was like a squirrel on a wheel.

The process of cleaning together with the children is also a developing process for me. And in general, we have a specific relationship, communication is almost equal, regardless of the age of the child. Everything is interesting for children: we load the laundry into the machine, and at the same time repeat the colors, count how many socks we put in, and how many panties and what more. And independently pressing the “start” button is an honorable duty and is observed in strict order of priority. Putting dishes in the dishwasher or taking them out is also a kind of game: color, size, shape, quantity. And putting the washed forks and spoons in the box “like a mother” is such a joy for a three-year-old! While the vacuum cleaner is buzzing and the floor is being washed, the children are watching a cartoon. Everyone is happy, everyone is busy, everyone is interested. True, the youngest is still acting as an observer in a sling or on a rug with toys. While the baby is sleeping, we are preparing to eat, and at this time you can tell the children a fairy tale, sing a song together, answer questions.

But with the obligatory walk I was lucky. Living in a private home, where there is a fenced area and a safe place for children to play, allows you to safely watch the children from the window. Under the window there is a stroller with a sleeping baby, older children are playing nearby, waiting for their brothers from school, and at this time the mother can do either work or ... stroke. I love ironing while listening to my favorite music or watching a movie, but with so many kids, I try to do it while they are out for safety reasons.

And now half a day has passed, and the younger children have played, and walked, and worked out, and the house is clean. And then the elders come. And there is time for everyone to discuss his affairs one-on-one, answer questions, sort out problems, help with lessons. And until the evening there is time for a wagon and a small cart, which is spent on developing activities with the younger ones and still remains on their hobbies, because when there are a lot of children, they can entertain themselves, and not follow on the heels of their mother, languishing with boredom. After dinner, the dishes are washed by a machine, and parents watch a movie with their children, read a book or play a board game, or build something with dad, decide, play ... And mom can take a bath or read a book. At ten in the evening everyone is already asleep, and we, the parents, do not fall off our feet like draft horses, and we can completely belong to each other for a couple of hours.

I will reveal another secret. You don't have to tackle everything at once. On the eve, a list of tasks for tomorrow is compiled and, according to the list, they are performed. The same with children's activities. A list of classes for the week, and then you will not forget what we are doing today and what tomorrow. The menu should be thought out for a week and written down, it helps to make weekly purchases so that you do not suddenly break into the store, discovering that something is missing. Necessary products, such as bread and milk, are bought by children by running to the store immediately after school. And more significant - the husband, returning from work. Both the children and the husband will cope with the purchases quite well. You don't have to take everything on yourself.

And yet, dear mothers, never forget that you are also women. Take at least 15-20 minutes a day for yourself. Bath with foam, shower with balm, aroma oils, creams and so on, do not forget about small joys for the body. And dad will play with the baby calmly. Because dads are like that, they can do everything moms can do, except for one thing: breastfeeding. And in everything else, they are the same as us, the main thing is to believe in them and not to pull everything on ourselves. And then there will be no exhausting fatigue, and everything will be done as if by itself, and to the question: “How do you manage to do everything?” the first thought will be: “I don’t know, somehow…”

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