How hard it is for me. What to do when it’s very bad at heart and you want to cry

In life, not every day is a holiday; sometimes pessimistic thoughts, dullness, and sadness embrace. In this state, a person says "I feel bad." In fact, it can be a mental disorder caused by certain other people's behavior, events, constant setbacks or overwork. It is very difficult to independently overcome heartache, which gradually develops into depression. What to do? How to feel like a happy person again?

Causes of Severe Mental Condition

Such events can lead a person out of himself:

• Family conflict . Very often, a spouse after a quarrel feels inaudible, unloved, unnecessary to anyone.
• Conflict at work . It’s impossible for everyone to enjoy, no matter how professional you are, that is why conflicts often arise at work. They may be associated with superiors or staff.
• Serious illness . When a person is sick, he weakens, loses his tone of life, so it seems that everything has stopped. It is especially hard for people who know about their deadly pathology. They understand that their life is coming to an end, experiencing heavy mental anguish.
• An unstable love relationship.   Quite often, a person’s mental state is undermined by jealousy and love. Because of them, many different emotions appear - a feeling of euphoria, tears of sadness, happiness, which even lead to.

Transformed reasons

Often everything accumulates in life. One problem pulls another. For example, a conflict at work has disturbed your peace of mind, you come home, seek support from your own person, but he does not understand and quarrels with you even more. When everything accumulates, it is very difficult to survive, because a person drops his arms, he appears, the whole world around him becomes indifferent. It is especially scary when a person does not want to fight with anything, this indicates his critical condition.

The transformed cause always has first the root cause, which causes other problems. Therefore, in this situation, you must first overcome the root cause.

What to do with heartache?

Gather relatives and friends

Fill you with positive, return the spark of life will only help relatives, loved ones. You can’t lock yourself in, otherwise it will be even worse. You need to call those who always cheer and help you. Of course, it’s not easy to tune in to fun, but for some time you can still get rid of troubles. Your meeting evening should be emotionally charged with fun events. You can go to a disco, a club, a karaoke bar, a cinema, a bowling alley. A noisy company will help you cheer up. The main thing this evening is to forget about all your problems, try not to remember why you feel bad.

Avoid being alone

A person is especially vulnerable when he remains with his problem. In this case, he begins to analyze his life, lose the situation several times, think about how to do otherwise. As a rule, a lonely person "nibbles" himself, blames all troubles. Some, on the contrary, are looking for the guilty, they make a plan for revenge, which can be implemented in the state of passion.

If you are left alone, do something: turn on loud music, get out, do exercises, but in no case be sad.

Sign up for the gym

It has long been proven that any sport is a great emotional discharge. In the morning, with the help of charging, you can cheer up, fill up with strength. Before going to bed, you can go for a run, so you will lose negative emotions.

A punching bag helps a lot. Are you angry? Too much has accumulated? With every new blow get rid of negativity, resentment, envy,.

But after a fitness training, you will feel fit, gain confidence that will help overcome any emotional setbacks. You will have thoughts: "Maybe not everything is so bad, there is still a way out of the situation."

Correct your mistake

Sometimes it torments those who have committed some rash act. Here you need to remove the "stone" from the soul, it is he who often becomes the cause of experiences. Most likely, it’s not bad for you, but simply “tormented by conscience”. In some situations, to make it easier you need to admit your sin. Of course, other problems may appear, but you will not lie to yourself.

Effective Remedies for Sadness and Anxiety

It is quite simple to arrange a holiday for yourself, and immediately the spleen will pass. Perhaps all the problems have accumulated due to the fact that you are not resting, constantly working. And in this mode, living is simply impossible. Everything should be in moderation and rest, and work. A girl can go to a SPA-salon, a solarium, make a beautiful manicure, grow eyelashes, cut her hair or go shopping. For men, the best vacation is watching football, fishing, meeting with friends, sauna, bathhouse.

Uplifting Products

In order for articles to be happy, serotonin must be produced in the brain. For these purposes, it is recommended to eat:

• Banana.
• Dark chocolate.
• Orange.
• Cheese.
• Beef liver.
• Soy.

You can drink coffee, strong tea with lemon.

Remember!No matter how difficult the situation in life is, one should not give up. "Heaviness in the soul" is a barrier that prevents you from continuing to live, you must overcome it and start all over again. You can’t give in to the problems that have arisen, otherwise you will never achieve success in your personal life, work, you will not be able to change your life for the better.

Unfortunately, it is very difficult to get rid of a protracted depression, especially since it negatively affects one's well-being and leads to various malfunctions in the body. Learn in life to treat everything differently, be optimistic, always believe only in the best. Scientists have already proven how important it can completely change lives. Believe only in the bad? Therefore, the problems do not leave you. Tell yourself that everything will be fine, and it will certainly happen!

In the morning I got up and started doing business. Rather, I had only such thoughts - "do business." As soon as I got down to one thing, the desire disappeared. I was not upset and went on to do something else. Just started on you too - here, too, desire disappeared.

Then I thought a little. What kind of condition is this and why does it arise? But he thought only superficially. Without thinking to the point, he again moved to another case, which also immediately died out.

Something tormented me ... my soul was somehow not very. Although I did not see any obvious reasons for this condition. Before this state, everything was fine.

It was as if there was one emptiness in me. It seemed to me that at such moments you can compare yourself with a robot - no emotions, nothing. As if everything had stopped.

As you guessed, I managed to find the answer to the question “What is this state and why does it arise?”, And I returned to a state completely opposite to this.

You are most likely to be surprised, but the reason was simple. And she decided very easily.

It was all a matter of choice.

When we make a choice in our life, we are as if paving our way, at the end of which there is a wall (dead end, uncertainty ... here you can choose different words). It doesn't matter which way this path goes. They made a choice - they pushed the wall some distance forward. Great choice - great distance. Small - small.

I had many plans, but I did not know what to take. I just didn’t make a choice.   So he reached the end where the wall stood.

When you reach the wall, there is no place to turn around, it limits you in movements and thoughts. You can do little. You understand that it is necessary to go forward, and I would like very much, but something does not work out. You go ahead - but you can’t move. And until you make a choice and push the wall forward, you will stand still. And just from this it is hard on the soul.

That day I remembered a sheet of paper and a pen. I sat down and started writing absolutely everything related to my situation. I did not get tangible results. Then I just completely relaxed (body and head) and began to draw. To draw is not something concrete, but that the hand itself draws without even thinking about it. When I finished crawling a pen on paper, it seemed that I had been doing this for several hours. Looking at the watch, I was surprised to find that no more than one hour had passed.

In the end, I felt a surge of strength. These forces helped me make a choice. After that, everything went like clockwork, so easy and simple that it was breathtaking. Inspiration returned, desire to create and act. It is impossible to express such a state in words, to say “it was just super!” - to say nothing.

When you feel something similar, stop. Stop doing something and don’t think about anything. Relax and just make a choice. Decide where to go next. And only when you with all your soul and body agree with your choice, you will feel the strength and all that I felt. And what to do next - you yourself will already know.

Our life is a roulette that we spin every day. And not always a lucky number falls on it. There are days, and even weeks and months, when it seems that everything is going wrong. What to do when bad at heart?

Firstly, one must understand that such moments happen in everyone’s life. There are no absolutely happy people. Sometimes even a small minor nuisance can unbalance. Moreover, in our difficult century with its global and simply vital problems. Therefore, try not to pay attention to at least all sorts of small troubles. They are not worth it to focus on them.

Secondly, if the black streak in your life has dragged on, then do not become discouraged. Even if it’s very lousy at heart, you should find the reason for everything that happens. Analyze the circumstances and find out why you feel so bad. You can write out all the troubles and problems on the sheet, as well as something that does not allow you to live in peace. Looking through this list, you need to look for ways to solve problems. If you sit back, the situation may never change for the better. We must remember that we ourselves are the creators of our destiny. A lot depends on how much we want to change our lives and what we are doing for this.

When the soul is lousy, they give up. But, having gathered all his will into a fist, it is necessary to radically change the situation. Find out what the problem is. If these are financial difficulties, then you can try to solve them. You are not satisfied with the work and the payment of your work? Try to find another job. No need to sit in one place and complain about life. If you do not have enough qualifications, engage in self-improvement. Go to study or sign up for continuing education courses. This will open up additional opportunities for you, including material ones. A good specialist has the right to demand a decent payment for his activities. Without changing jobs, you can find additional income that you can combine with the main one. There are a lot of options. The main thing is to take the initiative.

First of all, ask yourself the question "What to do when it is bad at heart?". This will be the first step to solving the problem. Review your social circle. Perhaps it's all about the people you spend time with. Make new acquaintances. Chat with a lot of people. Among them there are surely those who will infect you with their indefatigable energy and make you move forward.
After reviewing the current situation, look around. There may be people in a more distressed position near you. Then your problems will seem insignificant to you. people as you can. This will distract from your own problems for a while. But will not solve them.

Knowing the answer to the question "What to do when it is bad at heart?", You can get rid of this painful feeling. One of the reasons for this condition may be elementary fatigue. Remember the last time you were on vacation or just relaxing. Go to a place where you can relax from all the problems. Turn off the phones so that you are not disturbed. You can visit relatives and friends whom you have not seen for a long time. Having returned home with new strength and energy, you will solve all the accumulated problems that prevented you from living peacefully. Maybe they do not seem so serious.

A good remedy for prolonged depression and the question "What to do when it is bad in the soul?" may turn out to be a shopping trip. Please yourself with a new thing. And it doesn’t matter what it will be. The main thing is that the purchased item gives you pleasure.

Bad mood and despondency happens in everyone. It is necessary not to delay this state for a long time. Get together and solve your problems. It will be better if there is a good friend or close person who will lend a helping hand at the right time.

Today we will analyze a topic such as “Heaviness on the soul”. Many complain that they can not get rid of this unpleasant feeling. We will consider the origin of this feeling, its various types and ways out of this unpleasant state.

First of all, let's translate this abstract expression into a more concrete channel. How does this feeling manifest? It manifests itself as an unclear sense of anxiety somewhere in the chest. There is a feeling that a weak electric current is being released inside. “The heart trembles.” A very unpleasant feeling, it is not surprising that people want to get rid of it. So, heaviness in the soul is a feeling of anxiety.

In what cases does anxiety arise?

It occurs when some unsolved problem hangs over us, when we feel some kind of trouble is approaching, when we need to fix something, and when we are in some kind of suspended state and the unknown presses on us.

What unites these situations?

First of all, they are united by the need to find a solution and the need for immediate action. A sense of anxiety motivates us to act and try to avoid some negative consequences of inaction.

Thus, one must understand that “heaviness in the soul” is not a disease, but a symptom. Our feelings stimulate us to act before it is too late. Thus, it would be wise to fight not with feelings of anxiety, but with the situation that caused her.

I will give an example from my experience. One acquaintance of mine, a man in his late forties, who complained of a feeling of anxiety in the wording "heaviness in the soul for several months." After I began to question him about the events of his life that preceded the appearance of anxiety, it turned out that before they arose, he had a great fight with his son. During these few months, they never reconciled (why - a separate issue), but he did not connect his emotional state with the situation that preceded it. For some reason, my friend did not want to connect these two events. In the course of work, we sorted out the reasons for the quarrel and this man wished to make peace with his son. Soon he did this and the burden on his soul passed.

In this example, the person subconsciously felt that reconciliation was necessary, but his resentment prevented him from doing this. However, he did not want to connect the situation and his condition, trying to get out of the internal conflict (resentment and a desire to make peace).

Thus, the heaviness in the soul indicates a certain unresolved life situation, which, however, may not be realized. Based on the foregoing, work with anxiety should consist in clarifying the circumstances preceding its appearance. This allows you to identify the “impulse to action”, which causes a feeling of heaviness in the soul.

I note that a person is not always able to do this on his own, as false ideas of a person about what drives him can interfere with this.

Resolution of the situation.

It is good when the situation can be resolved easily, but it happens that it is too difficult or impossible to resolve. This happens when the resolution of the situation does not depend on us, but on other people, or other circumstances beyond our control. Unfortunately, it is not always possible for our senses to explain that we are powerless in something.

What to do in this situation?

Everything is simple. Feelings require action from us, which means that this action must be ensured. If we ourselves cannot cope with the situation, perhaps other people can cope with it. Need to ask for help from people. Requesting help is also an action that will make you feel a little calmer. In addition, it is likely that help will really resolve the situation.

Unfortunately, there are situations that cannot be resolved either by you or other people. In such cases, a person needs moral support from other people.

In such circumstances, distraction from difficulties can help.

For example, in the case of the loss of a significant loved one, in addition to other negative trends, a sense of anxiety can be observed. You won’t do anything with such a loss, so distraction can help in such a situation. Perhaps some may help. But this is another, much more complicated topic, on which we will not dwell in detail now.

What should not be done?

Many people prefer to deal with anxiety using various chemicals, such as alcohol, sedatives, drugs, etc. It is important to understand that they are not able to help overcome anxiety, but can only slow down our nervous system. Thus, this can only make a person more inhibited, but not calmer. In addition, these funds have a number of side effects, for example, they can cause problems with sleep, which will interfere with psychological recovery. Therefore, you should never drink alcohol and sedatives to feel better at heart. This can only trigger new insoluble situations that will cause additional alarm, which in turn forces an increase in the dose. Thus, a person can fall into a vicious cycle.

On this we will end today. I wish you only lightness in your soul. Good luck!

Sometimes it happens that it is very bad at heart and, absolutely, I do not want to do anything.

When a person feels bad at heart, he wants to sleep in the morning and not wake up, he wants to hide from everyone with a blanket and plunge, somewhere far into sleep.

It happens badly in the soul and desire disappears, motivation disappears, people disappoint, friends betray, love leaves.

How to live in such life situations and circumstances? What to do? Have a glass of wine or whiskey? But does it make sense? Tomorrow you will wake up, and you will have not only a sick soul, but also a sick head. Maybe then go to the kitchen and eat something tasty? Well, eat a piece of chocolate cake and be happy for 10 minutes, so what's next? Then the same longing and despondency.

The bodily gratification, which is an illusion of happiness and joy, will not help a person; a person needs only real ways to improve his state of mind in order to continue to live in moderation and give joy to his loved ones.

What to do when bad at heart?

Of course, in the very first seconds or minutes of trouble, a person wants to be sad, to shed tears by the window and close in his room.

There is nothing wrong or unnatural in this, be sad, cry for 20-30 minutes.

While you are sad, try to include your favorite song for 3-4 minutes, which can enhance your mood and enable you to psychologically get together.

The main thing is that the song would not be sad and depressive in the style of “Black Metal”, because such musical genres will drive you into the deepest gloom.

The author of this article, when he is very ill, prefers to listen to the song: Linkin Park - Breaking the habit   . The song, in its rhythm and content, helps to get on its feet and go to its cherished goal.

After you listen to music, go and wash, and even better, take a warm shower if there is hot water.

After washing or showering, you will immediately refresh yourself and feel relieved. You will become clearer, broader, and even a little more optimistic.

You will need to take a piece of paper and write on it the phrase “ SO WILL NOT ALWAYS».

Please hang this piece of paper on a very important place in your apartment and let this be your life tenet.

This very wise phrase will constantly remind you that all your troubles, failures and problems are not eternal, and that once they will fall underground, and you will no longer intersect with them.

Why do you need to do this?

This is necessary so that your mood improves, and euphoria (joy) wakes up inside you.

Agree, if you were put in a dark cellar with a web, you would hardly have increased joy, since such a terrain would oppress and drive you into deep depression.

Therefore, lift the blinds, remove the curtains and make your apartment bright from sunlight.

From this, your mood will not improve dramatically, but at least you will not feel pessimism and the darkness around you.

Bright light is always associated with life, but you yourself know darkness with what ...

Negativity and sadness in the soul well dilutes the activity, which can cause positive stress.

• Go to the gym, if you do not have it near the house, do sports in your room or apartment.
• Go and run a kilometer around your home or school stadium.
• Play soccer, basketball, table tennis.
• Drive a car, ride a motorcycle, I beg you, do not crash.
• Skydive.
• Go to Rowjumping.

In fact, in the world there are a lot of options for active activity, both paid and free.

Try to do something active, do not sit and wait for tomorrow's working day, since work during a bad state of mind drives you into negative thoughts of hopelessness.

Hurry up before work, do something active for the soul from the listed list and it will become much easier for you.

What to see when bad at heart?

Terribly bad at heart and around on the television show depressing news, where they say that the dollar has risen, killed that, a terrorist attack and so on.

Do you know this? The solution is simple - turn off the TV and turn on the Internet a couple of motivational videos that will definitely help you.

Just go to YouTube and enter “Motivation” and that’s it, you will find as many useful videos as you have never seen on TV.

If you want to watch movies, then no problem. We recommend you to look:

1. Always say yes!
2. The Pursuit of Happyness
3. Until I played in the box
4. Legend number 17
5. Slumdog Millionaire

It’s clear that when you feel bad, you don’t feel like reading and it’s easier to turn on the film, series and so on.

But in the world, nevertheless, there are people who draw inspiration not from films, but from motivational books.

In a period of bad mood it is very difficult to read difficult readable literature, so we will give you a list of books that are easy to read.

1. Count of Monte Cristo;
2. Aimless life;
3. Dreaming is not harmful;
4. Important years
5. Love of life.