Quotes about indifference. Indifference is a slow death
Indifference (Indifference) as a personality trait is the loss of the ability to love something or someone.
Indifferent love is a stupid incompatible phrase, as absurd as a bunch of death killing or good Evil. An indifferent person is one who has lost the ability to love, a person with a burnt heart. Sergei Yesenin described this condition: “And nothing will disturb the soul, And nothing will shiver it;“ He who loves cannot love, he who burns cannot be set on fire. ”
When a person lives in love for something or someone, it pours over the edge and pours out on others, it is impossible to measure and hide. Damage and pernicious indifference - in the absence of love. A callous person with a hardened heart can tenderly love himself, his wife and children, without showing his feelings and without showing emotions. There is no equal sign between indifference and callousness; these are far from synonyms. In most families, men, to one degree or another, show callousness to relatives, but blaming them for lack of love means severely insulting them. They were not taught in childhood, and they do not know how to show love, tenderness and affection. If indifference to our wives and children coincided with callousness, we would have universal celibacy.
Somehow meets Love on its way, Love. - Hello, love! How I admire you, you are the strongest feeling! - exclaims Love. “Yes, I am stronger than you,” agrees Love. “But do you know what my strength is?” She asks thoughtfully. “Because without you people cannot be happy, because you unite hearts,” Love answers confidently. “No, not in this is my strength, my ability to forgive makes me strong,” Love does not agree. - And what can you forgive if it hurts you already from Betrayal? - Perplexed by Love. “Yes, I suffer greatly from Betrayal,” says Love, “but I can forgive Betrayal, since a person does this act not out of malicious intent, but from ignorance. “But you cannot forgive Treason!” - exclaims Love. “Yes, it’s difficult to forgive Treason,” says Love. - But I can also forgive Cheating, because a person who has changed has the opportunity to choose the best, comparing people through trial and error.
“Would you really be able to forgive Lies too?” - asks Love. - Stupid, because a lie is only a human weakness, it does less harm than all other feelings. Often people lie from reluctance to hurt or from the realization of their own hopelessness, and this is not so bad. - So, it’s normal when people hide the truth and lie to each other? - Perplexed by Love. “Of course, people can tell lies, but not when they truly love,” Love answers. Therefore, a lie has nothing to do with me when people like people don’t lie. - What else can you forgive? - Interested in love. - I can forgive Anger, because it is short-lived and eventually passes, Sharpness, as it causes Sorrow, but a person is upset for no reason. I can forgive Resentment, she is the elder sister of Sorrow, I can also forgive Disappointment, because Suffering often comes for her, ”Love answers.
- Ah, Love, I would have your strength! - Lovely exclaims admiringly. - But I'm not like that, I go out at the first test. How I envy you! “You're wrong, my girl!” - Love does not agree. “There is a feeling that even I cannot forgive.” Indeed, I can forgive a lot, but this terrible feeling can cause me severe pain, and there is no medicine in the world to cure it. This feeling poisons me and hurts stronger than Betrayal and Treason, hurts worse than Evil, Lies and Resentment. This feeling is called Indifference, it is the most terrible of all existing feelings. Disgust, Hatred and Contempt are also negative feelings, but they express an attitude towards a person. They are nothing compared to indifference. An indifferent person does not give a damn about the feelings of others and about what is happening in their life. It is indifference that is stronger than me; it destroys Love.
B. Yasensky wrote in “Conspiracy of the Indifferent”: “Do not be afraid of enemies - in the worst case they can kill. Do not be afraid of friends - in the worst case, they can betray. Fear the indifferent - they do not kill and do not betray, but it is with their tacit consent that treason and murder are committed on the ground. ” Indifferent, that is, an indifferent person - no, dreamer, amorphous, passive or, as stated in the book of Revelations 3: 15-16, “warm”: “I know your work: you are neither cold nor hot; Oh, if you were cold or hot! But, as you are warm, and not hot and not cold, I will cast you out of My mouth. " A “hot” or “cold” person is somehow expressed, has his own face, position, opinion. “Warm”, that is, an indifferent person, is not capable of an active spiritual life.
Often, the root of indifference is buried in childhood. For a child, the manifestation of emotions is a vital need. If you reject it, it will not disappear anywhere, for it serves as a manifestation of the essence of a small person. The need will remain unfulfilled within and will aggressively seek other indirect forms of manifestation. Unfortunately, the needs of the psyche during implementation take on a distorted form, as is the case with indifference. The child was rudely forbidden to show his emotions. He developed an emotional fear. But you cannot run away from nature, the manifestation of feelings and emotions is an important human need. To realize the need, he puts on a mask of indifference.
The subconscious mind firmly stores children's dislikes, lack of warmth and affection, lack of proper attention and care on the part of parents. Statistics say that most indifferent people in childhood were deprived of maternal love and care. In later life, an ordinary “transfer” of relations to oneself in childhood is carried out on the spouse, children and other people. Indifference to parents returns back to the boomerang.
Adolescents have a certain form of indifference that is mistaken for maturity. The boys are instilled with the belief that a real man should not be emotional, tough and extremely restrained, otherwise they will consider him a "weakling." Therefore, young men try on a mask of indifference. In addition to a difficult childhood deprived of love, the mask of indifference gradually develops mental laziness in a person, preventing him from responding to other people's worries and providing effective assistance in difficult times. Spiritual laziness corrodes the soul, forcing you to truly play the role of an indifferent person - not to interfere, not to pay attention, take care of your nerves and strength. Gradually, the principles of indifference mature in consciousness: “My hut is from the edge, I don’t know anything”, “My shirt is closer to my body”, “After us - at least the flood”, “Our business is the side”, “Though the grass does not grow”. Over time, indifference becomes a serious mental illness, the further development of which means complete indifference to everything in the world, even to oneself. As rust eats iron, indifference, without conscious effort on the part of man, gradually enslaves and destroys his soul. A person irrevocably goes into himself, while poisoning the life of family members. Everyone bypasses him. Indifference kills all feelings, by the strength of its detrimental effect, it significantly exceeds treason, resentment and falsehood.
I had to see firsthand the growth of indifference on the example of the son of a friend. The family was dysfunctional: the mother hated her father, and spilled her hatred and disappointment with life on the children. The stiffness and callousness of the mother was selective - the son was sick, so everything went to the girl. To cultivate indifference, one must have a certain “pedagogical skill”. The first thing Makarenko did in her female face was to wean her son from taking care of someone. Everyone in the house tiptoed so as not to disturb the patient. The boy began to grow selfishness and terrible utter laziness. He was no longer sick, but the habit of lying on the couch all day and not to be interested in anything at all. By adulthood, he waved two meters under, a fathom in his shoulders, he would kill the bull’s head. If we impartially describe its qualities: laziness, terry egoism, deceit, hypocrisy, cynicism, irresponsibility and ignorance. A poisonous cocktail of personality traits was already alarming by its steady lack of interest in most areas of life. But what bothered me most was not the ability of someone or something to love. Having married by calculation, he, ten years later, abandoned his family, leaving two children. He never recalled them again. Alimony did not pay a single ruble. He returned to his parents and has been lying on the couch for fifteen years. No feelings, no love, complete paralysis of the soul - indifference.
Indifference leads a person into the looking glass of life. When his own life ceases to interest him - this is the logical ending of cultivating indifference. But this is not indifference. Between indifference and indifference the gaping abyss of fundamental differences. Indifference is: 1. the selective absence at a given time of interest in someone or something; 2. setting the mind to eliminate the excess importance of someone or something. A person may be indifferent to himself, for example, after a strong shock. The nervous system "brakes" in order to restore the wasted energy. In other cases, a person has a certain interest in something or someone. Only the corpse is not interested. So, a wife may be indifferent to football, but love figure skating. She may be indifferent to aquarium fish and, at the same time, adore her dog. In other words, indifference, as opposed to indifference, quite coexists with selective love and interest in someone or something.
Indifference does not attach special importance to someone or something, does not highlight any objects of the outside world with a bold line on the scale of significance. It does not matter to her where to sing - in the Kremlin Palace or in front of ordinary peasants, where to perform - at the Olympic Games or at the Urozhay society championship. Regardless of the face, that is, indifferent, she will everywhere equally express her point of view.
Indifference, unlike barren and detached indifference, does not deny love and interest. Indifference paralyzes the soul. Indifference does not operate with the category of the soul, but of the mind. For example, a person is not indifferent to nicotine, but the mind forbids him to reach for a pack of cigarettes. If the mind is strong, the person will move the soul aside and will be indifferent to smoking.
Often, the reason for indifference lies in the person’s desire to protect himself from the negative emotions that are falling upon him. So, in a niche of indifference, it is convenient to protect oneself from the quarrelsomeness of the boss or wife. When a stream of reproaches spills over him daily, he, wanting to "survive", often unconsciously plays the role of indifference. The only misfortune is that over time this role becomes its natural internal incurable state.
In the story of A.P. Chekhov "Longing" brilliantly written out human indifference. The only son died of the cab driver Jonah Potapov. To overcome his longing and a keen sense of loneliness, he wants to tell someone about his misfortune, but no one wants to listen to him, nobody cares. “He dresses and goes to the stable where his horse stands. He thinks about oats, hay, weather ... About his son, when alone, he can’t think ... You can talk with someone about him, but you yourself can think and paint his image yourself unbearably creepy ... - Chew? - Jonah asks his horse, seeing her sparkling eyes. - Well, chew, chew ... If we didn’t go to the oats, we’ll eat hay ... Yes ... I started to ride old ... My son would ride, but not me ... That was a real cab driver ... Only live ... Jonah is silent for a while and continues: - So, brother, little filly ... I don’t have Kuzma Ionych ... I ordered him to live a long time ... He took it and died in vain ... Tapery, let's say you have a foal, and you are your own mother foal ... And suddenly, say, this very foal ordered to live long ... Are you sorry? The horse chews, listens and breathes into the hands of its owner ... Jonah is carried away and tells her everything ... "
Peter Kovalev 2013
At least once in a lifetime, indifference overcomes every person. This condition is an indifferent attitude to the world, people, current events and their own destiny. In medical terminology, indifference is known as apathy. This word came from the Greek language, in translation it means "detachment". According to statistics, the highest percentage of cases of apathy is recorded in high-income countries. According to the WHO, the first place is occupied by France - 21%, the second by the USA - 19%, the third by the Netherlands - 17, 9%. Modern medicine considers apathy as a pathological condition that requires diagnosis and treatment.
What is the danger of indifference?
A short-term state of apathy can be natural. As a rule, after violent activity, calm and indifference ensues. This temporary condition is easily eliminated by communicating with loved ones, watching comedy, or having a good night's sleep. But sometimes apathy can drag on for a long time. If the spleen does not pass in 3 weeks, this should be a significant cause for concern. Few people know the danger of indifference. It can signal serious problems in the body. In addition, such a spleen can develop into a protracted depression.
It is worth saying that there are extreme examples of indifference. This is a condition in which a person is indifferent to everything that surrounds him, and to himself. With a particularly advanced stage, he refuses to eat, to monitor the appearance and his own hygiene. This condition poses a direct threat to human health and life. In extreme cases, indifference, which is also synonymous with blues and depression, leads to the fact that a person completely loses the taste for life and decides to commit suicide. Therefore, it is very important to fix such changes in behavior in time and turn to a specialist for help.
One of the lowest crimes against a person is not passionate hatred, but indifference. That it is the main component of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw
Hatred and love for a person can be hidden, but indifference immediately catches the eye.
The feeling of hatred is not difficult to hide. Love, if you try, may also not be noticed. But the indifference of everyone is striking. Karl Ludwig Burne
Often in the human soul lives a huge and incomprehensible universe. But most of those around him simply do not notice.
Indifference to oneself is the main ethical tragedy of man.
Love and hate often live nearby, changing places. But if indifference comes, then there is not a single chance of salvation.
There are people on Earth who are indifferent to everything that happens in their country, in their city, in their home. They represent the most important danger to society. Mikhail Evgrafovich Saltykov-Shchedrin
Whether I’m still alive or already set off for another world - this does not bother anyone. I just do not care at all which of those around has already completed their earthly being. C. Palahniuk. "Fight club"
If you do not care about others, then you primarily spit in your soul. Leonid S. Sukhorukov
A great vice is indifference, dispassion. A small man with an ice in his heart is a future layman. Already in childhood, it is necessary to light in the heart of every person a spark of civic passion and intransigence to what is evil or condones evil. - Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky
People will forgive me from indifference,
A woman is tormented not by the tyranny of a man, but by his indifference. - Jules Michelet
They say death kills a person, but not death kills. Kill boredom and indifference. - Iggy Paul
People now have no time for each other.
They easily agree with what they are indifferent to. - Valentin Grudev
Now there was only indifference in him, and it was worse than despair.
I don’t give a damn what you think about me, I don’t think about you at all. - Coco Chanel NN Unknown
People indifferent to everything fall into hibernation. - Emmanuel Mounier
The only thing I value in freedom is the struggle for it; owning it does not interest me - NN Unknown
Nothing emphasizes the beauty of the eyes so much as indifference in a cast of eyes. - Mikhail Mamchich / INDIVIDUALS
Do not be indifferent, for indifference is deadly to the soul of man. - Maksim Gorky
As someone put it, it’s enough to keep a controlled insanity. Cry, worry, be annoyed like any normal human being, while not forgetting that up there, your spirit makes fun of all this fuss. - Paulo Coelho
The hottest corners in hell are left for those who at the time of the greatest moral changes remained neutral. - Alighieri Dante
It is said that philosophers and true sages are indifferent. Untruth, indifference is paralysis of the soul, premature death. - Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
He lived in a confrontation with everyone, although no one noticed ... - Mikhail Mamchich
It is better to be shocked by what you hear than to remain deaf to everything. - Leonid S. Sukhorukov Leonid S. Sukhorukov
Indifference is paralysis of the soul, premature death. - Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
People live and do not see each other, walk side by side, like cows in a herd; in the best case, a bottle will be drunk together.
People who are called weak are only indifferent, for everyone will have strength when the subject of his passions is affected. - K. Helvetius
Desire is half-life, indifference is half-death. - Hal il Gibran Gibran
It hurts less when you just care. - "Dr. House"
The aquiline gaze of passions penetrates the foggy abyss of the future, but indifference is blind and dull from birth. - Claude Adrian Helvetius
Indifference is a serious illness of the soul. - Alexis Tocqueville
When it becomes indifferent to us how the one whom we love sees us, this means we no longer love him.
If you are indifferent to the suffering of others, you do not deserve the name of a person. - M. Saadi
The world will perish from indifference. - Emmanuel Mounier
Sometimes it’s not enough to come to terms with arrogance and swagger to turn them into nothing; sometimes it’s enough not to notice them to become harmless. - Nicola Sebastian Chamfort
The main enemy of love is indifference, not hatred. - Clive Lewis
Science has invented a cure for most of our diseases, but never found a cure for the worst of them - indifference - Helen Keller
Inseparable indifference is worse than unrequited love. - Yana Dzhangirova
Science has invented a cure for most of our diseases, but has never found a cure for the most terrible of them - indifference. - Helen Keller
Indifference is a serious illness of the soul. - A. Tocqueville
I feel very clearly that the opposite of love is not hatred, but indifference. - Leonardo Felice Buskalya
Indifference can be the most powerful revenge for the offense. - George Alexandrov
Indifference is a powerful force acting in history. - Antonio Gramsci
Do not be indifferent, for indifference is deadly to the soul of man. - M. Gorky
It is easy to hide hatred, it is difficult to hide love, and it is most difficult to hide indifference. - Karl Ludwig Burnet
Where moderation is a mistake, indifference is a crime. - G. Lichtenberg
Why are people indifferent to other people's troubles (sometimes to joys)? I don’t know if there are people who are indifferent from birth ... Surely they happen - this is something akin to autism, and there is hardly any sense in condemning them.
Reasons why people become indifferent
Often indifference develops over time - due to life problems and difficulties, due to the fact that it was necessary to fill the bumps on our own. In moments when a person has a lot of problems, he does not care about someone else's grief. This happens with severe pain - physical or mental.
Sometimes in a not very difficult situation, a person thinks: "I will help another, and he will help me." But it happens that after such an attempt, both of them have even more problems, or a person with your help “gets out” and begins to taunt you. And this completely discourages someone from sympathizing in the future. Such a negative experience of someone else's ingratitude, meanness, deceit, betrayal makes a person ... probably not indifferent, but already holding back his impulses.
Another one…
Indifference is paralysis of the soul, premature death
A.P. Chekhov
Indifference as a personality trait is the loss of the ability to love something or someone.
Indifferent love is a stupid incompatible phrase, as absurd as a bunch of death killing or good Evil. An indifferent person is one who has lost the ability to love, a person with a burnt heart. Sergei Yesenin described this condition: “And nothing will disturb the soul, And nothing will shiver it;“ He who loves cannot love, he who burns cannot be set on fire. ”
When a person lives in love for something or someone, it pours over the edge and pours out on others, it is impossible to measure and hide. Damage and pernicious indifference - in the absence of love. A callous person with a hardened heart can tenderly love himself, his wife and children, without showing his feelings and without showing emotions. There is no equal sign between indifference and callousness; these are far from synonyms. AT…
Recently, indifference is a familiar word. We often hear about him on television, on the radio. It is in the air on the street. Everyone is afraid of him, but when faced with him, they will not recognize him.
Because indifference is not a hefty guy with a bloody ax in his hands and not a suicide bomber with explosives on his belt, but a little gray man who sits in a corner and reads a newspaper quietly while the uncle with a suicide bomber is wielding. He sits and hopes that they will not notice him, waiting for the good policeman to come and arrest everyone, that everything will be done without him, and he will only get up in vain ... He always has a logical explanation for his inaction. In the end, he did nothing ... such.
But is it really so? How does a person feel indifferent? It methodically kills all life in a person, all feelings, including hope. Moreover, it is as if nothing to do with it. That's why it is indifference. No liability. No regrets. Yes, and there is nothing to blame him, it ...
Readers of my blog often ask me the question: "how to become a confident person." In this article I will answer this question.
Self-confidence is determined by our subjective perception of ourselves, our abilities and skills, our psycho-emotional state, our beliefs and inner attitudes. In addition, this quality is based on our actual skills.
When you know how to do something well, and at the same time, reality has repeatedly demonstrated to you that you have really succeeded in this skill, you have less food left to doubt your ability.
If you have never had problems in communication, if you could always clearly state your thoughts, be an interesting conversationalist, and you always saw what a good impression you make on other people, then it will be difficult for you to doubt yourself, as in an interlocutor.
But everything is not always so simple. Often we do not have an adequate assessment of our skills, and regardless of what we can and cannot ...
The terrible beast "indifference": how to live with it and whether we need it
Do not be afraid of enemies - in the worst case, they can kill you. Do not be afraid of friends - in the worst case, they can betray you. Fear the indifferent - they do not kill and do not betray, but only with their tacit consent does treason and murder exist on earth (Eberhard).
Indifference devastates and preserves, hurts and stimulates a return to reality, destroys and pushes to build other new relationships and much more. Indifference itself may not be filled with anything, but it has a lot to do with it, it is almost impossible to treat it with indifference. Perhaps indifference will come later, but the meeting itself with the indifference of another person excite different feelings.
To begin with, we turn to the most general definition of the concept of "indifference." Indifference is a state of an indifferent person, indifferent, devoid of interest, passive attitude to the environment (Explanatory Dictionary of Ushakov. D.N. Ushakov. 1935-1940). Indifference, a synonym for indifference, ...
Which feeling is stronger: love or indifference? Psychology of Personality
You probably know men who stay in the family quite indifferent, many of them are married and have children. From time to time, out of pity or boredom, the husband pays attention to his wife's crumbs, but he replies to any of her complaints about the illness, stories about the successes of children or their failures: “Why should I talk about this, will I do what?” Like a zombie, he goes to an unloved job, lives in a dingy seashell of dullness and routine, not even realizing that he himself is to blame for the fact that his life is so meaningless. He does not care about the successes and failures of his wife and children, and even more so for someone else's misfortune. The mask of indifference on the face of the husband over the years kills love, God forbid you to be the wife of such a person.
An indifferent person has a rather callous heart. He rarely admits that he is indifferent to everything, but manifests it in everything that relates to his family and friends. The roots of human indifference go far into childhood. Not…
The problem of indifference
Indifference and indifference are the worst vices of today's life. Recently, we have come across this so often that for us such behavior of people, unfortunately, is becoming the norm. Almost every day you can see the indifference of people. Have you ever thought about where it comes from?
Reasons for indifference
Often indifference is a way of protecting a person, an attempt to shut oneself from harsh reality. For example, if a person is often humiliated or hurt by offensive phrases, he will try to avoid negative emotions and will not make contact with others. That is why a person will unconsciously try to show an indifferent look so that he is not touched.
But over time, the following trend may develop: a person will have a problem of human indifference, because indifference will become his inner state, not only in relation to himself, but to others.
It’s not human hatred that kills us ...
INDEPENDENT, INDIFFERENCE
We habitually believe that being indifferent is bad, and being indifferent is good. Before agreeing or challenging this point of view, let's try to figure out who, in fact, is such an indifferent person.
An indifferent person is someone who is not interested in anything that is not personally connected with him.
Is it possible to demand from a person that he is interested in the fact that he is not personally affected? Respect for this is possible. But in my opinion, it is impossible to demand.
Indifference is a charge for the soul.
And charging, as you know, is voluntary. Someone wants to engage in physical education of his soul, but someone either does not want to, or came up with some other training for her.
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Indifference, the indifference of others. Communication problems between a man and a woman.
They say that there is nothing worse than an indifferent person. It is indifference and indifference that contribute to wars, quarrels, crises and disasters. But what could be a priori worse than an indifferent person? No answer. No comments.
If you are indifferent to the enemy, it is certainly good that you were able to achieve this state. But if you are artificially indifferent, and you are tormented by certain emotions, this is completely different. On the whole, there is nothing worse than indifference in the world, in the galaxy, and in the entire universe.
And what to do when the man has cooled down to you? At the first meetings, a man usually shows interest ... This is manifested before the wedding, and after some time. And what to do when you have ceased to be interesting to your man, and his motivation towards you at zero?
Psychologists of course ...
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Whenever you walk across the bridge, you meet an old grandmother who quietly stands at the railing with her outstretched hand. Few passers-by remain indifferent to this silent request for help: who gives her a coin, and some paper notes. Granny mutters words of gratitude in response and is baptized.
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Before we plunge headlong into the formation of true self-confidence, let's take a step back and try to understand what constitutes confidence.
Confidence is knowing that what you own will subsequently become what you want and make you happier. This is a necessary condition for an idea to become an action.
Confidence is the ability to believe in yourself when a big deal is planned, raise your hand when an interesting project appears, or speak at a conference (and without any excitement!). Confidence is not a 100% guarantee that everything will always work out, but it helps to get out of your comfort zone, expand your boundaries and take a course towards success.
Statistics confirm that success is more associated with confidence than with competence. So, here are five steps to self-confidence.
1. Depict Confidence
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I think many people like to talk on philosophical topics ?! - I propose to talk about indifference.
And so, what is - INDIVIDUALS?
If you delve into the primary sources, you can find the following concept for this term:
“Indifference is the state of a person in which he does not show the slightest interest in anything.”
The synonyms of the word indifference are apathy, indifference, callousness, insensibility, heartlessness, indifference, indifference, passivity, and soullessness.
For example, I will give several definitions of the synonyms of Indifference:
- indifference is indifference to questions of knowledge, morality, public life;
- passivity - inaction, indifference to the environment;
- indifference (from lat. Indifferens) - indifference, indifference, indifference.
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What does it mean to be a confident person?
Let's figure out what it means to be a confident person:
- Do what you want, how you want and when you want;
- When comparing yourself with others, do not allow a big gap;
- Do not worry beyond measure that others will think about you;
- Know your rights and be able to defend them;
- Be persistent, achieving what you want;
- To be able to say “No” if there is no desire to do anything;
- Allow yourself to make mistakes, lose with dignity;
- Believe in yourself and your abilities;
- Act confidently, even if you really worry;
- Do not compensate for the uncertainty of aggression;
- To make compliments and gratefully accept them;
- Rejoice at new contacts and be able to maintain old ones;
Sometimes the whole way of life from birth is aimed at raising uncertainty.
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Instruction manual
Learn to soberly evaluate any situations and look for ways out of them. Do not panic, even if something terrible happened. Calm down and think it over. There are no hopeless situations; always remember this. If you can’t solve the problem right away, forget about it for a while, and then remember and take a fresh look at it.
Define your life priorities. Make a list of what really matters to you: family, work, health, home, study, and so on. Everything else can be called secondary. And if something is not important for you, then you should not worry about it.
Always think that at any moment everything can change. And this means that what scared you and made you worry, tomorrow may become unimportant. And why then take everything to heart? Also convince yourself that everything that is done and is happening is for the better. Therefore, reconcile with what is happening and be sure that it is so necessary.
To become indifferent, you need to learn to abstract from everything and not think about the bad. Do not pay attention to trifles and details, even if they bother you, anger or annoy you. Highlight only the main and important. And understand that most of the problems and troubles you invented. Drive away bad thoughts from yourself, do not make hasty conclusions, do not tune in advance to an unfavorable outcome of the situation.
Learn to look at situations from the side, imagine that you are watching a film and are one of its heroes. This method will always keep calm and think objectively. Soon you will notice how you stop focusing on your feelings and experiences and begin to see the big picture without getting upset about the little things.
Indifference is the preservation of neutrality whenever possible. Do not take sides, do not take one or another position. Do not take part in other people's disputes and do not support those who have nothing to do with you. Do not enter into conflicts, this is useless.
If you want to be indifferent, learn to control your emotions. Remember that with tears and screams nothing can be proved or achieved. And in some situations, the opponent specifically provokes you and waits for a reaction. Ignore provocations, keep calm. If you get nervous, count to 10 and take a deep breath several times.
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Do not strive for complete indifference, because you are a person with feelings, emotions and thoughts.
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It is better to be indifferent when necessary, and not in any situations.
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- How to be indifferent
Indifference is not a very good human quality, but a drop of composure will not hurt people who take everything to heart. If you do not have innate indifference, you can develop this quality in yourself.
Instruction manual
If you are determined to develop your indifference to everything that surrounds you, you must first learn to control yourself. Whatever situation you are in, try not to panic, but soberly assess the situation. When a person gives vent to emotions, he is able to inflate a real catastrophe from the smallest trouble. To get rid of unnecessary excitement, set yourself up for positive thoughts and understand that you are much stronger than you think, so you can cope with all the problems.
If you encounter any troubles, inspire yourself that you can get rid of them on your own. No need to tell all your friends, acquaintances and relatives, as they can further aggravate the situation and impose on you the opinion that your troubles are a global insoluble problem.
As soon as you face the difficulties that have arisen, concentrate on them and imagine them in the form of a tight knot that tightens even more when you start to get nervous and panic. If you keep calm and indifference, this knot gradually begins to weaken. Configure yourself that your life is only in your hands, and everything that happens in it, you can completely control and radically change for the better. Remember that it is not your emotions that should govern you, but you them.
Your indifference should begin not only with your internal state, but also with your facial expressions. Learn to clearly manage your movements and gestures. No need to panic, it is best to try in any situation to maintain a calm and calm face expression. People around you will begin to understand that you are a cold-blooded person, and your opinion will begin to change from their opinion.
You cannot remain calm and treat things indifferently if you are tired and feel weak, uncomfortable. Carefully monitor your daily routine and do not let the body get tired. Timely rest will help you control your emotions, feelings and thoughts. In addition, do not forget about a healthy lifestyle and proper nutrition.
If you still feel a fit of excitement, try to calm down. In this you will help breathing exercises. Breathe deeply, take deep breaths and take them no more often and no less than one in 2-4 seconds. In addition, moderate physical activity helps fight stress.
Sometimes a girl spends too much moral strength on others and at the same time does not receive any return. Do not worry very much about how others relate to you. Develop immunity to other people's unconstructive criticism and become more indifferent to everyone.
Relationship with people
Think about why you are so worried about how your relationship with others develops. If you give others more than you receive in return, this is dishonest and wrong. Your friends and acquaintances should not use your kindness. And you do not solve their problems.
Learn to refuse refusal to your uncomfortable requests. Think more about yourself. Some detachment in this case will only be at your fingertips. Do not take other people's difficulties too close to your heart, solve your own questions. If a person comes up to you and asks for some kind of favor, you can, without excuse, politely refuse immediately or promise to think about the proposal.
Stop depending on the opinions of others. Do not try to please all the people. Firstly, this is impossible, because those around have completely different tastes and principles, you cannot please everyone at the same time, no matter how wonderful a person. Secondly, this way you will only lose your own personality.
Self confidence
Perhaps you are so eager to help others because you consider yourself unworthy of attention. Better focus on your own life. To become indifferent to those who do not value you, you need to love yourself more, treat your own person better. Improve your self-esteem. Remember all your victories, strengths of character. You need to understand what value you have for people and stop pleasing others.
Understand that you do not need other people to be happy. You are a self-sufficient person who should not cling to others. Of course, some kind of norm of communication with other members of society is necessary. But do not lose your dignity because of this. Be polite, but somewhat detached.
Forget man
Sometimes it is necessary to break off relationships that have exhausted themselves, and a girl does not dare to take this step, because she does not want to part with a person. Whether it is a friend or partner, if he behaved inappropriately with you, you need to find strength in yourself and put an end to your relationship.
Remember all the unpleasant moments that a particular person delivered to you. If you value yourself, you will not allow yourself to be treated like that. When a person disappoints you, you just need to feel sorry for him and let him go, cross him out of your life. If you are betrayed, crossed a certain line, forget about this person. Let all calm feelings leave you only calm indifference.
Girl Scorpio is very multifaceted. It can be different: unpredictable, fatal, contradictory, secretive. She may be beautiful or not very pretty, but her hypnotic look for a long time cuts into memory.
You can love or hate the girl of Scorpio, but it is impossible to remain indifferent to her.
Instruction manual
Argue with her and criticize her;
To be with Scorpio, you need to take her as she is:
Passionate and emotional;
Sensitive and vulnerable;
In everything prone to extremes;
Hot-tempered, unpredictable and contradictory.
Under no circumstances do not make money in it. The Scorpio woman is vindictive and does not forgive insults.
Marriage with a girl Scorpio can become either heaven or hell. There is no middle ground. If the girl Scorpio really loves you, she will become faithful and faithful to you forever. She is ready to make huge sacrifices for the sake of the one to whom she is really attached, and fight for him.
The Scorpio woman becomes a punishment for someone who has not found an approach to her. But also she is a prize that goes to the winner only!
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The Scorpio woman looks down on those women who are suitable for the role of a tender woman and mother. But she knows how to control her desire to dominate, perfectly acting as a feminine creature. And he does it with greater grace than the signs in which (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) the male side is also present.
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Love horoscope Women Scorpio. The beauty of a Scorpio woman has a pronounced mystical character. Scorpio is seductive, self-confident and proud. But she has one secret desire. The Scorpio woman refers to the representatives of her gender with some contempt. She is ridiculous of their attempts to charm her lover, save her husband or grumble over the child. She herself will never humble herself before this.
Many people consider indifferent people to be heartless. However, indifference helps to be impartial, to judge things without giving in to emotions, and also not to load yourself with a lot of other people's problems that surround a person daily. Being indifferent is not so difficult.
