How to understand what no one needs. How to live if nobody needs you? Let's try to figure it out
I don’t know what to do next, how to live on. The fact is that right now I felt that absolutely no one needs me, I sometimes meet with classmates, classmates, I see their families, that they know how to make something and that life makes some sense, although I studied better at university .... but he was completely left alone at home in a remote village, because of the mastery qualities, for some reason, they were always better developed by his elder brother, he trusted everything more and since childhood, I so wanted to be able to make things, understand technology but my hands were constantly beaten and now I'm under forty and I’m practically poor man, do not create anything and are not able to create something ...... Surrounding ceased to delight in one song: "Fragments of life go away, look at the sun but the night I see?" even nature is not happy, the thought of worthlessness and the impossibility of correcting life because of age crept deeply, that sometimes I can wake up from nightmare dreams on this subject in the middle of the night, and there is only deaf loneliness around me, and my body is covered with sweat, and insult ... ... I don’t know what to do next.
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babatur, age: 06/10/2013
Feedback:Good afternoon! What is he like for you? Are you with you today in the world? Perhaps I want to live a certain segment of my life anew, do something different, say other words, behave more worthily, not miss an opportunity. ... Yes, I also had this. Alas, this is impossible, as it is impossible to enter the same river twice. Yes and whether it is necessary? What will we change? The opinion of others about yourself? Will we get something very important?
We are what we are. With its own character traits. And we’re unlikely to be different.
And if I do not like my qualities, my features, my condition today? Is that nothing can be changed? Why not? Sure. Only a change must first occur in consciousness. Everything is from our consciousness. This is well understood by those who change the self-perception and perception of the world with the help of alcohol, drugs, cigarettes .... The effect is instant, but temporary, like all surrogate happiness.
So how to make this change in consciousness without resorting to external effects on the psyche? Changes in consciousness begin only when you clearly realize the meaning of your existence. No, not invented by ourselves, but the real one. But who knows? Let's reason logically. Who best knows the meaning, purpose of any thing, any creation? The one who creates it. Man - whose creation? I hope not to hear from you a fairy tale, like “for millions of years it rained on hot stones and in this broth the atoms suddenly accidentally formed into a DNA molecule that formed a living cell, and after many millions of years it gave all the diversity of life on earth, harmoniously connected links, obeying a single law. And one of the branches of the monkey genus suddenly turned out to be the most advanced .... "
Life on Earth is the creation of a living mind, whose name is God. And man is a special creation created by God for himself. And the answer to the eternal question about the meaning of being needs to be sought only from Him. - “And how will I hear it?” There is a Bible - the Word of God. For this, Jesus lived among people, left disciples.
“So what does the Bible say about the meaning of my life?” This is a separate conversation that cannot be digested right away. The main thing is to take the first step: to understand and accept the fact that God has the truth. And to begin to understand little by little what He expects from us. To begin with, we will read carefully, without rushing, pondering each sentence, one of the messages of the Apostle Paul:
“May God and the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ be blessed. He in Christ blessed us with all the spiritual blessings of heaven. After all, He chose us in Him before the creation of the world, so that we would be holy and blameless before Him. He out of his love, of his good will and will, through Jesus Christ, predetermined us to become His adopted children to praise the glory of His grace that He gave us in his beloved Son. In Him, we received atonement with His blood and forgiveness of sins through His infinite grace, which God generously endowed us with. With all wisdom and knowledge, He revealed to us the secret of his will. He did this according to his good will, originally embodied in Christ, in order to unite everything in heaven and earth under the authority of Christ at the appointed time. In Him we became heirs, as it was predetermined by the plan of God, doing everything in the world according to his will and his plans. We, the first to place their hope in Christ, must praise His glory. In Him, when you heard the word of truth - the Gospel that brings you salvation - you believed in Him and were marked with the seal of the promised Holy Spirit, which is the key to our future heritage and the atonement of those who belong to Him to praise His glory. ”
“A lot of beeches and nothing understandable?”)) Yes, at first it is so .... And then the lines of the Bible become living water, as we purify it opens more and more.
Life appears in a completely different light when you realize that the earthly segment is a test before eternity. If we learn to live every day in joy without being embittered, not offended, thanks to the Creator for all the lessons, if we understand that taking offense at life, we blame God for his imperfection, if we learn to love his world, his creation, his people, accept them as they are ... - then we will be ready to spend eternity with Him. In joy and thanksgiving.
That is the meaning of earthly being.
But not just to learn it. Indeed, for each person there is a spiritual war, and the devil does not let his prey go so simply! Every day he will throw us temptations, knocking us from the right direction. And it is almost impossible for a person to resist himself if he does not look at Jesus.
This is the main thing I wanted to say. Have you heard And about age - this is ridiculous. You are only 36. I envy that you have the opportunity to know the real meaning of life before I knew it ...
Vladimir, age: 06/06/2013
Hey. The main thing in your situation is not to despair. I read somewhere that if nature does not please it is such a strong depression. You just need not accumulate unresolved issues, but try to solve them. I also survived a divorce, a section of the house, but did not agree to sell the house. The ex-wife therefore does not allow to see the children, scolds them if they communicate with me. Solve problems with loneliness, desire to do what you love, one at a time. For example, I look behind the house - plastered a barn, mow the grass in summer, remove snow in winter, right now, the fence needs to be painted. I live on the edge of the city. I listen to the birds singing. I work, I live, even though I myself.
Roller, age: 06/40/2013
Good afternoon. Take a closer look, maybe someone around needs your help. Surely you can do something very well and this craft is not necessary. As for age, I think that you have everything ahead)
Irina, age: 06/31/2013
Familiar questions ... familiar emotions ... For many, at a certain stage they arise ... for some during age-related crises, for others more often, for some they do not arise at all and they live without even thinking about it ... Yes , living in a village and not being able to make, is probably bad. But a person has a lot of opportunities to change his life in this regard, it is much more difficult to change his soul, but you need to change, otherwise resentment, quiet envy and dissatisfaction with your life will eat you. And age, sorry, you have 36 written! It's time to take on your life! We need steps along which you will leave this state ... these are small steps, goals, real ones that can be completed. For example, this week, I am changing the fence, next week I’m working, or something like that ... And do not forget to work on your soul. And everything will get better. You will be with your old woman, about a year or so through ..., looking at the growing grandchildren, be surprised at your imaginary uselessness and weakness at 36 years old.
LanaSvetlana38, age: 06/16/2013
From myself I’ll add, go to the Orthodox Church, regular confession and communion can help.
Sergey, age: 06/18/2013
Hello Babatur! What you describe is called a midlife crisis, it happens for everyone from 35 to 45 years old, and unfortunately, it will have to go through. Why "Unfortunately? Because it is very painful in terms of emotions, you very clearly describe the symptoms of depression that accompany it. You can, of course, try to somehow evade it, then cover it to the fullest extent at 68, then there will be an elderly crisis. In your case, apparently, the first thing you have to do is to accept yourself with all your shortcomings, not to peck that you did not become what you wanted and the family did not form, but rather turn to face yourself, stroke yourself from the inside, love and accept yourself. you have a small child, it’s you yourself, and he will always be with you, until your last breath, so you will never be completely alone. But now this child really needs your inner love, warmth and kindness for himself. Shine with love in yourself, warm this small self from inside. The midlife crisis exposes us, it clearly indicates that some things will never happen, some dreams will not come true, and this is reality, and there’s no escape from it anywhere. it needs to be accepted and reevaluated by everyone. You saw life one by one, through the eyes of a boy, when you imagined it at 16, and now you are 36, and you are different, and the world is different, everything else. We must look for new goals. This will take time, probably have a lot to read about the crisis, how to survive it. One thing I’ll say, no one will make us happy, it’s a lie that a person, if he is married or married, or if he has children, he will certainly be happy. This is not entirely true. A man can be happy if he is in harmony with himself, accepts himself as he is, with all the shortcomings, and does not struggle with his ideal self, which he once created, but in reality he cannot correspond to him .And all these attributes: husband, children, all this is relative, because there is no guarantee that the husband will fall out of love when the children leave to live in another city. And therefore loneliness is inevitable. Therefore, you must be able to live alone, be able to amuse yourself, give love to your inner child.
inna elizarova, age: 38 / 06/18/2013
You can’t live a life according to the standard and be completely similar to successful, former classmates and fellow students. Each person is unique and each has their own destiny. Not everyone has families, children, etc. You can find joy not in the material. Switch from your sad of thoughts on the world around us, just like we are not perfect, try to get animals, they will definitely be necessary for you and no matter how trivial, animals, rejoicing every day, teach us the ability to enjoy the simplest things. Your "age" is not an obstacle in the fight against loneliness, get acquainted, total ga me with people, it's a great prospect to find like-minded friends and possibly a life partner, or just get good advice and podderzhku.UDAChI !!!
natalya, age: 06/19/19/2013
Hello! One wise man said that if you don’t know how to change your life, change the concept of happiness. And in fact, can you slightly reconsider your views? You might not think that "nobody needs", but "who do I need"? Maybe there are people around you or animals that need care, guardianship, help? Waiting for “need” from other people is a passive expectation, and rendering this “need” to others at the behest of the soul is an active position. Think, maybe you should prove yourself somewhere? Where the word kind help, where participation.
Living closer to nature, you can do things inaccessible to the townspeople. Indeed, calm down, focus and craft something. Just the little things, it’s not necessary to design a car right away! The fence straightened, patched up the roof, walked around the house - where the nail sticks out, where the board creaks, and everything needs to be fixed ... big things start with small things! Household order, soul order. And there maybe something will come up.
Techie, age: 06/30/2013
The same topic, just recently thought about it: I do not know how; profession a waste of time from 8 30 to 17 00; there are no permanent friends due to business trips; relationships after a divorce too; illnesses; fear; here I’m thinking of killing everything at once - to go to work - not by diploma, not by vocation - stupidly as a loader.
simenime, age: 10/32/2013
The first thing that came to mind. You need to get out of the remote village. Perhaps there is a settlement nearby with educational institutions. If you want to make something, try a vocational school! It doesn't matter how old you are. It is necessary, it is necessary to realize oneself professionally! .. It is difficult to fight with a feeling of loneliness, but not impossible. Maybe you have a period like this. Your story is specific and short. If you have any kind of living relatives, then not everything is so tragic ..
Diana, age: 09/08/2014
Why are you different then?
So what, what are you 40?
So what if you haven’t learned anything?
You do not live the last day.
I do not care that the post is 2 years old!
Take and do !! Or, you just keep whining and screaming to hell.
Do you know why the rest could? They did not whine! Or maybe they ached ... but they did, damn it, until they got their way.
You will answer to yourself in the head "time to do" - life will change. And give up ... then you are just negligible. **** excuses!
P.S. It's NEVER too late to change your life, if it seems like it's time to change something, doesn't it seem to you.
Vlad, age: 07/25/2015
Try to find something interesting for yourself, and do not think about who needs you. Try helping others as soon as possible.
Vladimir, age: 12/16/12/2015
Seraphim of Sarov has several expressions as commandments. Some are very accurate. I myself do not accept God, I have not found this
gift.
Himself now also feel bad, a few months, and it seems to be getting worse.
If consciousness allows - read ascetics, fixtures of the soul - Sergius of Radonezh, Seraphim of Sarov ....
If you accept, you will find your way in life.
Everything will be fine. I wish you GOOD.
Novel, age: 03/40/2016
Dude get involved in art it's never too late.
Ingvarr, age: 04/30/2016
Good day!
The best defense against self-digging is work, action. And if there is no program, goals? Then they will have to be set up, but not through the psychological masturbation and self-flagellation characteristic of the intelligentsia, but
by rationalizing available personal resources. You are not the only one. I dare, however, to believe that you have work. Sorry for the pun, it means - and there is, in the sense - to eat, too. Already
one plus, believe me, the vast majority who have your problems have NO WORK. Next - about the goals: but, in fact, what was your goal in your youth? And was there anyway? Besides,
What kind of self-abasement is the inability to fix one’s life? And you come to Artsakh (Nagorno-Karabakh), there you have the adrenaline and allotment with the house for free in the border village, and with special language
There will be no problems, and the girls there are very collected and purposeful. Believe me, if someone likes it, you will achieve a lot, the Artsakh Armenian woman will bite the rock for her husband’s career, even if she and he are for
90 will be. By the way, you will see 18-year-old guys who, without any reflection characteristic of Shakespeare’s hero, calmly and calmly, without thinking about nature and nightmares, guard
the border. Wake up in the middle of the night? Nonsense, nonsense! Do you know who wakes up in the middle of the night? A man whose children died before him, a man who found an incurable disease, a man,
which the bank owes a certain amount of interest. And so for you - a banal crisis, or rather - a reevaluation. Change the setting. I advise Artsakh so that you understand that everything is relative,
the main thing is to look at life simply and clearly. And there you will be taught this.
Armen, age: 01/30/2016
You need the one who is just as lonely. Find a lonely affectionate woman. You are still so young, and that means a lot. Everything will be fine with you. No need to delve into the reasons, just live and don’t dig. You
not to blame and no one is new. Work and look around. In the world there are many lonely affectionate women.
Elena, age: 10/24/2016
You can’t think so, you’re a man ... Look for the positive .. In the morning it’s not easy to get up again ... In the morning you rested from yesterday, and something good will happen today .. This is the first, and many more rules, fortunately
Neli, age: 12/50/2016
Brother ... MCH’s father generally died recently ... Believe me: it can always be worse !!! Better just live, and that’s all ... Soon everything will pass, believe me !!! ..
Maxim, age: 12/33/2016
You have already written a good letter. So you know how. Good luck in your search for yourself,
Question to the psychologist: I have no friends, nobody needs me, what should I do?
Hello! My name is Marina. I am 12 years old. I do not know what to do. I feel useless to anyone.
At home, I quarrel all the time. Especially with mom. Almost immediately I was to blame, she said: “You do not want to go for the seeds? If you do not want, you can not go. ”I replied that I did not want to, because I had been asked a bunch of homework. She was offended!
And so we quarrel almost every day (for all such trifles, but we quarrel very much).
I don’t have real friends at school. There was a best friend, but she talked to a girl from a parallel class and moved there. And always like that. We are friends, and suddenly a man finds himself another best friend. And in the end, I am left alone.
The boys in the class are bullied all the time. They break my things, laugh at home (I recently fell and stretched my leg, almost the whole class laughed, and when they found out that this was a stretch, they started to laugh even more), they make fun of each other ...
Please help me, I don’t know what to do, I feel lonely, useless to anyone, I cry all the time at home.
What to do if no one needs me and I have no friends
Hello Marina!First you need to make peace and make friends with your mom. Your real best friend right now may be mom. Of course she needs you and she loves you, you just speak different languages \u200b\u200bwith her: you are in the nursery, and she is in the adult, therefore, you do not quite understand each other. Therefore, quarrel.
You think you're right, and mom thinks she’s right. In fact, both are wrong.
Quarrels and disputes, as well as insults and accusations, problems cannot be solved ... neither at home, nor at school. One needs to learn to communicate without conflict.
And you need to become your own friend, i.e. not to cry and not to feel sorry for yourself, but to start loving and respecting yourself (but, of course, not to be selfish). If you will love and respect yourself, then other people will begin to love and respect you, and you will be needed by everyone and you will have many friends.
Children at school and scoff at those who do not love themselves, and therefore can not protect themselves.
If a person is offended, then something is wrong with him and others think that he is weak, which means that you can scoff at him. After all, no one will scoff at a strong personality.
What if no one needs you at all?
Once upon a time my good friend after the words of the children addressed to her we don't need you
Calmly answered That’s great, so I don’t owe you anything
and you think about the reason why this happens and how to fix such a problem. Take a look around, see how many people are around. Rummage in yourself, do you look bad? - make a beautiful hairstyle, put on a pretty dress, suit, jeans, if you are looking for a friend, he will surely find you so beautiful and confident in his attractiveness. Discard your indecision, constraint, constraint, be sure that you are the most beautiful and attractive. If men are used to seeing quot in you; of your boyfriend; - show yourself feminine in front of them, so that they would feel in you a woman, not a kid. In general, think about it, but you can still answer the question that Anfisk asked about married women and unmarried women. Http://www.bolshoyvopros.ru/questions/24973-nezhenatiki-nezamuzhnicy-shy; ne-zagljanete-li-sjuda-na-ogonek.html
Kitten, you need and love you! You are just too vulnerable and too loving and it hurts you that others do not love you exactly the way you would like to. Here you give more than you receive! Do not be afraid to filter your social circle!
Do not be afraid to start from scratch! Need to go forward! Shape your future yourself! You are your own mistress!
If possible, try to change the situation more often. 🙂
This can be reasoned by a person who does not accept himself. First of all, you need to be necessary for yourself.))) But when you rely on the environment, it will definitely remain indifferent. And as soon as it becomes interesting to you with yourself, as soon as you want to be alone with yourself, you will begin to understand yourself, darling, from a half-flight of thought, then all the rest will run away!))))
Well what are you, Koten! Smile Even if at this moment it seems to you that nobody needs you, then in a moment, or in a day, well, in a pinch, in a month, a person will appear who needs you very much. He must appear! Don’t be discouraged!
Welcome to BV.
no, this is outrageous when one little upset girl calms, persuades a whole crowd of serious, adult people. so, quickly spread: who offended you! we will quickly sort it out! there are a lot of us!
It is necessary to become necessary to itself, then people will stretch. You need to try to love yourself - a difficult way and it is not easy to do it on your own I know, but only it gives happiness. Happiness is inherent in us from the very beginning, we just forgot about it as an adult. Good luck in knowing yourself!
Have a kitten or puppy \u003d) Do you yourself need someone? You can’t take all the energy yourself, you need to give it too. You can’t demand from people that they all sharply need you, you need to give something in return - more positive emotions! In this regard, it is better to be an altruist.
In addition to everything already said.
In the life of every girl, there is a state when you want to crawl under a blanket, not to see anyone, not to hear anything, not to feel anything and turn off your brains. BUT! This condition must be fought!
When life is not a joy, it is necessary:
1) Change the man (if the situation, age and level of obligations allow, but I think they allow here)
2) Change the hairstyle (it is just vital to have a beautiful model haircut and it is advisable to change the color of the hair, but so that it is beautiful)
3) Try to change the image (so that it is beautiful, appropriate, and it is better to avoid enchantment)
4) Force yourself to ALWAYS walk with a straight back, chin high and mentally wear a crown on your head. Imagine a queen with a crown on her head that slouches and lowers her head? Yes, her crown will immediately fall from her head and what kind of queen is she then?
5) To come up with or remember your dream, which is not connected with the people around you. Which concerns only your desire (for example, write an article in a well-known magazine, get a job that will allow you to meet new people, travel, get a lot of previously unexperienced impressions, learn to ride horses or drive a car, shoot from a bow, etc.) and achieve this dream.
6) Understand that if some man does not like you, perhaps you do not like him either. It could just be an addiction. You feel bad when he is not around, and as soon as he appears - all the problems seem to recede, and you do not want to think about them while he is here? And as soon as the door closes behind him - does everything return? Does it act like a drug on you? Run away from this person and do not look back. Addiction is not love; it destroys your soul and you.
Love yourself for your sake! And then those who deserve you will love you. And you do not need the rest.
You need to soberly evaluate your appearance. If the sun is completely bad, you need to fix it by all available means, up to plastic surgery.
And if it’s not so bad, then just start monitoring yourself. Men rarely pay attention to groomed women who have launched themselves.
In general, self-improvement is necessary.
for every woman in nature there is a man, single people probably don’t give a chance to their soul mate.
People have such an inexplicable feeling that "nobody needs me." The feeling is so strong and causes such an internal “bias” that no matter who you come into contact with, you see that people just don't give a damn about you, that you don’t need any living soul, not even your “friends” and wife, and if you need so they need something from you, You no one needs himself. Everything good, pleasant and just normal that happens when communicating between people is simply not perceived and not felt. Over time, these constant "betrayals" only accumulate, and eventually hatred arises. How else to respond to you?
This is a colossal veil, absolute. And the reason for everything - a big scar in the soul - resentment. Children's resentment. Resentment, on the most expensive and important person - Mom. Very often it’s an offense that comes precisely from “mom”. Over time, a person grows up, and resentment ceases to be personified. Those. a person is simply in a state of resentment. Severe condition, inadequate.
This is exclusively a problem for people with the anal vector. Firstly, only they can be offended, and secondly, insults of this kind are simply a stop for them. Nothing, I'll wait until next time. And it doesn’t matter that there will be no next time.
To begin to understand what the anal vector is, and how resentment arises in it. Then you need to work hard to understand how people with other vectors, for example, with the skin one, are rearing in us, anal people. Slightly abstract yourself from your beloved. (Read why mom is the most important person for an anal baby)
Here is the cry of the soul from one blog:
Depression dragged on. For six months now, the loneliness that I love so much has been slowly destroying me. I’m in contact with a dozen people every day, but none of them need me. I’m constantly looking for new acquaintances, but I don’t need new friends either. I’m looking for old acquaintances, but they don’t even remember me.
Sunday again. In the morning you wake up and understand that nobody needs you. To feel the presence of someone, you take a book and go to the park. But walking young mothers only reinforce the feeling of your uselessness. After all, do you remember that the girl whom you loved so much calculated that you need an nth amount to support your family. Otherwise, the family does not need you. After the park you go to the cinema. But even if you are not walking alone, you will still have to think about the film and discuss its meaning and implication alone. People around are bored of hearing what you think. They do not need your thoughts caused by viewing the picture. They don’t need you.
Another working week. It would seem that at work you are loved and appreciated, but they only need your skills. They don’t need you. You want to learn new things, generate ideas, but nobody needs this. You are considered the cog of the mechanism, and all your ideas are funny and useless. And no one will help in difficult times. Ready to just substitute the bandwagon. Because nobody needs you there.
You go to training, but as if you are doing it alone. No one called and asked why you were gone for a week. No one will ask. They don’t need you either.
Holidays, gifts ... You painfully ponder what to give to someone. Substitute yourself in their place. Remember every conversation, every hint. And from a dozen, you choose what is truly worthy of the name of the gift. You ride a few days to find him. Proud that your gift will be remembered. And in return they give you some muck that will gather dust and cause only pain. Or even give money. Or even forget. Because no one thinks of you. Nobody needs you.
No one cares when you feel sad. You only find yourself smiling, scattering compliments and helping everyone in a row. But once you open up and talk about what's bothering you, you become unnecessary. Pain comes when you are advised to work on yourself, make money, buy a cat. It only strengthens the belief that nobody needs me.
There are no friends at all. I am always ready to go at any time of the day to any end of the city to help or support a person, but no one will come to my request. How much you need to help a person, give advice, solve problems for him, so that he becomes a friend. I am always ready to help with joy and sacrifice myself. But no one will sacrifice themselves for me. Nobody needs me.
Again no girl. Not for a long time. Occasionally you find someone, but despite all the good things that you bring to her, no matter how many gifts you make and how much you entertain her, she will not come if you get sick. A couple of dry tips on the phone and all. You have to make raspberry tea yourself. After all, she does not need me.
When a man cries, this is a terrible sight. Vaguely remembered this process from distant childhood. But when several times, half an hour before the start, the girl cancels the cultural program, the plans of which you hatched for a whole week. When you are constantly advised where to go on a picnic or what cafe to sit in, but they never invite you. When you agree on the first warm days to buy videos, parachute, go on a weekend to the sea, etc., and then refuse everything ... It’s not possible to keep it to yourself. Especially if this happens several times a week. Especially if at this moment you freeze from high temperature. Especially when you realize that nobody cares about all this.
Mother should help. But she constantly reproaches me for everything, adding to the end the interrogative and affirmative phrase "who needs you."
I went through all the contacts in the mail, all my colleagues, all my friends. No one can send the message that I wrote. No one will read it and help.
The phone is silent. It is silent almost constantly. Occasionally he calls and says that someone needs something from me. And nobody needs me ...
it’s just that nobody needs me, and if I need it, it’s only because even when I have a wife, children, friends, and even such an important thing as a company of friends with beer.
They don’t need me anyway.
It is not for us to judge what is adequate and what is not ... Another's soul - darkness.
This is not true! Shine a flashlight here. Then put the grudge on the sofa and set the clock for her to see how life begins to scribble before her year after year.
Date: 2015-03-07
Hello readers of the site.
When a person feels that nobody needs him, negative thoughts flash in his head and the question arises: . In fact, it is very difficult to realize. Some people easily perceive this fact. “Yes, nobody needs me, well, okay, I’m missing myself”. Other personalities are very worried about this. They do not want to feel alone. So what then to do?
Once I read one interview of an actress from a television program "TV family". She shared one phrase the director told her: “Nobody needs anyone in this world”. At the university, our philosophy teacher said: “You probably noticed yourself that no one except your parents needs you”. My classmate really saw it. She said: “I noticed that everyone doesn’t give a damn about me except my parents”. And when I was in school, one of my friends from parallel classes tried to commit suicide. The reason for this: lack of friends and a feeling of loneliness. Why am I all leading this? And the fact that you should not bother so much with this.
All of us are more or less lonely. Even people who have a family and successful businesses, they feel unnecessary and lonely. This feeling arises constantly, and not only for you. I myself sometimes feel lonely and no one unnecessary. But I understand that this is not so, and in this world I am not the only one. This awareness helps me live happily and joyfully every day.
Einstein once said: “Strive to be meaningful, not successful.”. Feeling significant is important to any person. Most lack this feeling, lack love and warmth. But what did you do to be a significant person for others? There are people who want to have everything, but do nothing at the same time. You can’t make many friends sitting at home, you can’t find a boyfriend or girlfriend if you don’t do anything for this. You always need to act, and actively. Learn to communicate with people. This skill will help you build relationships. If you act, then thoughts like: "How to live further if nobody needs you?" definitely will not arise.
Quite often, this question arises after parting with a loved one. Women are very painful when their boyfriend or husband leaves them. They convince themselves that no one else needs. I will not lie to you that this really happens. Some girls after parting or divorcing for many years can not find their chosen one. And this happens because the person is too fixated on finding someone. The behavior of such girls feels obsessive. Nobody likes obsessive people. Such people are rejected in most cases. Learn to communicate with people, become a self-sufficient person. Check out the book section for help.
I advise you to get animals. Here they really help get rid of loneliness. They will definitely need you, especially if a dog appears in your house. They always welcome the owner when he comes home. The feeling is very pleasant when you see that at least some being is happy that you have come. I gave such advice in the article:.
Get out into the light more often. Some people, when depressed, begin to spend their time sitting at home in the room. And some people are immersed in the virtual world, sitting for days on social networks. Under such conditions, the feeling of loneliness and uselessness only intensifies. Be sure to go out into reality, communicate with people, do useful things. Only interaction with other people will help you feel you are a necessary and useful person.
But there is such a category of people that even among people feels lonely. Even celebrities feel lonely. To such people, I advise you simply to stop wrapping yourself up with such thoughts. Nobody owes you anything, and you owe nothing to anyone. Each person has his own business up to his neck, and they have no time to remember all the people in their lives. As a last resort, visit a psychologist. You may have a psychological illness.
