Signs of psychological isolation. Unsociality unsociable

Statistics say that psychological isolation - The problem is almost 63% of the modern population of the earth. Closedness can be either from birth, or one that is formed at a certain age (during childhood and adolescence, a little less often in adulthood). Discovering in a child signs of isolation, you need to immediately take measures to solve it, since the child is very flexible, and changes occur easily. Whereas working with an adult will require a lot of effort. Due to the fact that there are habits, foundations and routines of life.

Usually the child copies the behavior of the parents. If parents are afraid of this world, then the child will behave with high probability as well. Of course, the fear of parents may be in a different form than that of a child. Say, the pope may have aggression (i.e. protecting his interests through aggression), and the child may have a form of isolation. But here is also copying the behavior. But not in form, but in content. Dad pushes other people's interests and puts his first place, and the child does the same. Below I will explain how this is connected.

Introverted people are defined by Carl Gustav Jung as introverts. But fortunately, these are not characteristics laid down by genes, but just superficial personality programs. Style of behavior.

So what are the signs of psychological isolation or who are these introverts?

Introverts are people (or rather, their psychological type), focused on their inner world, their feelings, emotions. They create their own world (albeit not quite real), in which they dream of living. It is because of this property that introversion is replaced by rather uncomplicated actions with more open behavior, more on that below.

The main signs of isolation:

— Indecision (for example, at school age, enclosed children are afraid to raise their hands in the classroom, go to the board to answer, speak or come up to ask something first);

— Difficulty finding a common language with other people, with society (most often this is just the subjective opinion of a closed person; he is sure that he does not know how to communicate, that because of any small mistake he will be laughed at or he will not be perceived by society);

— Hypersensitivity to criticism and condemnations, fear of general criticism, condemnation (to hear criticism addressed to you is the same as surviving a catastrophe of a global level);

— Narrow circle of acquaintances; unwillingness to expand this circle, make new acquaintances and acquaintances;

- Reluctance and / or fear of being in the spotlight, at the center of praise and congratulations;

- pronounced shynessshyness;

— Excessive seriousnesspassivity (from the outside, it may also seem like excessive thoughtfulness, reverie, but in fact the reason for this condition is psychological isolation);

— Irresponsibility. The lack of desire to be the initiator of something quite large-scale, significant;

— Redness tendency for any reason. And the fear of other physiological manifestations. Sweat, choke, fart, cough.

External signs

There are also a number of external features that cause closed state in humans:

- You may notice that most often reserved people keep their hands in their pockets. In the psychology of gestures - this means a desire to protect oneself from the whole world, distrust of everyone and everything except well-known friends or acquaintances;

- The head is slightly lowered - self-doubt, not faith in its attractiveness and strength, desire to remain unnoticed by the “gray mouse”. Confident people always walk with their heads held high, their shoulders straightened and their eyes full of determination;

- The gaze is downcast or goes somewhere under the feet. During the conversation, it is impossible not to notice that such people seem to be afraid to meet their eyes, they very rarely look directly into the interlocutor’s eyes, which is also a sign of their insecurity and fear of society.

But these signs showing isolation can also work in reverse order. For example, if a person is tired of the state of isolation, then it is enough for him to force himself to walk with his head held high, his shoulders straightened, look at the world with a confident look, and take an even, firm step. At first, a feeling of discomfort will embrace, but a new style of behavior will help a person become more courageous, sociable and open to others. This of course will not remove the problem (since the psyche will remain the same), but it will help to move it for a while. Then everything will return in its own way.

Yes, you can also develop communication skills, learn to control yourself, go to acting courses for example. But the problem will remain so - as it lies not at the level of communication but at the level of values. So, each time it will be necessary to fight with its inner essence.

Reasons for closure

It may seem that the reason for the isolation is transmitted from parents with genes. But if you look carefully, you will see that many sociable parents have closed children, and vice versa. The reason for isolation in 90% of cases is an excessive concentration on their goals.

Yes, it happens that something happens to the child and he decides that it is better to stay away from the world. But the child is growing up and already understands that he can already stand up for himself, but the behavior remains. This means that this adult is beneficial to be in this state (or easier, since you do not need to change anything, and learn new things).

Let's look at a few examples so that you yourself can see the difference in thoughts of a closed person and an open one.

— Closed man goes on stage to perform. All he thinks about is how I can not be dishonored, how I can not forget the words, and that if I suddenly choke, my voice will be lost.

+ Open the person thinks: How to give the people around them the maximum benefit, how to swing the room, how to hook those who are sitting in the back rows.

Notice the difference? No? Then some more examples.

— Closed man wants to meet a girl. He comes to the one she likes and in his head there will be such thoughts: How would I not freeze stupidity, how would I not be dishonored, but what if she sends me.

+ Open a man approaches a girl he likes. Thoughts in his head: How to convey to her that she is cute, how to make a conversation comfortable and pleasant for her.

Not caught yet? Then again.

— Closed Comes to a party full of people and thinks: I need to behave more relaxed, I need to talk with someone, but what if I look like an idol.

+ Open man: What a funny guy, you need to go find out who he is, about here I see my friend wondering how he got here.

Think you caught it? Let's have a control one, and I'll explain what I'm trying to show.

— Closed a person in conversation thinks: how would I look relaxed, and how often do I look at him, I feel uncomfortable standing so close to him.

+ Open a person usually thinks in a conversation like this: the thought that he says is incomprehensible to me - I’ll clarify, she speaks so quickly, she is excited - but why ?, he now said an interesting turn - how does he manage to talk so hard.

Explanation from Oleg:

Closure treatment

For starters, this process cannot be called treatment. Since isolation is not a disease, but a style of behavior and value. As you can already understand from my audio explanation this is a paradigm: I / Me and the World / They paradigm.

It is necessary to work with the paradigm. No acting training will help, as they only provide skills, but do not change the approach. Ask yourself questions (they will highlight your lifestyle):

If a dog runs up to you, wags its tail, do you give it a little of its warmth by stroking it?
Do you often say nice words to people when you feel it?
Are you interested in the people around you, their goals, tasks, or just what bothers you?
How attentive to the behavior of others, notice the slightest changes in their clothes, behavior?
Do you see the beauty / lack of beauty of the people around them, their emotions, their images?
Can you remember who does what he is fond of, and what are his needs now?
How often after a conversation can you describe what a person was dressed in, in what mood, how he felt?

Oleg's explanation:

Practical steps

What I described in my explanation is an idea from the inside out. As soon as you stop looking at yourself and start looking at the needs of others, tectonic changes will begin. It is futile to try to technically solve the fear of dating girls, or the fear of public speaking. Until there is a skill to give. Nothing can change. It is not as difficult as it seems, it is not nuclear physics, but it will require efforts from you.

Your life is already filled with people, events. Begin to do actions not from a position to do good for yourself, but to make others. Start as athletes with a small weight, gradually increasing it. Even going to the store can be mini-training.

You can act in several areas:

Area of \u200b\u200bthought, attention
Virtual communication area
Real area of \u200b\u200bcommunication
Action area

Explanation from Oleg:

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Hello dear blog readers! Today we’ll talk about those people who have become self-absorbed and have directed all their attention to their inner world without risking to open up outside. They are called differently, introverts, schizoids, or simply - a closed person.

Characteristic

Closeness has such signs as inability to establish not only close relationships, but in general, contact with others. If someone pays attention and turns to such a person - this will cause him a lot of tension, anxiety and sometimes even fear. If these are innate character traits symbolizing closeness, then he does not know how to establish attachment and is next to another person, to receive his support and attention. Because there is a subconscious fear that his personality will be swallowed up and destroyed, and he will cease to exist as separate and unique.

If he acquired during his life, undergoing a series of disappointments or betrayals or becoming a participant in a traumatic situation, he will simply be afraid to open up to the world again. Avoiding relationships - he will avoid pain. Because there is an illusion that it becomes easier to live this way. But the psychology of man is such that he is a social being and simply needs closeness and communication. I recommend to read the article.

In communication with introverts and schizoids, you will be able to track that you rarely look in the eye, afraid to “face the gaze”. After all, this threatens that they will have to experience some feelings that, for various reasons, do not want to feel. For example, out of inability to handle them, or out of reluctance to feel them again. And sometimes, so that you do not notice what they currently have to worry about.

When you try to speak sincerely and “heart to heart”, you run the risk of stumbling upon a wall of intellectualization. After all, it helps not to feel very much, as a result of which the conversation does not cause interest and desire to continue it further. Inhibition is another sign that helps to answer the question: "how to recognize a closed person?" Yes, it is retardation, because the inner world is so enthralling that it is not always possible to switch quickly, and most often you do not want to. In the company, he will be isolated, somewhere nearby, watching the rest, as if "looking closely" at them.

Causes of occurrence

Remember, I told you that there are different types of temperament? If not, take a look . So, a child is born with a certain type, usually it is a phlegmatic or melancholic. He’s just since childhood much more interesting with himself, his inner world carries away much more than the external, so do not sound the alarm and try to change it.
Why is a person becoming closed? Yes, because in adolescence I did not cope with the task of development due to conflict situations or misunderstandings with peers. As a result, having experienced a lot of feelings and not finding support, I decided to become inconspicuous so that everything would not happen again. Shame literally paralyzes in attempts to behave at ease in the company of strangers.
If parents do not pay due attention and care in childhood, the child, without feeling support, can become a deviant, or vice versa, closes in on himself, since adults ignore his problems, he decides that others will not be needed. What does the word "deviant" mean, you can see the article.
Negative birth experience in an aggressive family where every movement is worthless and punishable. Everything that the child does not do is not like it. Over time, every attempt to stand out and manifest will be accompanied by guilt, shame, horror, fear and other feelings. This usually happens in families where one of the parents, more often the father has an alcohol addiction and every time he drinks, becomes violent.
As I said at the beginning, a person often becomes closed due to a traumatic situation. For example, if a husband cheated on or betrayed a girlfriend, the psyche may not be able to withstand the strain, and for the sake of preserving his personality, create such a protective mechanism by directing his attention deeper into himself. Such a person may well deceive himself, believing that there simply is no longer any need for others. In fact, this speaks of pain in him, which hides behind indifference and pomp. It is much easier to devalue the significance of those around than to admit that I began to shun them out of fear and a sense of our vulnerability.

If in your environment there is a close one who has such a closed character due to the type of temperament, do not put pressure on him. Do not create unnecessary stress by forcing you to go to a noisy company, trying to introduce someone and so on. With these actions, which look violent for him, you will only increase the resistance and the desire to quickly hide even deeper so as not to get out.

2.Do not hold on to emotions

This over time will lead not only to various diseases, but also complicate communication with others. Learn to pause and notice why you do not like someone or why you are angry at him and do not want to cross.

Awareness of the root cause will help in the future to get rid of the accumulated negative and establish contact, and, importantly, the perception of other people. They noticed that, for example, feeling lonely, you envied a happy colleague, and did not understand, why did she annoy you so much?

3. give yourself a chance

How to stop being closed after betrayal of a loved one? Yes, just give yourself a chance to live a full life, sometimes it is important to be able to let go of resentment and disappointment, although painful, they are useful because they give you the opportunity to reevaluate your life, realize yourself, your resources and limitations. And it is very important to take a step towards development, however difficult it may be, but to feel even negative is much better than insensibility.

Believe me, because in insensibility you deprive yourself and joy, happiness, pleasure ... And this over time will lead to deep depression, which often ends in suicide. But how to deal with depression,.

4. Comfort Zone

If you feel that you have become not as sociable as before, try to get out of your comfort zone, and still through the strength go to the company, to parties, where there will be many intersections. Over time, your tension will begin to weaken with each acquaintance, because everything we do turns into a skill. And in order to learn how to discover the talent of a companionable personality, I recommend reading.

5. Self-assessment

And do not forget to work on your self-esteem, because self-doubt and self-confidence often prevents you from taking the risk and taking the first step when meeting a girl you like or talking to your boss about a promotion. By learning to accept yourself as you are, by becoming acquainted with yourself from the beginning, being aware of actions, reactions, and character traits, it will be much easier for you to defend your interests, communicate freely, and enjoy it.

Conclusion

Closed people lose enough pleasure and joy in their lives, they have fewer discoveries and the feeling that they are significant and needed, so look around, not all people are terrible, looking closer, suddenly you will find interest in them and realize that you can trust again. And for today, take care of yourself and loved ones!

Closure is a reluctance or inability to communicate. Closed people avoid society, in a collective they behave aloof, do not share their impressions or opinions. Closure, the reasons for which are considered in the article, can become a serious problem both in career growth and in the pleasure of life. To learn how to overcome this condition, you first need to find out what are the reasons for the isolation of a person?

Closedness in communication, according to psychologists, lies in:

Psychological characteristics and personality traits;
The current emotional state of a person;
Needs to have personal space;
Children's psychotrauma;
Mental disabilities;
Lack of self-love.

Considering the isolation, the causes of this condition, we will not talk about mental abnormalities. The article will focus on mentally healthy people, but overly immersed in people, and such more than 90%

Main reasons

When does withdrawal occur? The reasons most often are:

Complicated relationship with parents. The problem can have roots in early childhood, if the child was not given enough attention and love. It is believed that something that comes from childhood, most often remains with a person until the end of his life's journey. But this is not entirely true, and below I will explain why.
Complexes. They are diverse and numerous, like leaves on trees. One may care about appearance, another - slurred speech, third - poverty, fourth - social status. Unemployed, single, no children, no car - all this can provoke isolation in communication .
Excessive shyness. Again arises from insecurity.
Vulnerability, hypersensitivity. Many such people constantly keep their attention on their person, like a vacuum cleaner collecting other people's opinions - doesn’t anyone think badly of them.
Fear of communication. Silence, isolation can be the result of negative experiences in the past, when a person was ridiculed or ignored. This is called a trauma.
Banal inability to communicate, lack of skill. What to say, how to answer, what questions to ask.
or other fears, and this is a banal disbelief in your strengths and in the fact that you can cope with difficulties.
Personal experiences. If a person is upset with something or is preoccupied with problems, then he does not have time to talk.
Physical malaise, fatigue. Everything is clear here. After a nervous and intense daily shift, such fatigue overcomes that not only talk, sometimes I do not want to breathe.

It happens that the problem of shyness of a person manifests itself in a certain circle, while with others he is cheerful and sociable. Then this means that the company in which the person behaves too restrained is unpleasant to him or does not meet his standards of behavior.

In each case, the cause of isolation can be its own, special.

Unconscious reaction

It seems that isolation is not just a character trait, but a learned unconscious reaction. Avoiding people is an irrational decision that stretches from childhood. Something happened, because of which the child decided to avoid situations where he will communicate with other people. Maybe someone scolded him, maybe someone attacked him. The child grew up, but the reaction to avoid people remained. Even physically strong people who are successful in business, having a good job, a home and a family, can be afraid of those around them. This fear does not lend itself to rational arguments ... But this is just an illusion. Children's reactions and events (psychotrauma) easily and quickly go away.

Let's think together whether childhood injuries can actually affect adult behavior, and here are some examples:

When a mother beats a boy in childhood, does it really attract that a rag will grow out of him (after all, even a woman can offend him)?
And if the child described himself in fright, does this mean that a coward will grow up?
And theft in childhood entails the fact that he will steal in adulthood?
If a child cries when he is hungry, then he will not be able to resist his momentary desires as an adult?

My explanation:

Let’s figure out what is the difference between an open and closed person?

An open person when talking, he is all concentrated on the interlocutor, he is interested in what is happening to him. Closed all over me as I look.
A sociable person gladly enters a party focused on the girls / guys who are there, on friends with whom he had not seen for a long time, in an atmosphere of fun. The closed one is focused on himself. But do not I look stupid, and do not I stand like an idol? But how can I speak and not seem stupid?
Sociable when meeting a girl focused on her. How to convey emotion to her, how to convey her warmth to her. How to create a pleasant conversation. The closed one is focused on himself. How would they not send me away, how would I take her phone from her, how would I like her?

- You have changed, Alyosha. Gray hair is nothing. You used to be like a house where all doors and windows are open, but now this house is boarded up tightly.

V. Azhayev. Far from Moscow

Closure as a quality of personality - a tendency to block one’s mind, feelings and mind from outside influence, to be disconnected from communication, to evade interaction with others .

The word “isolation” in the abstract meaning was introduced into the Russian dictionary by critic V.G. Belinsky. In relation to the human character, it received a specific metaphorical reflection by I.S. Turgenev in the "Diary of an Extra Man": "... I'm generally not stupid; sometimes thoughts come to my mind, quite funny, not quite ordinary; but since I am an extra person and with a lock inside, then it’s terrible for me to express my thought, especially since I know in advance that I will express it very badly. It sometimes even seems strange to me how people say it, and it's so simple, free ... What a zeal, think. That is, to confess to say, and with me, despite my lockoften scratched his tongue; but I really spoke the words only in my youth, and in more mature summers almost every time I managed to break myself. I’ll say, in an undertone, “But we’d better keep quiet for a bit,” and calm down. In silence, we are all much more pleased ... "

Closure can become a conscious choice of a life path that meets the natural manifestations of human nature. Many introverts, by their character, simply do not like the public crush and hustle, do not want to be public, in plain sight and in public. They find a comfortable, quiet haven in their inner world. They are not bored alone with themselves. You cannot blame them for weakness, insecurity, or fear. Such people simply do not need an environment that steals their precious time in empty talk. A vivid example of this is Isaac Newton, locked "to the castle" for everyone. He had no friends. What kind of communication should we talk about if the scientist forgot to sleep and eat? During work, Newton was able to completely disconnect from the life around him. They say that one day he was found in the kitchen in front of a pot of boiling water, where the clock was boiling, while Newton himself was intently examining the egg clamped in his hand. From the side, the great scientist looked self-contained. In fact, behind his isolation was an incredible concentration of thought on the object under study. Richard Westfall, Newton’s best biography expert, wrote: “The more I do it, the more Newton moves away from me. I was fortunate at different times to be acquainted with many brilliant people whose intellectual superiority I do not hesitate to recognize. But so far I have not met anyone with whom I could not measure myself - one can always say: I am equal to his half, or his third, or quarter, but some fraction will always come out. My research on Newton finally convinced me: to measure someone with him is useless. For me, he became an absolute Other, one of a tiny handful of higher geniuses who gave meaning to the concept of human intelligence; a person irreducible to the criteria by which we evaluate our own kind. "

Closure is a defensive line of the human psyche from corrupting influences of the outside world. As a rule, a secluded person is hard to converge with people, does not get along in a team, is incredulous, extremely selective in friendship and friendship, pessimistic and gloomy. A person is locked up by a number of reasons: fear of rejection, misunderstanding or ridiculed, fear of condemnation, previous derogatory remarks addressed to him, low self-esteem, inability or unwillingness to look at the situation that has arisen optimistically, in a new way. Often a person shows isolation in order to be with himself or to protect himself from the harmful effects of the outside world. It happens that a person is burned by betrayal, treason, hangs a "barn lock" on the door of "Openness". Forgetting forgiveness, he cultivates resentment and rancor in himself. In contrast to non-communicativeness, which boils down to a lack of disposition toward communication, to the formation of emotional connections, both in one's group and beyond, isolation can also be manifested in other areas of life besides communication: in words, actions, in the way of life as a whole.

Closure is a shutter from the outside world. Outwardly, a person can demonstrate sociability, but at the same time keep the interlocutor at a distance. As he does not seek to reduce the distance, he constantly runs into "anti-tank hedgehogs" of verbal and non-verbal signals of remoteness, coldness and inaccessibility. The entrance to the private space of a closed person is securely closed. About others to infinity, but not a word about themselves. A kind of, I must say, openness. You will talk with such a person for a couple of hours, and then you will be surprised to realize that you do not know anything about him. One girl writes that Rearlier, isolation prevented her from living: “And now I accept myself for who I am. Now I am a pretty sociable person, but still live in my own world, in which I do not let anyone in. In general, I feel more comfortable alone than in a company, even if they are my closest friends. Only really, sometimes you have to face very personal questions. I’m not lying, I just correctly answer that I don’t intend to tell something, and I don’t want to talk about it. My friends used to take offense at me because of this, they took it to my personal account, but over time they got used to it. ”

From the point of view of the development of the mind, men have a more closed, static nature than women. The male mind says, "I know how to live." It is difficult for a man to redirect according to his fate, to reach his mind. It is no accident that the vast majority of audiences engaged in learning how to live correctly are women. Possessing high sensitivity, sparkling mobility and maneuverability of the mind, they eagerly listen to advice, easily make changes in life, and quickly make decisions. One good lecture is capable of overturning a woman’s consciousness, radically changing her life position. With a man, such a number will not work. He needs time to carefully understand everything and move his psyche from a familiar place. The man is reluctant to listen to other people's opinions. Closing himself in his inner world, he feels comfortable in alliance with his straightforward, ossified mind. Therefore, women should take into account such a feature of the male psyche as a certain isolation of the mind and not blame their husbands for a delayed reaction to the challenges of life. Under no circumstances should one mock a man, demanding that he quickly overcome the isolation of his mind and begin to act. It is necessary without inspiration to inspire the husband to a different understanding of things. Moreover, this must be done delicately and tactfully, so that he has the impression that he himself came to this thought. The finale of the action, when he says: "Yes, I knew this for a long time."

Manifested personality traits are directly related to diseases. So, isolation leads to chronic inflammatory processes in the kidneys. Internal stiffness and tension caused by isolation causes spasms of the vessels of the kidneys. As a result, the adrenal glands are overexcited. In addition, closure is the cause of increased intracranial pressure. In other words, it “presents” a person with hypertension.

Peter Kovalev 2013

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Before we find out what needs to be done in order to become talkative, there are several reasons why some people are not very talkative, that is, they are uncommunicative.

Shyness

Firstly, there is such a thing as shyness. If a person is shy, it means that it is difficult for him to get to know each other, to speak with new people because of the lack of self-confidence. Another possible reason for the taciturnity of some people is that they sometimes have nothing to say - either they have little knowledge of anything, or they have a poor vocabulary. In addition to these two cases, it may be that a person is smart, well-read, and not shy, but he does not find the topic of conversation easily enough, is not flexible enough in communication. For all these reasons, it becomes difficult to communicate with people.

Let us consider in more detail the situation when a person is not very talkative, he does not have confidence in communication. If there is a high self-confidence - easy communication comes out by itself. Those who are confident that he is good, capable, and worthy of being received, listened to, loved, and communicated with him easily communicate. Insecure people, as a rule, have doubts about this. They are tormented by thoughts: “Here I come, start talking, will I like it?”, “Will they accept me?”, “Maybe I will say some kind of stupidity?” And so on. And more often than not, instead of finding answers to these questions, they prefer not to communicate. Unsociability, isolation sometimes becomes the norm.

To overcome insecurity in communication, I recommend taking a few steps. The first of them - try to adequately evaluate yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror, and make sure, in the end, that among the seven billion people that exist on the planet, there is someone better than you, someone worse than you, someone prettier, someone not really. All these people with you have approximately the same talents and abilities. In order to create the right self-esteem for yourself and to show yourself that you are worth something, reflect on your skills, find your strengths, recall your achievements lately, and make sure that you are really no worse than others.

At the second stage, in order to overcome insecurity in communication and become more talkative, you need to find a desire to make contact with people. If it’s really difficult for you to communicate, find the opportunity to explain to yourself why you need it. Motivate yourself. Remember that if you communicate more often, with each new time it will be easier for you to do this, you will become more sociable. If you are afraid of communication, afraid that you will be poorly appreciated, then understand that until you go through the fear of evaluation by other people, you will not feel like a worthy person. In order to learn to speak, you need to talk. And to become talkative - you need to talk. Therefore, even when you are not confident in yourself, you should take a step towards the conversation and train in communication.

The third important point that should be considered to overcome insecurity and shyness is to remember that appetite comes with eating. It is necessary to motivate yourself, repeat to yourself that it will be easier next, it will be more interesting further, more will be obtained more. But in order for this to happen, you need to take the first steps. These thoughts will help you motivate yourself if it’s still difficult for you to communicate because of self-doubt.

Nothing to say

Now let's look at a situation where some people are taciturn because they have nothing to say. A similar situation suggests that they think little, read little, think little, watch little. They live a more reactive life. That is, it itself somehow rolls, and a person is simply included in this life.

In order to become talkative in such a situation, it is very important to include mental processes. There are many ways to do this. For example, when you watch a movie, try to think and understand what was interesting for you in this film. This can be done in writing, or you can simply evaluate, retell, or just think for yourself.

The second technique is called retelling. When you read something, or heard, try to retell it. Retelling gives us the opportunity to find the right words, train our brain and learn to express our thoughts well and correctly.

The third important exercise in developing communication skills is to think about what have you learned for yourself in some work, in some poem, film, and so on, think about how this can be useful to you. This exercise trains our brain in such a way that we begin to analyze information, try to understand it, gain insight into the essence and, possibly, even find the hidden meaning.

Finally, the fourth exercise that will help your development of sociability is simply read poetry and prose aloud. This will give you the opportunity to hear yourself from the outside and adjust your speech, if necessary. Performing these exercises regularly, you will suddenly see over time that you have learned to reflect, express your thoughts, convey your point of view, and so on.

So, we examined a series of exercises and tips that can help you become talkative in two cases: when a person is not confident in himself, and when he is not used to thinking, reasoning, or is not able to freely express his thoughts. However, confidence in communication is gained not only by the person who can tell or retell something, but the one who knows how to freely operate on various interesting topics. In order to learn how to do this, it is important not only to broaden one's horizons, but also to acquire the ability to think quickly and switch quickly.

In order to be able to speak well, I recommend not only reading a lot, thinking a lot, but also listening to the interlocutor in order to turn on in time and support any point of view, any conversation.

To learn how to quickly switch, you should practice the ability to quickly express your point of view on various topics. There is a game that can help develop this skill. The game is called "The Most Intelligent", maybe you saw it on TV. In this game, the child is quickly asked questions, and he quickly tries to navigate and answer each of the questions. You can play the same game with one of your friends: let him ask some questions on different topics, and you should quickly answer them. Regular training will give you the opportunity to quickly switch, freely operate with thoughts, as a result of which you will begin to speak very well and lively.