How do you know if a man is right for you? How to understand that a man suits you.
Many of the girls are ready to connect their lives with a person, just not to be alone. Women often seek to create a serious relationship and sometimes become too loyal, trying to discern the potential in a man. There is nothing wrong.
However, if your man is not able to discern your potential, you are unlikely to have a bright future.
How to understand whether you are meeting the right person, or he is not at all the one you should be with.
Here are a few signs that this man is not the only one, even if he is a good guy.
Are you compatible with a man
1. You cannot relax next to him
If you constantly feel nervous or worried, as if you need to perform on stage or correspond to some role, this is an occasion to think.
You do not feel close to him naturally, and all the time trying to impress him? It should not be.
Check yourself: can you just silently sit next to him? Can you work or read a book while sitting in the same room with him, or is silence making you nervous?
2. You always want to do different things.
In fact, this is not a reason for parting, because sometimes even couples with completely different interests can find a common language. However, if it seems to you that you can never find something in common that would interest both of you, this is already a reason to beware.
3. You have different expectations from sex.
If you are dating a man, and he hints at a closer relationship after only a few meetings, and you feel unprepared, this suggests that you have different expectations from sex.
You do not need to force yourself to what you are not ready for, at least not at the beginning of the relationship.
People have different expectations, and that's normal. But, if you cannot come to a common denominator in any way, then you need to learn how to find agreement on this issue.
4. Communication with him upsets you and seems unnatural.
Communication with those with whom you are going to spend a lot of time should be natural and free. It should bring you joy and be pleasant.
If it seems to you that there are many moments of awkward silence between you when you try to think of something to talk about, especially after a few dates, then something is not gluing in your relationship.
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Think about what delights you more: the fact that you had a man, or that you met him. This is a simple sign that shows whether your relationship has a future.
It is one thing if you need a non-binding relationship, and another when you need a foundation for a long-term relationship.
6. Next to him you do not feel like yourself.
This is not about that he is doing something bad or unacceptable, but about how much you can be yourself in his presence. And this is a problem, whatever the reason for this sensation.
7. You are forced to hide your relationship.
This applies to situations where you cannot fit your man into your daily life. You only meet at a predetermined time, then go home, watch TV and forget about it until you make an appointment again.
It annoys you when plans change, or he does something spontaneously, as it does not fit into your life. This is a clear sign that there are some inconsistencies between you.
8. You start to get very worried when you think about him.
Anxiety usually occurs when your mind is in some kind of discomfort.
And although many of us tend to worry about this or that occasion, if your anxiety is much greater when you think about your man, you need to think about why you feel insecure and intense, and whether your couple has potential.
9. He did not introduce you to his friends.
This is an alarm! Ask yourself why he doesn’t want you to meet his friends?
10. You do not want to introduce him to your friends.
Why don't you want your friends to meet him?
It seems to you that they will not approve of your choice (or maybe they are right?) Or do you want it to exist separately from your life? It’s worth considering if this is your situation.
11. You are not encouraged by thoughts about the future with him.
If you meet long enough, but don’t see each other together after a few years, this is practically a concrete sign that you are not destined to be together.
Ultimately, listen to your heart and you will know the answer.
With your heart, you always feel that you have found your man © flickr.com
Starting a new relationship, we always think about whether we were really looking for it. We try to evaluate our new lover, to weigh the pros and cons, in order to understand whether it is worth continuing to develop these relations.
It’s really difficult to understand what we are looking for. Sometimes we want a strong and confident man, and the next day we generally want to be alone. Due to the fact that a certain type of a loved one has not yet developed in your head, you cannot understand yourself and understand what kind of man you need.
But next to you appears a young man who completely suits you. How to understand if this is the one you were looking for. We decided to collect the main reasons that can definitely answer the question: “Is it suitable for me?”
1. You have no understatement in the conversation. When you are next to this person, you are reset all the masks. You find the strength in yourself to talk about the most secret. You build trusting relationships. When you are honest in relationships it means only one thing - they have a future. Because even if you have problems, you can honestly talk about it and accurately resolve the issue.
2. You really appreciate all the flaws. There are no absolutely perfect people. And if you take off your pink glasses and notice the flaws, there will be nothing wrong with that. Sooner or later, you will come across his manner of behavior, and something you definitely will not like. But if you are ready to put up with his shortcomings and accept him for who he is, then this is definitely your man.
3. A man is ready to put up with your "cockroaches." But do not forget that you have your own "cockroaches" too. If a man, just like you, is ready to compromise and give in to something, then you can surely be sure that he is the one who is needed.
4. Even in the most difficult periods of a relationship, you still forgive a man. He may be a million times wrong, but you will forgive him anyway. Why is this happening? Yes, simply because you love him. Only to our loved one can we forgive everything.
5. You have common topics for conversation. As is known from folk wisdom, “they are met by clothes, but by the mind - escorted”. Even if you liked each other through visual contact, then you should definitely have common topics for conversation. Studying, working, one hobby for two or memories from a joint trip. If all this is, then he is your man.
6. You feel happy. Perhaps the most important factor that determines whether this is your man is you yourself. If next to this person you shine with happiness and feel comfortable, then it is really worth working on these relationships.
In fact, to understand whether a man is suitable for you or not is possible only at the coming of time. Passing certain stages in a relationship, you are approaching the full awareness of your man. You know all the flaws, the weight of the features of his character. Therefore, when asked about the advisability of continuing the relationship, you will learn over time.
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How to find out what affects the perception of attractiveness in general, says our consultant - psychologist Yevgeny Idzikovsky.
We are far from always able to understand our attitude towards a person, therefore it is worth paying attention to the signals of our own body - it never lies.
Why is smell so important to us?
Each person has a special individual smell. It is he who largely determines our likes and dislikes. Moreover, as regards the sexual attractiveness of the partner, the recognition of the “suitable” aroma occurs at the subconscious level, in most cases we do not even monitor this process.
A distinct interest in a specific human smell is provided by the characteristics of our hormonal and immune systems. Research by the Swiss scientist Klaus Vedekind back in the mid-90s showed that women like men whose immune system does not match their own as much as possible. At the same time, the chosen ones can radically differ in appearance, physical indicators and level of intelligence. In the case of the coincidence of the immune systems of both subjects, they do not feel attraction to each other, since they perceive the partner as a relative - brother, sister, etc.
Output: the smell is important in terms of attractiveness, but it is important to understand that we are talking about the natural aroma of the body - without perfume, deodorant, a cable from cigarettes, etc.
What body language can say
Even if a person is silent, his posture can say a lot about his attitude to the chosen one. Closed positions (arms crossed on the chest or in pockets, shoulders lowered and folded, legs closed) indicate a lack of interest. But the open postures (the body and feet are turned towards the opposite, the palms are looking up, the arms and legs are not crossed) are vivid evidence that all the attention of a person is focused on the interlocutor.
By the way, “open” people are much more attractive in the eyes of others, they cause more interest.
Output: Use knowledge of body language to demonstrate your passion or to find out how your partner is treating you.
Face: the laws of attractiveness
Most of us like the same type of face, but its completely different features are of interest. Scientists believe that the roots of this phenomenon lie in psychology.
So, in childhood, we all experienced vivid emotions when communicating with different people. And when we meet a person in adulthood who resembles them in emotional state, we quickly become sympathetic to him. Because we know that contact with such people had a strong emotional resonance for us, and we want to experience it again.
Moreover, even if the experience was negative, we still feel attracted to the person. This is due to the subconscious desire to correct the situation, to achieve recognition, approval, love.
Output: it is important for us not so much the face of the partner as the emotions that are associated with it.
How to understand what partner you like
Sometimes our body signals that in front of us is a suitable partner. How to recognize these signs?
Men
You mirror the girl’s gestures, point the socks of your shoes in her direction, and when leaning, lean forward. You begin to correct hair and clothes, your voice becomes higher than usual, and the pupils dilate.
Women
You touch the hairstyle or wrap a lock of hair on your finger, bite your lip, show naked wrists. Your voice is getting lower. You repeat the interlocutor’s gestures, hold a longer eye contact, during communication, turn to him with your whole body.
It's time to study this list. If you see familiar situations here - time to sound the alarm!
7. You are constantly criticized
Everyone has the right to go on a date with tousled hair or to allow themselves to seriously discuss politics, without being criticized by a partner. The person who wants to control you in everything is most likely the wrong candidate. This indicates his unwillingness to accept you as you really are.
If you notice this sign in your second half - run.
6. They don’t listen to you and are not interested in your affairs.
2. Your partner is dissatisfied with himself and transfers this feeling to you
It is important to understand that none of us is perfect, and each has its own shortcomings. A big problem is interacting with a partner who does not understand this and uses you as a means of replenishing their suffering self-esteem.
For a healthy relationship, you must complement and motivate each other for new achievements and positive changes. A person should not enter into a love relationship in the hope that his partner will become a good tool to feed the ego.
1. Your partner is jealous when things are going well.
A partner who does this is the most insecure person. If he tries to minimize your success or behaves offended, passively-aggressive, jealous or gloomy, then you should think carefully. A loving person should be sincerely glad of your successes, and not be annoyed and suffer.
The annoyance of defeat, for sure, does not want to experience a single woman. Especially if it concerns the person whom she was fond of, but then realized that he was not a couple to her at all. Such relationships can last for months, sometimes for years. Sorry for the time and energy spent. To avoid this situation, pay attention to the signals that fate sends you.
Fig. How to understand that a man is not suitable for you?
For him, the priority is deed, not you
Naturally, he claims that you are the main thing for him, but in reality it turns out to be completely different. For him, his friends, deeds and concerns are more important. If you agree on something and something unexpectedly changes, then he will never change his own plans. In a conversation about a joint future, the partner always talks about what exactly he intends to do, and he does not care about your aspirations.
You should rather part with such a partner, since you are not a priority person for him. In this situation, there can be no question. You need to strive to connect your destiny with someone for whom you will be much more important than the others, not only in words but in deeds.
He is a sexist
This term is used to call a person who is sure that a man and a woman are not equal. The point of view is reduced to the superiority of men over women whose discrimination reaches unthinkable sizes. Living with such a man is very difficult, because he will not respect you as a person. He is unlikely to help you in raising children and doing household work. For him, there are strict frameworks that divide the "womanish" and the "masculine". Also, this man will always consider himself smarter than you, which can not contribute to the harmonious relationship.
He's lying to you
Suppose you caught him on a petty lie, but it still suggests that the man will continue to cheat. And not only in the details, but also on a large scale. This confirms that you will have to listen to fictitious stories and false excuses all your life. Deception is “in the blood” - you have to put up with it. A fundamental factor in any successful relationship is trust and honesty. With a liar you are out of the way. Think yourself, if at the beginning of the creation of the union you have to listen to the lies, what will happen next?
Communication with service workers
The simplest thing is to pay attention to how your partner talks to the waiters in cafes or restaurants. A worthy and noble man will never show his neglect, even if in a condescending form. He always respects the interlocutor. It doesn’t matter who he is - his subordinate, business partner or waiter. If the beloved behaves rudely towards the service staff, it is likely that after some time he will treat you like that.
Lack of initiative
Of course, you have romantic evenings, but on condition that you have thought up their script from beginning to end, and not him. A man who does not take the initiative in relationships is not the best candidate for the role of spouse. From such inaction on his part, you will quickly get tired. In addition, lack of initiative can indicate a man’s laziness, which is an even more global flaw. With such a partner you doom yourself to a gray, unremarkable life. Look for a man whose head is always full of ideas.
Constant discontent
An alarming signal is the constant dissatisfaction of the partner for any reason. He is always depressed, he does not like anything, everything annoys him, for him everything is stupid and inappropriate. If you notice such traits in your beloved, you should know that he is a pessimist who sees the world painted in gloomy tones. And after that, do you still want to start a family with such a man? Why do you need this?! In the world a large number of optimistic men who. Believe me, a grumbler can easily ruin your life. He a priori cannot be satisfied with anything.
You are his eternal savior
With a man who has to be saved on a regular basis from something, for example, from alcohol, drugs, a debt hole, it is better not to connect your life. Psychologists say that some ladies consciously seek to build relationships with just such partners. This adds to their confidence in their own abilities,. Frankly, . But you are self-sufficient! You do not need to connect fate with someone who cannot solve their own problems, not to mention the general family troubles and your personal difficulties.
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