Conversation with oneself: insanity or genius? Which means if a person is talking to himself.

According to research by psychologists, it turns out that people talk to themselves about 70% of the time. The conversation is conducted with an inner voice, that is, with himself. We ask him questions, consult, ask to evaluate our actions ...

Currently, psychologists around the world argue that such a conversation is only for the benefit of man. It helps to prevent many mistakes in actions, focuses and frees us from excessive internal stress. We will understand the causes of this phenomenon. Why, nevertheless, do we sometimes talk to ourselves and what is the use of such an internal dialogue?

Reasons for talking in yourself

First

Unsure people receive from such a conversation, above all, the opportunity to concentrate. And this, in due time, gives them confidence in the correctness of the choice of their actions. It turns out that talking with yourself helps them plan and control their actions.

Second

People who have a predominantly auditory type of body language are more likely to have a conversation with themselves. They absorb information through sounds. Research scientists have shown that about 25% of people belong to this type.

Audiences can often and often talk to themselves. They better absorb information by ear. For them, verbal explanation of a particular action or process is of great importance. They listen more. Therefore, they need such a dialogue with themselves.

Third

A conversation with oneself (in other words, sounds) gives a person an emotional coloring to his thoughts. This helps him to find the right justification for his actions and actions. In silence, we do not experience such emotions. After all, sound (speech) is initially an emotional reaction of the human body, which prompts you to perform certain actions.

Fourth

Talking to himself, a person is freed from the emotions that are overwhelming him at the moment. They require discharging, going out. And in this case, this happens due to a conversation with ourselves. Thus, we get rid of the excess of emotions and significantly reduce our internal stress, otherwise it can happen.

Fifth

Conversation with oneself has a significant impact on the structure of human thinking. A person begins to think and behave differently than when there would not be this conversation with himself. The process of thinking becomes much more effective if our thoughts are spoken out loud. This has long been confirmed by psychologists in their research. It is better remembered when we say something out loud.

Sixth

Psychologists have proved that dialogue with oneself, even if one’s mentally, helps a person to avoid ill-considered actions and to better control his own sometimes impulsive behavior. Empirically, it was revealed that the number of such actions decreases sharply if a person spoke to himself before this. Control over unpredictable human behavior is also noticeably increasing. It is also proven that if you speak aloud the details of a new business, it is better remembered and mastered faster.

   What to do if you notice that you often talk to yourself?

If such a dialogue helps you make the right decisions and actions, then do not try to get rid of it. You can simply make some adjustments to this situation.

Firstly:

Try not to do it so loud as not to attract people around you. This will save you from embarrassing situations.

Secondly:

Get ready in advance when you go somewhere.

When going to the store, you can make a list of the necessary goods that you need to buy. Upon departure - calculate the time of leaving home. Think through all the details before leaving them at home. Check the apartment again. So that everything is turned off and nothing is forgotten with you from things. Thus, you partially save yourself from talking with yourself. Thoughtful preparation will also give confidence in your future actions, and you will speak less that you want not to forget or doubt something.

“Where did you go?”, “Don’t dare to hide from me, answer me, ay!” - with such phrases people often try to find any objects and things for personal use. Such statements are turned into emptiness, and not to an animate object. They help people focus on the problems that torment them at a particular moment.

Fig. Conversation with oneself: insanity or genius?

Many people like to talk to themselves at home, where no one can hear them. But some even during a walk manage to have a conversation with their inner self. From the outside, it looks, to put it mildly, inadequate. Indeed, almost all the mentally ill have a tendency to talk with themselves.

What do psychologists think about this?

Experts say that talking to yourself is a sign of genius. All great people had the habit of reasoning aloud, scolding themselves, and even leading discussions. They constantly voiced their internal monologues, expressed doubts about this or that occasion. This helped to analyze the situation more deeply and find the most optimal ways to resolve the problems that arose. As a result of this, they often generated ideas that in future humanity recognized as brilliant.

What is the use of talking to yourself?

1. Improving the effectiveness of thinking

Science has proven that thoughts spoken aloud. Scientists conducted an experiment: people who came to the supermarket for shopping were divided into two groups. Everyone was invited to compile lists of acquisitions. People from the first group read the lists, constantly saying the words out loud. The second group of people pronounced the words from the list mentally. The result of the experiment exceeded all expectations: people from the first group who read the list out loud had a more effective thought process, they quickly found everything they were looking for. Conclusion: it’s easier for people to search for something if they express their intentions out loud.

2. Structuring thoughts

When talking with themselves, people act as their own mentors, advisers, and assistants. A voice that sounds aloud takes on the responsibility to declare experiences, doubts and desires, including hidden ones. After all, everyone knows that the best solution to any problem begins with its awareness and utilization aloud. After that, it no longer seems so insurmountable to a person.

3. Training assistance

Pay attention to how children learn the world. First, they listen to their parents, then they repeat what adults have said, and thus they form their own vision of the surrounding reality. For example, a boy playing with an airplane mumbles under his breath that the aircraft will not be able to fly into the hangar, as it is too narrow. That is, the boy speaks out loud his conclusions. It is the algorithm of actions in certain situations that helps in the future to perform actions subconsciously. Therefore, all people need to periodically hear the vibration of their own voice in order to know how to use it correctly.

4. Assistance in achieving goals

The thought process, which is clothed in words spoken aloud, becomes not only more effective, but also helps. To make it easy to overcome difficulties and, make a list of your goals. Reread it aloud from time to time and discuss with yourself,. You will see that the solution will come quickly, and you will still be surprised how obvious it was!

One famous scientist once hypothesized that all geniuses are a little "crazy." Perhaps this is partly true. Remember that only those people who are in harmony with their inner self can speak with themselves boldly.

Hello dear blog readers! Imagine a simple life situation that is chronically repeated day after day, from month to month, from year to year. So...

Morning! A new day begins. The alarm rings. It's time to get up, but reluctant to get up, I still want to sleep. With difficulty, we ate by opening our eyes, we get out of bed and go to wash ourselves ... And then HE appears! Appears from nothing, no where, as if from a void. And HE will haunt us all day until the very moment of falling asleep.

It is an internal dialogue, a conversation with oneself, an uncontrolled run of thoughts that occurs exclusively in the head. Almost all thinking people have an internal dialogue. Whoever has it is bigger, stronger, more intense, and whoever has it is smaller, weaker. Lack of thoughts in the head is extremely rare. Dialogue can be about anything. The topics are quite diverse, it can be a continuation of yesterday’s scandal with a spouse, an internal dispute with a boss, discussion and commenting on news, and so on. A webinar or a radio can play in our heads, repeating the same verse from a forgotten song. In special cases, attempts are being made to solve a second-order differential equation.

Why is internal dialogue useful to us? For starters, this is a kind of mechanism for perceiving and analyzing the world around us, drawing up and discussing plans for further actions, accessing memory and storing information, and so on. Very useful thing.

On the other hand, internal dialogue can be a deterrent in making important decisions, a kind of thought-discusser at a time when you have to act very quickly. If it is necessary to focus on something important, the resulting dialogue distracts us from really important and necessary thoughts, making it difficult to focus on the main thing, creates a number of doubts. Imagine a housewife who spent the whole evening thinking about what to cook potatoes: - boiled or fried. As a result, the whole family remained hungry.

According to scientists, our brain consumes 80% of the energy available to the whole body. Most of this energy is spent on a useless mixer, taking away the body’s energy, causing a state of fatigue. In addition, the activation of the inner circle of thoughts before going to bed leads to insomnia. A person goes to bed, tries to sleep, and in his head begins a discussion of the past day, making plans for the next day, options for a scenario of a dispute with a spouse or boss and so on. There is no time for sleep. And this leads to chronic fatigue. At the highest stage of the riot of thoughts, a person begins to talk to himself, and this from the outside looks ugly.

Doctor, in my head a little man swears all the time! - So it's easy to fix! $ 10,000 - no problem! “Doctor, do you know what the little man said now?”

When else does an uncontrolled run of thoughts interfere with us? Everyone probably heard about the Subconscious. You can read about it in article 99.

The subconscious is subpersonal, a kind of internal "being" that actively participates in our lives. His task is to help us live a successful, positive, joyful life, achieve our goals, spend less energy on worries and anxieties. In addition, the subconscious mind controls our intuition, tells us what to do in a given situation, how to make the right decision when we do not have the necessary information or knowledge. But we don’t hear him, we try to chat with him, wash away the hint with a stream of all kinds of random thoughts. The necessary thought appeared and dozens of discussing, criticizing, doubting thoughts rushed at it right away, like a flock of cats in a bowl of fish. All valuable thought “died” under the yoke of an uncontrolled word mixer. Those people who know how to listen to their subconscious, that is, to hear their intuition, are more successful and happier in life than those who think for a long time, comprehend, compare, doubt. If you want to become a favorite of Life, you must learn to listen to your subconscious.

I will give you an example. Suppose you are waiting for an important email. Very important letter! Much depends on him in your fate. If you don’t get it in time, then that's it: a complete scribe multiplied by an Achtung Kaput. You sit down at a computer, connect to the Internet, start an email program and wait. And suddenly you felt the urge to play a toy. And not in simple, but in fancy full-screen, with special effects and sound. You play, an hour, two, five ... And already at the third hour of the night you remember that a very important letter should come to you. But you still have not received it, the necessary, vital information has not reached you. EVERYTHING IS LOST! But looking at the mail program, it turns out that the rescue letter arrived, arrived on time, only you did not notice it. And they did not notice because they were engaged in other unnecessary pastime. As a result, they were late and lost! This is the case with intuition: there are valuable thoughts and tips, they appear on time, but we do not notice them and do not use them. Note: there are more losers than lucky ones.

Stop the internal dialogue.

Internal dialogue - one of the many processes taking place in our minds. The complete absence of the thought process is a sign of mental inferiority. Sometimes it is vital, but sometimes it only interferes, boggles the head with all kinds of nonsense, creates doubts and all kinds of obscure conclusions. On the one hand, an internal dialogue is needed, but on the other, no. What to do? We must learn to control this process, that is, consciously, turn it off at the right time, stop the uncontrolled running of thoughts, turn off the word mixer. Fortunately, there are so many ways to do this. You just need to practice. The first time it may not work. Let's try to organize silence in the head.

1. Extrusion or replacement. The flow of chaotic, uncontrolled thoughts is replaced by repeatedly repeated, regular thoughts. It can be mantras, repeating phrases like: “I am delighted with myself” or “I can do it all”, prayers, the score is from 10 to 0, and even better from 100 to 0. The score is kept several times. As soon as we need to stop the mixer, we forcibly begin to repeat the same phrases to ourselves, as if crowding out, replacing them with the unnecessary. After a while, the word mixer shuts down. Now we “remove” the replacing thoughts and for 1 - 2 minutes the silence in the head is ensured.

2. Thinking. Here you don’t need to think anything, you just need to imagine, create a mental picture, a visual image, as a crazy thought appears in your head, and you remove it. There are many options. For example: “aquarium”. Imagine that you are sitting at the bottom of the aquarium, watching the fish, as soon as a thought appears, you put it in an air bubble and send it to the surface. Another thought came up - the same thing: in a bubble and on the surface. The main thing is not to say silently: “here I have another thought, I am sending it”, - the main thing is to present this whole process in the form of a picture, better colored. One can imagine that the head was filled with oil (concrete) and all thoughts in it were stuck. Or imagine that you took a towel and wiped all unnecessary thoughts out of your head. There was a thought - it was immediately erased. Imagine the idea in the form of a dog, as soon as it got out and barked, it was immediately pushed into the kennel. I repeat once again: all this must be presented in the form of a visual image, a mental picture. In no case do not comment!

3. Concentration. We focus on some process or external object. For example, focus on pulsating blood. Take, for example, a palm, concentrate your eyes on it and try to feel how the blood pulsates through it. You can concentrate on the tip of the nose and feel how air enters and exits, and feel all the subtleties of the process. In everyday life, we do not pay any attention to this, but here it is necessary to concentrate. The flight of thoughts stops. It is good to concentrate your attention on the flame of a candle, the flame of a bonfire or on the waves of the sea, most importantly, at this moment there is nothing to think about or indulge in philosophical reasoning.

4. Energy breathing. A very strong practice, allowing not only to stop the running of thoughts, but also to recharge with energy. Imagine that not only air surrounds us, but also some kind of energetic substance that nourishes us with energy. Inhaling the air, we also inhale this substance. We exhale normally, but imagine that we do not externally, as usual, but inside ourselves, through our body. The body, we imagine in the form of an empty container, like a hollow chocolate hare or Santa Claus, which is blown on the exhale. Energy enters with the air, but it does not exit, but remains in the body. We imagine how energy gradually enters our body, slowly and pleasantly fills all its parts and organs. Imagine how pleasantly the body is filled, stored, charged with energy. We get a boost of energy. If something hurts, we imagine and feel how air and energy pass through a sore spot, thereby purifying it. Imagine how pain is displaced by energy from the body and blown out by the air stream. Sensing all this, our internal dialogue is disconnected. Even with this practice, a trance state may occur. And trance is a separate issue ...

5. Trans states. There is no inner dialogue in a trance; there is no running of thoughts. The paradox of this practice is to go into a trance, you must turn off the internal talker. But a trance state can occur in a natural way - the subconscious mind itself will drive our body into it. You probably noticed the following situation for yourself: after a hearty lunch, sit down at the computer, start to do something, but, suddenly, you feel that your eyes are stupidly set on the monitor, your thoughts are absent, and your body is drowsy ... It's not a dream but not awake anymore - this is a trans ...

There are many other practices of stopping the running of thoughts in the head. If you know, describe them in the comments. I will be grateful!!!

I say goodbye to this, see you soon on the blog pages!

It is quite normal to have a conversation with yourself if it takes place in the format of an internal dialogue. From a psychological point of view, it is more useful to speak out loud. This contributes to better coordination, relieves stress and emotional stress. Inner voice, subconsciousness, intuition - there are many names in the inner Self. This is the part that helps to plan the day, throws up ideas on how to spend the weekend, reassures in difficult times and knows what is best for the person. Therefore, it is very important to listen to it.

Scientific approach

Scientists estimate that talking with oneself takes 70% of the time in a person’s life. This applies both to internal monologues, and spoken aloud. Most often, the inner voice breaks out during the solution of some non-standard tasks or the search for items. Scientists have come to the conclusion that such conversations are beneficial, and they conducted an experiment to test their hypothesis.

The subjects were divided into two groups, each of which needed to find a certain thing. In the first group, searches should have been carried out silently, and in the second, all thoughts should have been voiced. The result was interesting. People from the second group coped with the task much faster. The experiment proved that talking with oneself helps to better absorb and process information, accelerating brain activity.

Why talk to yourself out loud?

There are several reasons why you should start talking to yourself out loud:

• Memory stimulation. In the process of talking with himself, sensory memory awakens. Speaking the word out loud, you visualize it, because it is better remembered.
• Preservation of concentration. Works great when searching for an item. For example, you need to find the keys before leaving the house, if you say this word out loud, the brain will concentrate only on this task, removing all others from the priority. The item will be found faster.
• Stress relief. Everyone knows the state when thoughts in the head are buzzing with a swarm. It seems that all the problems of the world at the same time fell on the shoulders and there is not the slightest idea how to solve them. To relieve stress, you must definitely say what bothers you. And for this it is not necessary to look for an outsider.
• Preparing for an important conversation. When a person is about to talk about something important, he carefully selects the words. It is very useful to hear your speech out loud, this will help remove unnecessary, to hear how the speech sounds from the outside.

How and what to talk about?

There are no special rules for talking to yourself. If we are talking about solving an internal problem, then it is better to stay alone with yourself. If you need to make a pie and a person speaks out his recipe aloud, then being in the room of other people will not hinder him.

If talking with yourself is an attempt to figure out your life, then the topics may be as follows:

• self-esteem;
• relations;
• work;
• future;
• loneliness and its causes;
• conflicts with others;
• fulfillment of desires;
• anxiety and fears, etc.

Everything that bothers a person, he can speak out loud.

5 reasons to talk to yourself

1. Getting rid of fear, anxiety and panic

In films, you can often see when a person has to cross a shaky bridge located at high altitude, he says to himself: "The main thing is, do not look down." This is a great example of how talking with yourself works in stressful situations. If a person is frightened by something, he finds a solution to get rid of fear or reduce his pressure and speaks it out loud. At the same time, spoken and heard advice works better.

At the time of a panic, psychologists advise counting to 10, this can also be done aloud to switch the concentration to your voice. A Q & A conversation will also be effective. You should ask yourself to explain what exactly scares and why, what will happen, if it happens, what is the probability of this.

2. Farewell to past relationships

After parting, sometimes there is a feeling that the relationship still has something to fix. It seems that we need another final conversation that will change a lot. Before once again writing to a former partner and finding out a relationship that has already ended, it is better to say out loud what you want to tell him. Speaking arguments, you should try to be impartial and evaluate them from the outside. Are they “iron” as they appear in the head.

To survive the loss, you can say out loud what these relationships gave, to remind why they ended. It should also be said that they have exhausted themselves and have no further continuation. Be sure to remind yourself that there will be other relationships ahead in which previous experience will come in handy.

3. Planning and motivation

When there are many things to do and you need to plan them correctly, it is enough to write them down and speak them out loud. So you can understand which of them are really important and require speedy implementation, and which can be postponed.

It is also important to articulate your desires. Speaking them out loud, a person makes them more real. You can talk to yourself about what to do for their execution. Before a serious event, you should support yourself by making a motivational speech.

4. Work on self-esteem

One way to increase self-esteem is to pronounce affirmations. They are recommended to be said out loud. This is also a type of conversation with oneself, as a person convinces himself that he has certain qualities.

You can periodically praise yourself. For example, start the morning by talking with a reflection in the mirror. You should smile and say something in the style of "I am the most charming and attractive" or "today will bring me many positive emotions."

5. Splashing grudges

It is harmful to hold a grudge in oneself, but it is far from always possible to express dissatisfaction in a calm form. Therefore, psychologists sometimes recommend writing letters to offenders, but not sending them. And then you can write and. So a person can just throw a grudge on paper. Pronunciation of insults works even better. And you can do this, both referring to the offender, and explaining to yourself what specifically caused a feeling of resentment.

A conversation with oneself is not a deviation from the norm and does not indicate mental disorders. His goal is to learn to be in harmony with the inner self. The ability to listen to yourself is extremely important. And in order to hear something, you need to start talking.

“It’s like I’m writing subtitles for my life,” 37-year-old Alexandra admits. - Everything I’m going to do, I comment out loud: “Today it’s warm, I’ll put on a blue skirt”; “I'll take a couple of thousand off the card, that’s enough.” If my friend hears, it’s not scary - he’s used to it. But in a public place, people start to squint at me, and I feel stupid. "

It helps me focus.. Speaking our actions out loud, we are not at all eager for communication - so why don't we just shut up? “The need for commentary arises when the task before us requires concentration,” said psychotherapist Andrei Korneev, a specialist in somatic psychology. - In the life of each of us there was a period when we described aloud everything that we did or were going to do. Although, perhaps, we do not remember him: it happened at the age of about three years. Such speech not addressed to anyone is a natural stage of development; it helps the child to navigate in the objective world, move from spontaneous reactions to conscious actions and learn how to manage them. Then the outer speech “folds”, passes into the inner one, and we stop noticing it. ” But it can “turn around” again and sound out loud if we perform some complicated sequence of operations, for example, we assemble an electronic circuit or prepare a dish according to a new recipe. Its function is the same: it makes it easier for us to manipulate objects and helps to plan them.

Elena, 41 years old, teacher of the Norwegian language

“It was a habit for me to criticize myself out loud, or even scold me. I never thought about her and somehow involuntarily made a remark to myself in the therapist’s office. And he asked: “Who told little Lena that she was stupid?” It was like an insight: I remembered that this was how my school teacher lectured me. And I stopped talking like that - because I don’t think so, these words are not mine! ”

I pour out emotions. Exclamations not addressed can be a manifestation of strong feelings: resentment, delight. Once, Pushkin, alone, "clapped his hands and shouted" oh yes Pushkin! Aw, son of a bitch! ”- He was so pleased with his work. The remarks “even if it had carried!” The student before the exam, “so what to do with it?” Of the accountant over the quarterly report and what we say when we look after the train we were late for, they all have the same reason. “Speaking in such a situation serves as an emotional discharge and is often accompanied by an energetic gesture,” explains Andrey Korneev. “Strong is a surge of energy, and it requires some manifestation outside, so that we can get rid of excess tension.” I continue to have an internal dialogue. Sometimes we seem to look at ourselves from the outside - and evaluate, scold, read notations. “If these are monotonous statements in which the same assessments sound little depending on changing circumstances, this is a consequence of the emotional trauma we received most likely in childhood,” says Andrey Korneev. “An unresolved conflict is turning into an internal one: one part of us is in conflict with another.” The strong feeling that we experienced in the past did not find a way out (for example, we could not express anger towards our parents) and remained locked inside. And we relive it, repeating the words addressed to us once aloud.

What to do?

Separate your thoughts from strangers

Who speaks to us during such monologues? Do we really express our own thoughts and opinions or repeat what our parents, relatives or close friends once told us? “Try to remember who it was. Imagine that this person is now in front of you, - suggests Andrey Korneev. - Listen to his words. Find the answer that you can give now, as an adult, taking into account your life experience and knowledge. As a child, you might be confused or scared, did not know what to answer, or were afraid. Today you have something to say, and you will be able to protect yourself. ” This exercise helps complete the experience.

Try to speak quietly

“If pronouncing actions helps you, you don’t need to try to get rid of it,” Andrei Korneev reassures. - And if at the same time disapproving views or comments of others, who do not want to be aware of your plans, interfere, then try to avoid them. What to do for this? Speak quietly, in a whisper. This is just the rare case when the more illegible, the better. Then those around you will not suspect for a second that you are addressing them, and there will be less awkward situations. Gradually, you can switch to silent speaking, this is a matter of training. ” Take a closer look, and you will notice other people who move their lips near the store shelf with twenty kinds of cereals. But this does not bother anyone.

Prepare in advance

Make a list of products going to the store. Calculate the time going to train. Learn all exam tickets. Planning and careful preparation will save you from having to think on the go and worry out loud. Of course, there are emergency situations that are not dependent on us and which cannot be foreseen. But, hand on heart, we recognize that they rarely happen.