What is more important: to love or to be loved? To love or to be loved.

A work on literature: “What is more important: to love or to be loved?”

Love is an exalted and bright feeling. What is more important: to love or be loved. I believe that there is no single answer to this question. It seems to me that both are important, and so I prefer mutual love. How warm it becomes on the soul of a man in love when he realizes that his feelings are mutual. It is quite difficult to achieve sincere mutual love. It takes a long time to look for that one and only in order to become truly happy. Sometimes you have to go through many years to feel what it means to truly love. So, love is diverse, but still very good if it is mutual.

To prove my point, I allow myself to turn to the works of fiction. Let us give an example of mutual love from Leo Tolstoy's novel War and Peace. The main character of the novel, Natasha Rostova, having married Pierre, realized that her happiness lies in the family. Children and her husband made her happy. Outwardly, she has changed for the worse, she’s greatly replenished, but this did not bother her at all. The main thing for her and Pierre is mutual love for each other. What seemed surprising to me was that Natasha got the better of her husband. She commanded him, but at the same time took care of him. When Pierre worked, Natasha achieved complete silence in the house. Pierre obeyed his wife, and he liked it. At the end of the novel, we learn that Natasha and Pierre already have four children, and this is a confirmation of mutual love and happiness.

In the work of Kuprin, “Olesya,” mutual love is also shown, only it was sacrificial. Namely, through sacrificial love, we understand that they love us. The focus is Ivan Timofeevich and Olesya. Once, while hunting in the forest, Ivan Timofeevich wanders into the house of his grandmother, who lived with her granddaughter Olesya. After this incident, Ivan Timofeevich became a frequent guest in this house, because the heroes fell in love. They encountered many difficulties on their way. One day, Ivan Timofeevich learns that a policeman came to these women with a demand to release the hut before a certain time. Ivan Timofeevich helps them by sacrificing his gun, which he gives to the officer. Of course, the officer leaves them alone. Olesya, learning about this act of Ivan Timofeevich, feels love for him. At the end of the work, we learn that our heroine also makes a sacrifice for love. Firstly, she decides to go to church, although she knew that this act would not lead to anything good for her. And indeed, she experienced humiliation and bullying by women. Then, for the sake of love, Olesya overcame herself, and she and her grandmother left this place. We see that our heroes loved each other, were ready to make a sacrifice for the sake of a loved one.

Let me draw some conclusions on all of the above. Love plays an important role in human life. This is great happiness - mutual love. Prove to your loved ones that they are dear to you. And, of course, love each other!

Sokolova Maria, Grade 11, MOU Secondary School No. 1 named after Ivan Nechaev Chistye Bory Kostroma region.

Many couples live happily married and enjoy their feelings. However, why do some people have the question: "What is more important - to love or to be loved?" Why should a person make such a choice? Is it possible to be happy in such a situation?

What does it mean to love?

Love is the highest feeling inherent in man and expressed in deep affection and sympathy for someone. In philosophy, it is considered as a subjective attitude to the subject of adoration.

It is important to understand what the word “love” means, and also to be able to distinguish it from falling in love. The latter, as a rule, is accompanied by a storm of emotions and passions, but it is not long-term. Only if the relationship becomes serious and time-tested, you can talk about love.

Each person has his own view of the world, special values \u200b\u200band ideals. Accordingly, the answer to the question “what does it mean to love and how it should be manifested” is also individual for everyone. There are no uniform norms and criteria for this feeling. What is completely unacceptable in a relationship for one person is the norm for another.

Love and happiness

Each person has their own ideas about happiness. Someone believes that it consists in a huge amount of money, for some it is an interesting job, someone sees it as an opportunity to travel. However, most people associate happiness with love. Only she gives us unusual, unlike anything emotions that she so wants to experience again and again.

Experiencing separation or divorce, people are so shocked that sometimes they do not want to continue living. It seems to them that happiness has forever left their home. Someone is trying to quickly forget and fall in love again, while some still fail to recover after separation.

Desire to be loved

In every person, the desire to be loved is inherent in nature. From birth, a child needs maternal affection and care. Then, growing up, young people seek to find their soul mate. There is no girl who would never dream of being loved and happy.

Everyone likes signs of attention, compliments, gifts, care from the opposite sex. Even if a person does not feel reciprocal feelings, it’s quite nice to realize that someone loves you. This increases self-esteem, warms pride. To know that someone in this world loves you and needs you is wonderful.

Man need to love

No less important is the need of a person to experience the brightest feelings in relation to someone. In youth, boys and girls are open to love and are only waiting for someone to whom it can bring down. That is why it is so easy for young people to find their ideal and dissolve in it.

There is nothing more beautiful than the feeling of falling in love. At the same time, it seems to stop, and life takes on a new meaning. Lovers look forward to each new meeting with each other, and thoughts constantly carry them to the object of adoration. Even if feelings are unrequited, they bring not only suffering. If a person is able to love at least once in his life, he knows what real happiness is.

Reasons that people refuse to love

The need to both love and be loved is inherent in man by nature. What leads to the fact that some people are not able to find mutual feelings? Why do they wonder what is more important - to love or to be loved?

As a rule, failures and problems with previous partners can lead to the fact that a person wants to close forever from love. Some people completely abandon any relationship, temporarily or permanently doom themselves to loneliness. Others decide that it is still necessary to have a family, but at the same time they are afraid and do not want to fall in love again. In this situation, they come to the conclusion that you need to look for a partner who would love them. Moreover, they themselves do not want to experience any feelings, they want to be indifferent.

Another reason that you can allow yourself to love is the calculation. Very often, girls marry a wealthy man, not feeling any feelings for him, and sometimes even hating him. In some situations, hopelessness pushes such an act. For example, a woman left with a small child in her arms without a livelihood is forced to take advantage of the protection of a rich gentleman, if there is such an opportunity. There are, incidentally, men who do not mind living at the expense of a lady. The prospect of a secure and carefree life for such people is placed above the senses.

To love without reciprocity

Sometimes a person decides that the main thing for him is to love himself, no matter what. The coldness and indifference of the partner is not taken into account. Such a person experiences such strong feelings that he cannot imagine his life without an object of adoration and is ready to be with him on any conditions.

Often you can encounter a situation where a wife is madly in love with her husband. She turns a blind eye to his betrayals, tries to please him in everything, looks after her appearance, perfectly cooks, but she cannot achieve reciprocity from her husband. As a rule, such a woman understands that all her actions will not lead to anything, but she still does not dare to divorce. She cannot imagine herself without a husband; she believes that it is better to live like this than to break off a relationship forever.

In marriages where the man is much older than his wife, reciprocity of feelings is also very often absent. An elderly person understands that a young girl does not love him and lives with him because of money, but agrees to such a relationship. There are several reasons for this. Firstly, he is pleased to appear in public with such a companion. The envy of friends and acquaintances warms his male pride. Secondly, he understands perfectly well that he will not succeed in finding the same young girl who would sincerely love him, and therefore initially does not count on reciprocal feelings.

Self-esteem and love

It's no secret that self-esteem and love are closely related. They exert a huge influence on each other and are constantly in close dependence.

When a person hears a phrase from someone: “I love you,” regardless of whether he experiences reciprocity or not, his self-esteem immediately rises. If you are constantly the object of attention of people of the opposite sex, you feel self-confidence and feel attractive and desirable. In turn, this further attracts the enthusiastic looks of others.

Failures in relationships can have a negative effect on self-esteem. It is aggravated at times if the partner kept saying that you will never find anyone better than him, constantly pointing out your shortcomings and criticizing all your actions. All this leads to the fact that self-esteem is lowered so much that you completely cease to consider yourself worthy to be with your loved one and build a normal relationship.

One thing to remember is that for someone to love you, you must first have respect for yourself and not lose your dignity. Relations in which you are humiliated and offended, it is better to terminate as soon as possible. Having adequate self-esteem, you will surely meet someone with whom you will be happy. And you will certainly learn how to be the most beloved.

If only one loves ...

It would seem that there should be fewer problems in a union in which one loves, and the second only allows himself to be loved, than in an ordinary couple. Anyone who experiences this feeling himself, enjoys intimacy with a partner, enjoys every moment spent together. He who allows himself to love is not jealous, does not worry, does not require undue attention, does not roll up scandals if, for example, the spouse did not pick up the phone or was late at work. However, in such a union, problems are more than usual. And it’s hard to be happy for both partners.

Without experiencing any feelings for her husband and living with him side by side every day, a person begins to get angry and frustrated because of every little thing. He is annoyed by absolutely everything that the partner does or says, even if he tries to please everything. A person seeks to spend as much time as possible outside the house, ignore his spouse, and seek outlets on the side.

Anyone who sincerely loves a partner cannot be happy, faced with constant indifference on his part. Even if at first a person agrees to any conditions, subsequently he will be more and more lacking in response feelings. He increasingly begins to think about what is more important - to love or be loved. It is likely that someday his patience will end, and he will decide to build a relationship based on reciprocity.

Is it possible to live without love?

Sometimes, having experienced terrible disappointment on the love front, people decide for themselves that there will no longer be any relationship in their life. They do not think it is more important to love or be loved, but simply put an end to their personal lives.

Most often, such people go headlong to work, devote themselves to children, try to find some kind of hobby. They reject all kinds of signs of attention, refuse to meet and behave coldly with persons of the opposite sex. As a rule, women do not admit men to themselves at all. Representatives of the stronger sex behave somewhat differently. Men decide for themselves that they will never say the phrase "I love you." Most often they allow an easy, non-binding relationship, but then stop them as soon as they feel the pressure from the partner.

Is it possible to live without love? Perhaps, yes, and many succeed. The only question is whether these people are happy ...

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What is more important: to love or to be loved? “All love is great happiness, even if it is not divided,” - this famous Bunin phrase reflects the understanding of love as happiness in human life. And it’s not really important whether you love or love someone ... The eternal secret of love and the eternal drama of lovers and unrequited love Ivan Alekseevich Bunin sees that a person is involuntary in his love passion: love is a spontaneous, inevitable, passionate and often tragic because happiness is unattainable ...

This is Bunin's short story, “Easy Breathing.” His composition is such that from the first lines we learn about the tragically broken life of the schoolgirl Olya Meshcherskaya, we see her portrait "with amazingly lively eyes" embedded in the "cross of oak." The writer uses a ring composition, beginning and ending the narrative with a description of this cross. Olenka was killed out of jealousy - an everyday drama. "Easy breathing" is very fragile, it disappears, it is simply interrupted, as the "deceived Olya" Cossack officer did. But Olya was unusual: grace, elegance, dexterity, gleam in her eyes ”- this distinguished her from other gymnasium students.

To reflect the theme of love, Bunin uses a special compositional device - the antithesis, the opposition. "Easy breathing" Olya is opposed to the ordinary vulgar world, "strong, heavy cross" on her grave; the beautiful aristocrat Malyutin, who seduced Olya, was a plebeian, a Cossack officer, an ugly and unpleasant person, he had a stormy life and an early “female experience” of Olenka, a fictional life for a “middle-aged girl”, a classy lady. "Easy breathing" is impudence, lightness, naivety in love, and even the death of Olenka. Despite her “experience of a woman”, Olya is pure and natural, she retained a “light breath”, which “dispersed in the world in a cold autumn wind”.

The master in depicting the world of human feelings, including love, was Alexander Ivanovich Kuprin, the author of the novel "Garnet Bracelet". I recall the words of Kazan, the hero of the novel “The Duel”, that “love is a talent akin to musical”. And in the story reflected in the story “Pomegranate Bracelet”, there is a real fact - the story of a humble official’s love for a secular lady, mother L. Lyubimova.

One of the key fragments in the story is the name-day of Princess Vera, where all the characters in the story gather. The gift of a stranger who wrote to the princess for a long time has a symbolic meaning. The garnet bracelet itself is low-grade, but densely red garnets light up with live fires, like blood (this is an alarming omen, according to Princess Vera). Yolks gives the most valuable things he has - a family jewel, a mother’s bracelet. This is a symbol of his hopeless, disinterested love, which no hero of the story has ever met in his life, even General Anosov. It was he who, in conversation with Vera, asked the question: “And where is love, then? .. selfless, not waiting for a reward? The one about which it is said is "as strong as death." Love must be a tragedy, the greatest mystery in the world! ”

Here is such a “greatest secret in the world” was presented by the telegraph operator Zheltkov to Princess Vera, it was she who turned out to be stronger than death, because by leaving the life Zheltkov proved its truth, just such a love that happens “one in a thousand years” ...

Thinking about the values \u200b\u200bof love, each of us must decide for himself what is more important for him: to love or to be loved. It is much more important to remember the wise advice expressed not only by Bunin, Kuprin and other writers and poets, and once, as A.S. Pushkin, say:

And the heart burns again and loves - because

What can not love it can not ...

Bugaevskaya Diana, grade 11

Teacher Maslennikova Galina Vladimirovna

What is more important: to love or to be loved? This question was asked by a person to himself, and not
many (1) were able to answer this question (2). What is love for us? (3)
Love for us (4) is to love someone or something. That is, (5) for example (5) you
I mean either a certain person or in love (6) with a certain place (7). we
all this is well understood. But what does it mean to be loved? Maybe (8) love
by someone (9) or something else (10). As we noticed (11) to love or be loved
(12) it is their own reflection. But there is such a case (13) as unrequited
love. By this we mean not (14) mutual feelings for each other in
dei. We see that love is either mutual or all (15) leads to unrequited. To
better understood (16), we turn to the products.

In Rasputin's work “Farewell to Matera” we see (17) how people are not
willingly want to leave (18) Matera Island. They will have to leave, because soon everything
houses on this island will be flooded (19) with water. People still (20) lazy live on Mtёr.
They have everything with (21): beloved nature; all events that have occurred since (21) here.
They love this island, but they have to leave it. From (21) here (22) we saw
love for something, and more specifically (23) for the place of residence (24).

In the next work of Gorky, “Old Woman Izergil” we will talk about
like a hawk man (25) wanted to be loved. When the old woman talked about him,
the hawk-man appeared to people, they did not understand who it was in front of them. When-
the hawk-man examined them, then he saw a beautiful girl among them, and then
he wanted to marry her, but she refused. Everyone was struck by his reaction, he pulled out
her breasts are heart. All (26) were furious, they asked (27) why he did this.
In his defense, he said that he wanted her to love him. C (21) here we are
saw that a person himself might want to be loved (28).

Or Bunin’s work “Easy breathing” when the girl (29) is from the gymnasium,
(30) behaves like a stately (31) woman: expensive shoes, adult-style
us hair. She was loved by the teacher’s brother from her gymnasium. C (21) here so
the same (32) shows that the main character was loved (33). But now consider (34)
when a person, the main character, loves someone. And this is in the work of Kuprin “Gra-
nat bracelet. " The main character loved a married woman, she knew about it.
Unrequitedly loved until the last call, which the husband of the heroine allowed to make.
When he called her, she was in shock (35). After the call, the hero realized that he
tells her to live. He (36) decided, since she does not love him, to disappear forever from her
of life. We (37) saw (38) what we are ready for the sake of loved ones. We (39) did everything
to make them happy.

To love or to be loved? We choose ourselves, our feelings, emotions in pain-
Most (40) do it for us. And that (41) that we have chosen (41) is most important for us.
For someone (42), it may be (42) the most important thing is to be loved, and for someone it is most important
mouth. In the question of love, few will tell you the correct answer. Ask a few
people: “What is love?” They all answer (43) differently. Do not think (44) that
others told you. The important thing is (45) what you think.

Commentary on the essay

The proposed topic is not disclosed.

The work contains general reasoning relevant to the topic,
but there is no depth of consideration of examples on literary material; appeal to
literary works are cited at a primitive level. Judgments
nicknames are superficial. Literary material is involved formally: significantly
the inability of the student to delve into the work and comprehend it. The student does not feel-
em of the author’s position, replacing it with his own understanding at the household level,
offers a simplified interpretation of images.

In the work there is a repeated violation of the paragraph division of the text
work and logical errors.

The work is characterized by a low level of speech culture:
different types of speech errors: unsuccessful usage, violation of compatible
words, misuse of synonyms, pleonasm, poverty of vocabulary, speech
stamps.

The composition is replete with spelling, punctuation, grammar
mistakes.

No. 1 - spelling mistake;

No. 2 - speech error (repetition of a word);

No. 3 - speech error: unjustified inversion;

No. 4 - punctuation error (skipping dashes);

No. 5 - punctuation error (missing commas in the opening word);

No. 6 - spelling mistake;

No. 7 - grammatical error: cannot be used as homogeneous different
common concepts: man and place;

No. 8 - punctuation error (missing commas in the opening word);

No. 9 - grammatical error;

No. 10 - grammar and logic;

No. 11 - punctuation error (missing commas in the introductory sentence -
nii);

No. 12 - speech error: the meaning of the statement is not clear;

No. 13 - logical error: the statement is not connected with the previous sentence -
as it assumes that in the previous text were considered
other cases, but they were not considered;

No. 14 - spelling mistake;

No. 15 - speech: incomplete statements. What exactly does “everything” lead to?

No. 16 - speech: it’s not entirely clear from the sentence: “better understand” what?

No. 17 - punctuation error;

No. 18 - grammatical: misuse of the preposition;

No. 19 - grammatical error: incorrect choice of the form of the word;

No. 20 - spelling mistake;

No. 21 - spelling mistake;

No. 22 - speech error: repetition of words;

No. 23 - punctuation error;

No. 24 - a grammatical error: the wrong choice of the word form;

No. 25 - factual error;

No. 26 - speech error: repetition of words;

No. 27 - punctuation error;

No. 28 - grammatical and logical error;

No. 29 - speech error: it would be appropriate to use a synonym without an assessment
vocabulary;

No. 30 - punctuation error;

No. 31 - a speech error: a misunderstanding of the word “stately” leads to its incorrect
new use;

No. 32 - spelling mistake;

No. 33 - logical error: inappropriate repetition of the thoughts of the previous pre-
lodging;

No. 34 - punctuation error;

No. 35 - speech error, it is better to replace the speech revolution with a more book word,
for example, “surprised”;

No. 36 - unjustified repetition of a pronoun;

No. 37 - punctuation error;

No. 38 - Speech Error: An unexpected change of faces. The text of the essay was
about the hero of the story, which is unexpectedly replaced by the pronoun "we";
No. 39 - punctuation error;

No. 40 - spelling mistake;

No. 41 - punctuation error;

No. 42 - punctuation error;

No. 43 - spelling mistake;

No. 44 - punctuation error;

No. 45 - punctuation error

Instruction manual

Unrequited love is always a big drama. A woman perfectly understands that she has no chance of reciprocity, it is impossible to force a person to fall in love, because it is not without reason that they say that you can’t order the heart. At heart, she continues to hope for something and at the same time constantly fears that her beloved will fall in love with someone else, and she will lose him - now forever. A woman wants to constantly see him, take care of him, make pleasant surprises for him. That's just him it is completely indifferent.

She understands that such a situation cannot last forever, but most often nothing can be done about herself. Oddly enough, even in this you can find positive points. A person can be happy from the fact that his heart is filled with love, life takes on a new meaning and it is not so important whether love or not. A loving person, and even more so a woman, with different eyes looks at the world around him, and he begins to shimmer with bright colors simply because he has the very one, beloved and unique, even if he will never be there.

Any, even seemingly happy and mutual love cannot exist without jealousy, worries, temporary disagreements, people begin to make claims to each other, often, in their passion, they decide to leave. If a person loves, realizing that he does not have hope for a reciprocal feeling, and without asking for anything in return, this speaks of the beauty of his soul and the wealth of his inner world.

Another situation is possible. A woman meets a man who loves her very much, tries to surround her with attention, and she only allows herself to be loved, without experiencing a reciprocal feeling. In this case, she gets the opportunity to manipulate the lover, takes his attention for granted, readily accepts expensive gifts and does not feel remorse at all because she plays with other people's feelings.

Living in this case is even easier. A woman does not feel jealousy, does not feel obligated to even try to do something for this man, and only uses the fruits of his love. However, she does not experience any spiritual uplift.

What is better - to love, knowing that there will be no reciprocity, or to allow an unloved person to surround himself with love and care? Everyone makes a decision for himself. As a rule, at a young age, girls consider unrequited love a terrible tragedy, but with pleasure they take beautiful courtship of a person to whom they themselves are completely indifferent. When spiritual maturity sets in, it becomes easier for a woman to accept a situation in which only she loves and find the meaning of life in her love.

Of course, the greatest happiness is to love and be loved at the same time, and it is just wonderful when a person, even if he has survived the pain and suffering of unrequited love in the past, still manages to find it.