Conversation with yourself. Talking to yourself is a sign of insanity.

Internal dialogue has nothing to do with schizophrenia. Everyone has voices in their heads: we ourselves (our personality, character, experience) speak to ourselves, because our I consists of several parts, and the psyche is very complicated. Thinking and reflection are impossible without internal dialogue. However, it is not always, however, framed as a conversation, and it is not always that part of the remarks seems to utter the voices of other people - as a rule, relatives. A “voice in the head” can also sound like one’s own, or it can “belong” to a completely stranger: a classic of literature, a beloved singer.

From the point of view of psychology, an internal dialogue is a problem only if it is developing so actively that it begins to interfere with a person in everyday life: distracts him, confuses him from thought. But more often this silent conversation “with oneself” becomes material for analysis, a field for searching for sore spots and a testing ground for developing a rare and valuable ability to understand and support oneself.

Novel

sociologist, marketer

It is difficult for me to single out any characteristics of the inner voice: shades, timbre, intonation. I understand that this is my voice, but I hear it in a completely different way, not like the others: it is more booming, low, rude. Usually in an internal dialogue I imagine an acting role model of some situation, hidden direct speech. For example, - what would I say to one or another public (moreover, the public can be very different: from casual passers-by to clients of my company). I need to convince them, to convey my thoughts to them. Usually I also lose intonation, emotion and expression.

At the same time, there is no discussion as such: there is an internal monologue with reflections like: “What if?”. Does it ever happen that I call myself an idiot? It happens. But this is not a condemnation, but rather a cross between annoyance and a statement of fact.

If I need a third-party opinion, I change the prism: for example, I try to imagine what one of the classics of sociology would say. The sound of the voices of the classics is no different from mine: I remember exactly the logic and the “optics”. I distinguish vividly alien voices only in a dream, and they are accurately modeled by real counterparts.

Anastasia

prepress specialist

In my case, the inner voice sounds like my own. Basically, he says: “Nastya, stop it,” “Nastya, don’t be dumb” and “Nastya, you are a fool!” This voice appears infrequently: when I feel uncollected, when my own actions cause me discontent. The voice is not angry - rather, annoyed.

I have never heard in my thoughts neither my mother's, my grandmother's, nor anyone else's voice: only mine. He can scold me, but within a certain framework: without humiliation. This voice, rather, like my coach: presses the buttons that prompt me to action.

Ivan

screenwriter

What I hear in my mind is not framed as a voice, but I recognize this person by the structure of thoughts: she looks like my mother. And even more precisely: this is an “internal editor” that explains how to make mother like it. For me, as a hereditary filmmaker, this is an unflattering name, because in the Soviet years for an artist (director, writer, playwright), an editor is a dumb protege of the regime, not a very educated censorship worker, reveling in his own power. It’s unpleasant to realize that such a type in you censors thoughts and cuts off wings of creativity in all areas.

The "internal editor" gives many of his comments on the case. However, the question is the purpose of this “case”. To summarize, he says: "Be like everyone and do not lean out." He feeds the inner coward. “You need to be an excellent student”, because it eliminates the problems. Everyone likes it. He makes it difficult to understand what I want myself, whispers that comfort is good, and the rest is later. This editor does not really allow me to be an adult in the good sense of the word. Not in the sense of dullness and lack of game space, but in the sense of maturity of a person.

I hear an inner voice, mainly in situations that remind me of childhood, or when a direct manifestation of the creative component and imagination is necessary. Sometimes I succumb to the "editor", and sometimes not. The most important thing is to recognize his intervention in time. Because it is well camouflaged, hiding behind pseudologic conclusions, which actually do not make sense. If I recognized him, I’m trying to understand what the problem is, what I want and where the truth really is. When this voice, for example, interferes with my work, I try to stop and go into the space of “complete emptiness”, starting from the beginning. The difficulty lies in the fact that the "editor" can be difficult to distinguish from simple common sense. To do this, you need to listen to intuition, move away from the meaning of words and concepts. Often this helps.

Irina

translator

My internal dialogue is framed as the voices of my grandmother and girlfriend Masha. These are people whom I considered close and important: I lived with my grandmother as a child, and Masha was there at a difficult time for me. Grandmother’s voice says that I have crooked hands and that I’m poor. And Masha’s voice repeats different things: that I got in touch with the wrong people again, I’m leading the wrong lifestyle and not doing what I need. They both always blame me. At the same time, voices appear at different times: when something does not work out for me - my grandmother “says”, and when everything works out for me and I feel good - Masha.

I react to the appearance of these voices aggressively: I try to silence them, I mentally argue with them. I tell them in return that I know better what and how to do with my life. Most often I get to argue with my inner voice. But if not, I feel guilty and I feel bad.

Kira

prose editor

Mentally, sometimes I hear my mother’s voice, which condemns me and devalues \u200b\u200bmy achievements, doubts me. This voice is always dissatisfied with me and says: “Why are you! Are you out of your mind? Better do profitable business: you have to earn. ” Or: "You must live like everyone else." Or: "You will not succeed: you are nobody." It appears if I have to take a bold step or take a risk. In such situations, the inner voice seems to be trying to manipulate (“mom is upset”) to incline me to the safest and most unremarkable course of action. In order for him to be satisfied, I must be imperceptible, diligent, and everyone should like it.

I also hear my own voice: he calls me not by name, but by the nickname that my friends came up with. Usually he sounds a little annoyed, but friendly, and says: “So. Stop it, "Well, what are you, baby" or "That's it, come on." It encourages me to concentrate or take action.

Ilya Shabshin

consultant psychologist, leading specialist of the Psychological Center on Volkhonka

This whole collection speaks of what psychologists know well: most of us have very strong internal criticism. We communicate with ourselves mainly in the language of negativity and rude words, using the whip method, and we have practically no self-support skills.

In Roman's commentary, I liked the technique, which I would even call psychotechnics: “If I need a third-party opinion, I try to imagine what one of the classics of sociology would say.” This technique can be used by people of different professions. In Eastern practices, there is even the concept of an “inner teacher” - a deep wise inner knowledge that can be addressed when it is difficult for you. A professional usually has one or another school or authority figures. Imagine one of them and ask what he would say or do - this is a productive approach.

A clear illustration of the general topic is Anastasia’s comment. A voice that sounds like your own and says: “Nastya, you are a fool! Do not be dumb. Stop it, ”is, of course, according to Eric Burn, the Criticizing Parent. It’s especially bad that a voice appears when it feels “unassembled” if its own actions cause dissatisfaction, that is, when, in theory, the person just needs to be supported. Instead, the voice trampled into the ground ... And although Anastasia writes that he acts without humiliation, this is a little comfort. Maybe, as a “trainer," he presses the wrong buttons, and it is not worth kicking, reproaching, or insulting to incite yourself to action? But, I repeat, such an interaction with oneself is, unfortunately, typical.

You can induce yourself to action by first removing fears, saying to yourself: “Nastya, everything is in order. It's okay, we’ll figure it out now. ” Or: "Here, look: it turned out well." "Well done, you can do it!" “And remember how then you did a great job?” This method is suitable for any person who is inclined to criticize himself.

In the text of Ivan, the last paragraph is important: the psychological algorithm for the struggle with the internal critic is described here. Point One: “Recognize Intervention.” Such a problem often arises: something negative is masked, hiding behind useful statements, penetrates a person’s soul and brings his own order there. Next, the analyst turns on, trying to understand what the problem is. According to Eric Burn, this is the adult part of the psyche, rational. Ivan even has authorial techniques: “to go out into the space of complete emptiness”, “to listen to intuition”, “to move away from the meaning of words and understand everything.” Well done! On the basis of general rules and a common understanding of what is happening, you need to find your approach to what is happening. As a psychologist, I applaud Ivan: he learned to speak well with himself. Well, what he is fighting with is a classic: the internal editor is the same critic.

“At school, we are taught to extract square roots and conduct chemical reactions, but they don’t teach us to communicate normally with ourselves anywhere”

Ivan has one more interesting observation: “One must not lean out and be an excellent student”. Kira notes the same thing. Her inner voice also says that she should be invisible and everyone should like. But this voice introduces its own alternative logic, because you can either be the best or not stick out. However, such statements are not taken from reality: all these are internal programs, psychological attitudes from various sources.

The setting “do not lean out” (like most others) is taken from upbringing: in childhood and adolescence, a person draws conclusions about how to live, gives himself instructions based on what he hears from parents, educators, and teachers.

In this regard, Irina’s example looks sad. Close and important people - a grandmother and a friend - tell her: "You have crooked hands, and you are unlucky," "you live wrong." There is a vicious circle: the grandmother condemns her when something does not work, and her friend - when everything is fine. Total criticism! Neither when it is good nor when it is bad, there is no support and comfort. Always minus, always negative: either you are unintelligible, or something else is wrong with you.

But Irina is great, she behaves like a fighter: she makes the voices fall silent or argues with them. So it is necessary to act: the power of the critic, whoever he is, must be weakened. Irina says that more often than not she gets an argument, - by this phrase it can be assumed that the opponent is strong. And in this regard, I would suggest that she try other ways: firstly (since she hears it like a voice), imagine that it comes from the radio, and she turns the volume knob towards the minimum, so that the voice fades, it gets worse is heard. Then, probably, his power will weaken, and it will become easier to argue with him - or even just to brush him aside. After all, such an internal struggle creates quite a lot of tension. Moreover, Irina writes at the end that she feels guilty if she cannot argue.

Negative ideas penetrate deeply into our psyche in the early stages of its development, and it is especially easy in childhood, when they come from large authoritative figures, which, in fact, cannot be argued with. The child is small, and around him are the huge, important, strong masters of this world - adults, on whom his life depends. There is no arguing here.

In adolescence, we also solve complex problems: we want to show ourselves and others that you are already an adult, not a small one, although in reality, at heart, you understand that this is not entirely true. Many teenagers become vulnerable, although they look prickly in appearance. At this time, statements about yourself, about your appearance, about who you are and what you are, fall into the soul and later become dissatisfied with inner voices that scold and criticize. We talk to ourselves so badly, so disgustingly, as we would never talk to other people. You will never say anything like that to a friend - and in your head your voices towards you can easily allow yourself that.

To correct them, first of all, you need to realize: “Not always what sounds in my head is sensible thoughts. There may be opinions and judgments, simply learned once. They don’t help me, it’s not useful to me, and their advice doesn’t lead to anything good. ” We need to learn how to recognize them and deal with them: refute, muffle or otherwise remove the inner critic from us, replacing him with an internal friend who provides support, especially when it is bad or difficult.

At school, we are taught to extract square roots and conduct chemical reactions, but they don’t teach us to communicate normally with ourselves anywhere. Instead of self-criticism, you need to cultivate healthy self-support in yourself. Of course, you do not need to draw holiness nimbus around your own head. When it’s difficult, you need to be able to encourage yourself, support, praise, remind yourself of successes, achievements and strengths. Do not humiliate yourself as a person. Say to yourself: “In a specific area, at a particular moment, I can make a mistake. But this has nothing to do with my human dignity. My dignity, my positive attitude towards myself as a person is an unshakable foundation. And mistakes are normal and even good: I will learn a lesson from them, I will develop and move on. ”

It is quite normal to have a conversation with yourself if it takes place in the format of an internal dialogue. From a psychological point of view, it is more useful to speak out loud. This contributes to better coordination, relieves stress and emotional stress. Inner voice, subconsciousness, intuition - there are many names in the inner Self. This is the part that helps to plan the day, throws up ideas on how to spend the weekend, reassures in difficult times and knows what is best for the person. Therefore, it is very important to listen to it.

Scientific approach

Scientists estimate that talking with oneself takes 70% of the time in a person’s life. This applies both to internal monologues, and spoken aloud. Most often, the inner voice breaks out during the solution of some non-standard tasks or the search for items. Scientists have come to the conclusion that such conversations are beneficial, and they conducted an experiment to test their hypothesis.

The subjects were divided into two groups, each of which needed to find a certain thing. In the first group, searches should have been carried out silently, and in the second, all thoughts should have been voiced. The result was interesting. People from the second group coped with the task much faster. The experiment proved that talking with oneself helps to better absorb and process information, accelerating brain activity.

Why talk to yourself out loud?

There are several reasons why you should start talking to yourself out loud:

Memory stimulation. In the process of talking with himself, sensory memory awakens. Speaking the word out loud, you visualize it, because it is better remembered.
Preservation of concentration. Works great when searching for an item. For example, you need to find the keys before leaving the house, if you say this word out loud, the brain will concentrate only on this task, removing all others from the priority. The item will be found faster.
Stress relief. Everyone knows the state when thoughts in the head are buzzing with a swarm. It seems that all the problems of the world at the same time fell on the shoulders and there is not the slightest idea how to solve them. To relieve stress, you must definitely say what bothers you. And for this it is not necessary to look for an outsider.
Preparing for an important conversation. When a person is about to talk about something important, he carefully selects the words. It is very useful to hear your speech out loud, this will help remove unnecessary, to hear how the speech sounds from the outside.

How and what to talk about?

There are no special rules for talking to yourself. If we are talking about solving an internal problem, then it is better to stay alone with yourself. If you need to make a pie and a person speaks out his recipe aloud, then being in the room of other people will not hinder him.

If talking with yourself is an attempt to figure out your life, then the topics may be as follows:

self-esteem;
relations;
work;
future;
loneliness and its causes;
conflicts with others;
fulfillment of desires;
anxiety and fears, etc.

Everything that bothers a person, he can speak out loud.

5 reasons to talk to yourself

1. Getting rid of fear, anxiety and panic

In films, you can often see when a person has to cross a shaky bridge located at high altitude, he says to himself: "The main thing is, do not look down." This is a great example of how talking with yourself works in stressful situations. If a person is frightened by something, he finds a solution to get rid of fear or reduce his pressure and speaks it out loud. At the same time, spoken and heard advice works better.

At the time of a panic, psychologists advise counting to 10, this can also be done aloud to switch the concentration to your voice. A Q & A conversation will also be effective. You should ask yourself to explain what exactly scares and why, what will happen, if it happens, what is the probability of this.

2. Farewell to past relationships

After parting, sometimes there is a feeling that the relationship still has something to fix. It seems that we need another final conversation that will change a lot. Before once again writing to a former partner and finding out a relationship that has already ended, it is better to say out loud what you want to tell him. Speaking arguments, you should try to be impartial and evaluate them from the outside. Are they “iron” as they appear in the head.

To survive the loss, you can say out loud what these relationships gave, to remind why they ended. It should also be said that they have exhausted themselves and have no further continuation. Be sure to remind yourself that there will be other relationships ahead in which previous experience will come in handy.

3. Planning and motivation

When there are many things to do and you need to plan them correctly, it is enough to write them down and speak them out loud. So you can understand which of them are really important and require speedy implementation, and which can be postponed.

It is also important to articulate your desires. Speaking them out loud, a person makes them more real. You can talk to yourself about what to do for their execution. Before a serious event, you should support yourself by making a motivational speech.

4. Work on self-esteem

One way to increase self-esteem is to pronounce affirmations. They are recommended to be said out loud. This is also a type of conversation with oneself, as a person convinces himself that he has certain qualities.

You can periodically praise yourself. For example, start the morning by talking with a reflection in the mirror. You should smile and say something in the style of "I am the most charming and attractive" or "today will bring me many positive emotions."

5. Splashing grudges

It is harmful to hold a grudge in oneself, but it is far from always possible to express dissatisfaction in a calm form. Therefore, psychologists sometimes recommend writing letters to offenders, but not sending them. And then you can write and. So a person can just throw a grudge on paper. Pronunciation of insults works even better. And you can do this, both referring to the offender, and explaining to yourself what specifically caused a feeling of resentment.

A conversation with oneself is not a deviation from the norm and does not indicate mental disorders. His goal is to learn to be in harmony with the inner self. The ability to listen to yourself is extremely important. And in order to hear something, you need to start talking.

Many probably have a colleague who gets up and says as if to himself: “I’m going to eat” or “It's time to go home”. For others, this information does not carry any value, so why are absolutely normal people commenting out loud on their actions? The Village asked about this psychiatrist and city dweller, who sometimes talks to himself.

Timur Enaliev

psychiatrist, psychotherapist, narcologist

The human mind is constantly in a stream of thoughts. Information - for the most part completely useless - is becoming more and more, our mind is overloaded. A significant part of live verbal communication is stolen by social networks - this is perhaps why there are more and more people who speak to themselves. This is a kind of obsessive amulet, so as not to forget how to speak. Joke.

Seriously, the spoken word has a special power. It is a vibration. It is a pity, many people treat words superficially. The way a person speaks is to some extent more important than what he says. People are very focused on form, everyone has to choose the right, “right” words to be understood. However, to make you feel, it is enough to be in a relatively relaxed and friendly mood, voice your thoughts, and not use templates and blanks, which makes our communication fresh and formal.

No matter how strange a person looks from the side, commenting aloud on his actions, voicing intentions - this is, rather, a defensive one. This is a protection from feelings of loneliness, self-doubt, a kind of self-reinforcement and reinforcement. More often than not, this is not realized, and therefore does not hide.

And a little about the other side of the phenomenon - a condition well known in psychiatry. With obsessive-compulsive disorder, quite diverse in manifestations, a person, figuratively speaking, becomes a hostage to his thoughts. He is painfully worried, and not in his power to resist the utterance of aloud certain words or phrases. Fear and fears are so strong that they provoke the performance of various protective rituals, including verbal ones.

With personality disharmony (psychopathy), there are cases of uncontrolled negative speech. And finally, the deepest and most inaccessible is the psychotic level. A person in such states may be in dialogue with hallucinations.

Julia Kalinina

talking to herself

This is called egocentric speech - that is, speech addressed to oneself. I have it at times. When a mess begins in the head from a large number of simultaneous activities, or fatigue has accumulated, or you need to concentrate very much on the details, I pronounce my actions out loud so that I sort of control myself. She drew attention to her several years ago when she began to live alone - that is, in a situation where, apart from me, no one makes sounds in the apartment. Personally, egocentric speech helps me a lot: the feeling that you are not the only one doing something. As if two people control each other: me and me. For example, today I filled out a tax return, there are a bunch of numbers in which I do not understand anything. I spoke out every number aloud so as not to get confused.

Illustration: Nastya Yarovaya

Even when I taught psychology along with the work of a psychologist, many students asked me: "And if I speak to myself (am) - am I crazy?"

I thought that, probably, many people, realizing that they are talking to themselves, are afraid of this fact.

Where do they come from, these words that are heard in our head and which we only hear?

This is actually our way of thinking.

And, speaking about the internal speech, it is impossible not to mention the brilliant psychologist Lev Semenovich Vygotsky, who "lived" in science for only 10 years, but what !!!

In the West, Pavlov and ... Vygotsky are still remembered and revered.

Vygotsky for his short life (he died of tuberculosis at 36) and his stellar stellar contribution to science is called the Mozart of Psychology. And, as usual, the Soviet Government "did not approve" the activities of Vygotsky, subsequently banning his work.

So, according to Vygotsky:

1. Children, having learned to speak, talk to themselves during games. You probably noticed how the baby out loud tells himself different stories that illustrate his game?

2. This is the preparatory stage for the child to learn to express his thoughts in a qualitative manner, because later on he “translates” his thinking “inward” - this is how his inner voice or inner dialogue is formed.

Studies by Simon McCarthy-Jones from Durham University (UK) just revealed that communication with themselves in adults is built in the form of dialogue.

3. Vygotsky believed that in the process of internalization (translation of what is from the outside to the inside), human speech, becoming an internal dialogue, becomes very short, condensed compared to ordinary, but does not lose in quality.

For example, when I hear a mournful cat meow outside the window (which causes conflicting feelings in me), it is unlikely that I mentally say the whole phrase: “Again this nasty cat with its voice cutting my ears!”, I most likely say to myself just: "Cat!" with indescribable aloud intonations.

Studies by psychologist Russell Hurlbert of the University of Nevada (USA) have confirmed Vygotsky’s hypothesis about the minimized nature of sentences that we pronounce to ourselves.

4. Vygotsky also suggested that if internal speech comes from external, then both of these “speeches” should be “generated” by the same areas of the brain.

With the help of MRI, the connection between the internal speech and the left lower frontal gyrus (or Broca's area) was monitored, which is also responsible for our ability to speak aloud.

It is noted that autistic people often practically do not use internal speech to plan their own actions. And those people who have had a damaged linguistic region of the brain as a result of an injury or illness experience difficulties not only with speech in general, but also with self-awareness.

So, the famous neuroanatomist Jill Taylor notes that after a stroke she suffered, she has problems with self-awareness.

But the inner speech, in addition to all the useful things that I talked about, has a "dark side".

Inner speech reinforces our anxiety and anxiety, because we unconsciously “pronounce” and “pronounce” those thoughts that do not contribute to the “pacification” of emotions.
Sometimes many people “hear” “alien” voices in their heads, and this scares them. There is a theory that assumes that “alien” voices are our own, just in this way the brain “encrypts” our thoughts, which for some reason are not acceptable to us. Sometimes - this is a consequence of a mental illness, sometimes not.

The fact that “alien” voices are “our own” was clarified through an experiment in which it was noticed that a person “hearing” “alien” voices strains the muscles of his articulatory apparatus (anatomical and physiological system of organs, including the larynx, vocal cords, tongue, soft and hard palate, teeth of the upper and lower jaw, lips, nasopharynx) just as he does, hearing his own voice.

Sometimes “alien” voices are our thoughts, but not so rare - the “inner alien voice” is the result of memories of traumatic events that are “stuck” in the unconscious.

Parental beliefs like “You must ...” may also “sound” in your head, which is also often not good, because they limit us in our actions.

Despite its “dark side”, the inner speech does not make us crazy, and when we hear a dispute in our head, as if two people are arguing, it is most likely that our “inner” parts are conflicting, trying to come to something.

And in this inner speech there may be a clue that will help solve some problems, with the right approach, of course.

Hello dear blog readers! Imagine a simple life situation that is chronically repeated day after day, from month to month, from year to year. So...

Morning! A new day begins. The alarm rings. It's time to get up, but reluctant to get up, I still want to sleep. With difficulty, we ate by opening our eyes, we get out of bed and go to wash ourselves ... And then HE appears! Appears from nothing, no where, as if from a void. And HE will haunt us all day until the very moment of falling asleep.

It is an internal dialogue, a conversation with oneself, an uncontrolled run of thoughts that occurs exclusively in the head. Almost all thinking people have an internal dialogue. Whoever has it is bigger, stronger, more intense, and whoever has it is smaller, weaker. Lack of thoughts in the head is extremely rare. Dialogue can be about anything. The topics are quite diverse, it can be a continuation of yesterday’s scandal with a spouse, an internal dispute with a boss, discussion and commenting on news, and so on. A webinar or a radio can play in our heads, repeating the same verse from a forgotten song. In special cases, attempts are being made to solve a second-order differential equation.

Why is internal dialogue useful to us? For starters, this is a kind of mechanism for perceiving and analyzing the world around us, drawing up and discussing plans for further actions, accessing memory and storing information, and so on. Very useful thing.

On the other hand, internal dialogue can be a deterrent in making important decisions, a kind of thought-discusser at a time when you have to act very quickly. If it is necessary to focus on something important, the resulting dialogue distracts us from really important and necessary thoughts, making it difficult to focus on the main thing, creates a number of doubts. Imagine a housewife who spent the whole evening thinking about what to cook potatoes: - boiled or fried. As a result, the whole family remained hungry.

According to scientists, our brain consumes 80% of the energy available to the whole body. Most of this energy is spent on a useless mixer, taking away the body’s energy, causing a state of fatigue. In addition, the activation of the inner circle of thoughts before going to bed leads to insomnia. A person goes to bed, tries to sleep, and in his head begins a discussion of the past day, making plans for the next day, scenarios of a dispute with a spouse or boss and so on. There is no time for sleep. And this leads to chronic fatigue. At the highest stage of the riot of thoughts, a person begins to talk to himself, and this from the outside looks ugly.

Doctor, in my head a little man swears all the time! - So it's easy to fix! $ 10,000 - no problem! “Doctor, do you know what the little man said now?”

When else does an uncontrolled run of thoughts interfere with us? Everyone probably heard about the Subconscious. You can read about it in article 99.

The subconscious is subpersonal, a kind of internal "being" that actively participates in our lives. His task is to help us live a successful, positive, joyful life, achieve our goals, spend less energy on feelings and anxieties. In addition, the subconscious mind controls our intuition, tells us what to do in a given situation, how to make the right decision when we do not have the necessary information or knowledge. But we don’t hear him, we try to chat with him, wash away the hint with a stream of all kinds of random thoughts. The necessary thought appeared and dozens of discussing, criticizing, doubting thoughts immediately rush at it, like a flock of cats in a bowl of fish. All valuable thought “died” under the yoke of an uncontrolled word mixer. Those people who know how to listen to their subconscious, that is, to hear their intuition, are more successful and happier in life than those who think for a long time, comprehend, compare, doubt. If you want to become a favorite of Life, you must learn to listen to your subconscious.

I will give you an example. Suppose you are waiting for an important email. Very important letter! Much depends on him in your fate. If you don’t get it in time, then that's it: a complete scribe multiplied by an Achtung Kaput. You sit down at a computer, connect to the Internet, start an email program and wait. And suddenly you felt the urge to play a toy. And not in simple, but in fancy full-screen, with special effects and sound. You play, an hour, two, five ... And already at the third hour of the night you remember that a very important letter should come to you. But you still have not received it, the necessary, vital information has not reached you. EVERYTHING IS LOST! But looking at the mail program, it turns out that the rescue letter arrived, arrived on time, only you did not notice it. And they did not notice because they were engaged in other unnecessary pastime. As a result, they were late and lost! This is the case with intuition: there are valuable thoughts and tips, they appear on time, but we do not notice them and do not use them. Note: there are more losers than lucky ones.

Stop the internal dialogue.

Internal dialogue - one of the many processes taking place in our minds. The complete absence of the thought process is a sign of mental inferiority. Sometimes it is vital, but sometimes it only interferes, boggles the head with all kinds of nonsense, creates doubts and all kinds of obscure conclusions. On the one hand, an internal dialogue is needed, but on the other, no. What to do? We must learn to control this process, that is, consciously, turn it off at the right time, stop the uncontrolled running of thoughts, turn off the word mixer. Fortunately, there are so many ways to do this. You just need to practice. The first time it may not work. Let's try to organize silence in the head.

1. Extrusion or replacement. The flow of chaotic, uncontrolled thoughts is replaced by repeatedly repeated, regular thoughts. It can be mantras, repeating phrases like: “I am delighted with myself” or “I can do it all”, prayers, the score is from 10 to 0, and even better from 100 to 0. The score is kept several times. As soon as we need to stop the mixer, we forcibly begin to repeat the same phrases to ourselves, as if crowding out, replacing them with the unnecessary. After a while, the word mixer shuts down. Now we “remove” the replacing thoughts and for 1 - 2 minutes the silence in the head is ensured.

2. Thinking. Here you don’t need to think anything, you just need to imagine, create a mental picture, a visual image, as a crazy thought appears in your head, and you remove it. There are many options. For example: “aquarium”. Imagine that you are sitting at the bottom of the aquarium, watching the fish, as soon as a thought appears, you put it in an air bubble and send it to the surface. Another thought came up - the same thing: in a bubble and on the surface. The main thing is not to say silently: “here I have another thought, I am sending it”, - the main thing is to present this whole process in the form of a picture, better colored. One can imagine that the head was filled with oil (concrete) and all thoughts in it were stuck. Or imagine that you took a towel and wiped all unnecessary thoughts out of your head. There was a thought - it was immediately erased. Imagine the idea in the form of a dog, as soon as it got out and barked, it was immediately pushed into the kennel. I repeat once again: all this must be presented in the form of a visual image, a mental picture. In no case do not comment!

3. Concentration. We focus on some process or external object. For example, focus on pulsating blood. Take, for example, a palm, concentrate your eyes on it and try to feel how the blood pulsates through it. You can concentrate on the tip of the nose and feel how air enters and exits, and feel all the subtleties of the process. In everyday life, we do not pay any attention to this, but here it is necessary to concentrate. The running of thoughts at the same time stops. It is good to concentrate your attention on the flame of a candle, the flame of a bonfire or on the waves of the sea, most importantly, at this moment there is nothing to think about or indulge in philosophical reasoning.

4. Energy breathing. A very strong practice, allowing not only to stop the running of thoughts, but also to recharge with energy. Imagine that not only air surrounds us, but also some kind of energetic substance that nourishes us with energy. Inhaling the air, we also inhale this substance. We exhale normally, but imagine that we do not externally, as usual, but inside ourselves, through our body. The body, we imagine in the form of an empty container, like a hollow chocolate hare or Santa Claus, which is blown on the exhale. Energy enters with the air, but it does not exit, but remains in the body. We imagine how energy gradually enters our body, slowly and pleasantly fills all its parts and organs. Imagine how pleasantly the body is filled, stored, charged with energy. We get a boost of energy. If something hurts, we imagine and feel how air and energy pass through a sore spot, thereby purifying it. Imagine how pain is displaced by energy from the body and blown out by the air stream. Sensing all this, our internal dialogue is disconnected. Even with this practice, a trance state may occur. And trance is a separate issue ...

5. Trans states. There is no inner dialogue in a trance; there is no running of thoughts. The paradox of this practice is to go into a trance, you must turn off the internal talker. But a trance state can occur in a natural way - the subconscious mind itself will drive our body into it. You probably noticed this situation for yourself: after a hearty lunch, sit down at the computer, start to do something, but, suddenly, you feel that your eyes are stupidly set on the monitor, your thoughts are absent, and your body is drowsy ... This is not a dream, but not awake anymore - this is a trans ...

There are many other practices of stopping the running of thoughts in the head. If you know, describe them in the comments. I will be grateful!!!

I say goodbye to this, see you soon on the blog pages!