What if I am dumb? Signs of dullness. Why does a person feel dumb
Good day. I wrote my story on the site earlier. Nothing has changed and even worsened with one exception - I found a job as a student car mechanic. But, unfortunately, I will remain so. It turned out that I'm dumb. I have problems with attention and thinking. Logically, I understand what exactly needs to be done, but I doubt it, and in the end I am doing everything wrong. Because of this, my mechanic speaks displeasedly about me. I ask stupid questions all the time. I am doing wrong simple operations. At first, I see that everything seems to be right, as if swaddled before my eyes. But then the mechanic points me to the grossest errors. Recently, I bent over the threshold of an expensive car - I set it incorrectly on a lift. Fortunately, nothing happened in terms of damages. Here I am such an idiot. Another time I can pay for repairs. Because of my brainlessness, I forget to spin something. A person may die. Everything falls out of my hands when someone else intently watches me. Of course, in my case, you can refer to inexperience, but I have been working for 3 months, and certain conclusions can be drawn about me. For comparison, the vast majority of my friends are ready to independently work on such work after a week of training. I ask for advice on how to live with such stupidity. I must say right away that the church is not for me. And the point. Maybe I should contact a psychiatrist? I apologize for my nonsense, because many here really did have great sorrow, not like mine.
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Shame, age: 01/22/2016
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Contact a psychologist and a neurologist, let him advise something to improve concentration. Get enough sleep, be sure to exercise, they are useful for general tone, and therefore, the brain will be better. Try to find something on the net, exercise attention, read books. Or maybe you should try another thing, if you consider this work elementary, this does not mean that it is so. Try it and find yours, good luck!
Artyom, age: 01/31/2016
What are you - you are not stupid at all, including judging by your fairly competent and logically structured message. And even more so with this, as you think, the problem, you should not contact any psychiatrist. The thing is that you are afraid to seem stupid, as you put it. The advice is if you don’t understand something, don’t be afraid to ask again at least 2 or 3 times. You can ask in this way, I understood you correctly, you need to do this? "" Do not be afraid to seem stupid, after all, your teacher is also not a doctor of sciences) Do not compare yourself with others - someone masters faster, someone slower. Even if you did something wrong, do not let anyone draw conclusions about your mind. You will succeed !!! Good luck!
Alena, age: 01/26/2016
Hello !! Everyone has training in different ways. Someone quickly grasps someone worse. Experience comes with time. Over time, everything will be well, do not worry. The main thing is not to give up. Let them say what they want. Perseverance and labor will grind everything. Good luck.
Mila, age: 01/29/2016
I think you should look for another job. As I understand it, you make most of the mistakes when other people control you. Perhaps you need to work alone and have less contact with people. If your spelling is correct, then you are definitely not stupid. Another option is to go to a psychologist (not a therapist). He will help you faster and help you deal with your low self-esteem, which prevents you from realizing
haiwan, age: 01/26/2016
Darling, you're just afraid to make a mistake, afraid to screw up in front of someone and in front of yourself. Understand: none of the people were born immediately with the skills of a doctor, locksmith or electrician. Everyone learns, including from their mistakes. But, of course, if your mistakes can lead to tragedy, then they cannot be allowed. But there is no need to despair about this. Attention problems - drink vitamins, really go to the doctor, talk about your worries.
And stop thinking that you have any problems with attention or thinking. You’re just wildly nervous, that’s a mess. You will remain calm and think thoughtfully - everything will work out!
Importantly, stop scolding yourself. This certainly will not make anyone any better. Pull yourself together, keep working, and everything will be fine!
d, age: 01/19/2016
Hi, I would like to say that everything will be fine, so be it if you help yourself. I’m not a doctor, I’m a simple guy like you with the same problems, there are thousands of us, see how many of us are on this site, Fight and everything will turn out. most likely you have an increased level of social anxiety, it’s not a matter of stupidity, just when communicating with colleagues you have an internal tension and all the energy goes into neutralizing it, that's why you are “stupid”, “slow down” try to go to a psychologist or psychotherapist problem solvable) good luck companion
Aglen, age: 01/21/2016
Hello! You say that the church is not for you. And completely in vain! After all, everything that happens to you is a consequence of pride, against which Christianity calls to fight. Forgive my peremptory, but I know what I'm saying. Itself went through this. Pride gives rise to a fear of making a mistake, because of this the psyche is overloaded and a person cannot perform a task in a high-quality manner, even if he is very capable. Back in school, I noticed that this is exactly what is happening to me. Having learned the lesson well and got up at the answer board, I was still afraid, all of a sudden I would say something was wrong and they would laugh at me .... the result, I always answered worse than I actually knew the material. At the university, the same situation. Now I have a good favorite job, but I still have not overcome my * proud pride * I go to the temple, confess and take communion. Of course there are changes, but there is still a lot of work on yourself. You need to understand that you are the same person as the people around you, and you and they have the right to make a mistake. One person cannot work equally well in all areas and spheres of life. Someone cooks well, while someone does not know how to cook, but he sews excellently. And this is good, thanks to this situation, we all enrich and complement each other. Do not be afraid to make mistakes, forgive yourself and people for mistakes and mistakes and you will see that there is a lot of good. Do not be afraid to ask and ask * stupid * questions; so you will gain experience and the fear of mistakes will slowly begin to recede. Good luck, everything is in your hands !!!
Tatyana, age: 01/30/2016
Hello! You are still young, not experienced, at the beginning it is always difficult, any work takes time to assimilate the knowledge gained, to become more confident. 3 months is still a short time, so do not despair. Try to be more careful, feel free to ask questions and ask questions again.
Irina, age: 01/28/2016
I think the matter of uncertainty, for many, someone else's opinion is important, although why is it important to be aware of yourself. I used to be so embarrassed that I was all wet from sweat, everyone thought that others were thinking about me. When I matured, I realized that their opinion was not important to me. You ask who you are, ask at least 20 times, this may not be convenient for you, but it will be better later. Well, and probably to a psychologist, sports and reading.
Paco, age: 1/35/2016
Hello, I have a similar problem. I suffer very much from carelessness and do not remember well. I believe, in no case do not consider yourself an idiot and stupid. And try to tune in in the morning, everything will be fine and everything will turn out. Other people were able to learn this profession and you succeed. We must try as much as possible and not pay attention to swearing, just work hard. And yet the church helps. Personally, I myself was convinced of this. You are a unique person with your own strengths and weaknesses, like all people. Even professors have flaws. And it happens that they say nonsense. God help you.
Larisa, age: 44/19/01/2016
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Why am I so stupid? A similar question can be asked by any person who finds himself in a new, unfamiliar situation. Moreover, the level of education and the degree of well-known does not play any role here. He simply does not know what to do, because he has not formed certain patterns of behavior.
This is not scary, but it makes you think a lot. To some extent, your own knowledge may even prevent you from feeling true self-confidence. A person who suffers from a lack of self-esteem, in many cases finds himself in a situation where he begins to doubt his mental abilities and raises himself with the question: "What if I am stupid?"
A person who is dissatisfied with his relationships with people around him, as a rule, begins to search for the truth within himself. In some cases, the search stretches for several months or even years. In order to determine your true values, you need extra time. If you do not push yourself and do not rush to conclusions, then you can restore peace of mind. The main thing is to be able to understand your own feelings, understand the true causes of the events.
Signs of dullness
By what criteria do we usually evaluate ourselves? After all, it often happens that we exaggerate our own shortcomings, constantly considering them for our complexes. The habit of constantly monitoring your experiences can gain a foothold over time and lead to an unsatisfactory result. What does it mean, dumb person? Let's try to figure it out!
Inability to hear the interlocutor
Such a person is extremely inattentive to what is happening around him. He focuses only on his own needs, and therefore tends to not notice the reactions of people.
The inability to hear the interlocutor as a result turns out to be that people around him begin to consider such a not very distant person. From the outside it seems that he is completely unable to delve into the subject of conversation, does not represent what is being discussed, that is, he is a vivid representative of stupid people. In fact, such a person is overly focused on his own experiences.
Poor learning
If it is difficult for a person to memorize any material, it is likely that he has a small amount of memory. In this case, concentration of attention necessarily suffers. Poor academic performance at school and subsequent educational institutions forms, as a rule, a significant degree of self-doubt. And many young people ask: "What if I am dumb in school?" They consider it completely useless to learn something new and put into practice the knowledge gained. Extreme self-doubt gives rise to additional problems associated with communication and self-realization.
It becomes difficult for a person to concentrate on the task at hand. Reflecting on the question "What if I am stupid and lazy," you should be guided by an individual approach. Each person is unique and has distinctive characteristics.
Causes
In order for such a sense of self to take shape, good reason is needed. Just because no one considers himself a complete insignificance. The sense of worthlessness is dictated by the feeling of one's own uselessness and the inability to somehow express oneself in society. Even once faced with misunderstanding, a person then expects ridicule all his life.
Unsure personalities tend to take too much at their own expense, even that which is not directly related to them. So, what are the reasons why many consider themselves stupid people? Let's consider them in more detail.
Habit of comparing
When a person feels stupid, in most cases conclusions are made based on a comparison of one’s own shortcomings with other people's merits. And this is a big mistake! People cannot be the same and have an equal supply of knowledge in all areas. Almost everyone has the habit of comparing themselves with others. She is due to a lack of self-confidence. The more we dig in, the more difficult it becomes to focus on everyday tasks.
When a person compares himself with others, he thereby signs his own weakness, takes away precious energy from himself. This condition cannot lead to something good, as it impedes development.
Disbelief in oneself
Only fully aware of their own prospects, a person can move forward. Everyone has opportunities, but not everyone understands how to apply existing knowledge in life. Disbelief in oneself actually blocks a lot of undertakings, does not allow a person to open up. Thus, self-realization becomes impossible, since it is hindered by the strong fear of a potential defeat that arises at the same time.
Each failure is experienced very hard, as if the happiness of a particular individual depends on it. "Well, why am I so stupid?" - the person constantly asks himself, asking himself and numerous other questions about his inferiority. In most cases, he has long been looking for ways to remake himself. This is because there is a fear of loneliness inside, coupled with a fear of not being up to par.
Diffidence
Self-doubt is another reason why a person may begin to consider himself a failure. It is hardly worth wondering that much is incomprehensible to him in life. If you constantly think about your own insolvency, then you can never advance in important matters and issues.
Self-doubt makes it very difficult to enjoy life, comprehend its boundaries and open up new perspectives. It is impossible to achieve success if you constantly look back at yourself in search of answers to a wide variety of questions. You can not oppress yourself with excruciating thoughts about your personal unrealization.
Psychological trauma
A traumatic situation is one of the most serious reasons that can undermine confidence in one's own abilities for a long time. It is very difficult for a person who is convinced of his impassable stupidity to begin to perceive himself in the exact opposite way.
Psychological trauma and internal conflicts are a serious barrier to being a full-fledged person. The feeling of happiness depends on many factors, and it is always subjective.
When there is a conviction inside that you cannot master the most basic skills, this creates an obstacle to the formation of a happy sense of self. It really seems to man that he is not capable of anything. Such thoughts are destructive: they do not help to build self-confidence in any way, but only convince the person of complete failure.
Interpersonal conflicts
Another reason why a person may consider himself near-minded is a feeling of resentment. It usually prevents adequate perception of the surrounding reality. When some need for life is not satisfied, the individual develops internal deprivation. Sometimes a person does not understand what is happening to him, because he has developed the habit of considering himself incapable of realizing the most ordinary things.
Existing conflicts with people often interfere with building normal harmonious relationships. Emotions such as fear, anger, resentment impede personal development in many respects, and prevent the appearance of a feeling of satisfaction. A person always needs to feel his need and involvement in the life of other people.
What to do
In order to get rid of the feeling of internal awkwardness, it is necessary to take certain actions. Without taking concrete steps, it is very difficult to free oneself from a sense of inferiority. What if I am dumb? Asking such a question, one should be extremely frank in front of oneself. Having a set of clear steps, you can quickly get rid of the problem.
Work with self-esteem
Stop calling yourself stupid! It is very important to free yourself from the feeling of internal discomfort, if you really want to start feeling different.
There is no need to constantly torment yourself, trying to cope with the existing problem. When a person calls himself stupid, then he signs in his own weakness. Most likely, other people will begin to perceive it accordingly. However, it is worth remembering that a short-sighted person will never begin to think about his own shortcomings.
Developed reflection just suggests that the person is smart enough. Just some people do not know how to value themselves, to find their strengths. You must learn this! Work with self-esteem begins with the adoption of one’s personality. It is impossible to achieve something substantial if no attempt is made to do so.
Self-education
What if I am dumb? Such a question usually occurs to those who suffer from low self-esteem. And in order to feel confident, it is necessary, in fact, to make significant efforts. It would be best to start self-education. Systematic exercises increase self-confidence, contribute to the release of a huge amount of energy that can be used for useful purposes.
Self-education undoubtedly enhances self-confidence. Thus, a person ceases to consider himself stupid and near-minded. Sometimes it will take a lot of effort to break free of an inner sense of inferiority.
Acceptance of responsibility
This is an important and necessary step in order to continue to move forward at the moment when the hands drop. Taking responsibility means stopping complaining about life.
When we stop blaming others for what is happening in our lives, visible changes begin. It is necessary to try so that self-confidence grows and strengthens every day. If this is not done, then the person will constantly feel his complete failure in anything, will not be able to start a new business without feeling guilty.
The feeling of one's own stupidity is a purely subjective feeling with which one must try to work. You can’t get rid of the problem once and for all, because there is no magic pill, but you can work on yourself and change for the better.
Skills development
What if I am dumb? It is imperative to try to improve your abilities. You can’t just stand still and not make any attempt to self-change.
The development of communication skills contributes to the formation of overall productivity. Then any business will be on the shoulder, and will bring moral satisfaction.
It is necessary to strive for a feeling of joy and emotional fullness. The more we work on ourselves, the more prepared we become.
Thus, it is never too late to try to change something in your life. If a person feels rather insecure in the environment of other people due to a lack of knowledge, this means that he needs to expand his inner vision. There is no need to focus on the problem. You must always remember that there is a way out of any situation.
“A friend brought me to the company of movie-friends. They poured quotes from the films, and I felt awkward and stupidly smiling because I did not remember a single witty remark. ” Many of us have happened to get into this situation. But Marina, the heroine of this story, draws a conclusion from an ordinary case: "I am uneducated and stupid."
“People who consider themselves fools are completely sincere,” says psychotherapist Elena Sokolova. - Their feelings are caused by a feeling of discrepancy between who they represent themselves (the owner of many talents) and are actually (a person with different strengths and weaknesses). Therefore, it seems to them that they constantly do and say something wrong. " In fact, they need to understand themselves.
Blurred identity
“People who tend to perceive themselves as incompetent need constant confirmation of their viability,” continues Elena Sokolova. - For this, they “use” others, but only if they admire their intelligence and other “virtues”.
But, when the other person surpasses them in something, to admit it, that is, to see themselves realistically, is so difficult for them that (if they can’t devalue the merits of others), they would prefer to ascribe total stupidity to themselves. After all, there is no demand from such a person. ”
“It’s easier for me to work with numbers than with people”
Natalia, 36 years old, accountant:“From childhood, it was difficult for me to communicate on equal terms with peers. It always seemed to me that I did not reach their intellectual level. Although at school I loved the exact sciences, especially mathematics. Choosing a university, I knew that it would be easier for me to work with numbers than with people, so I went to the University’s Department of Economics. Then she changed several companies. Finally, got a job in the specialty. After some time, the chef made me with his right hand. I had to learn to lead, despite the fears of looking silly. Of course, failures and misunderstandings did occur, but over time my old problem ceased to bother me. Now I try to orient myself minimally at the opinions of others and do not compare myself with everyone who is next to me - I just listen to myself. ”
Exaggerated Intellect Value
It seems like a paradox, but such people are poorly versed in the nuances of feelings and the motives of other people's behavior, it is difficult for them to experience trust and affection, which may be why they unconsciously overestimate the importance of intelligence. “Often in childhood, they felt emotional hunger, lack of warmth and love,” says Elena Sokolova. “Even as adults, they continue to behave with others like children trying to earn the favor of their parents with the brilliance of their mind and the desire to live up to their ideals.”
In addition, since the intellect is highly demanded in society, blaming one’s own stupidity is a person who is excessively focused on social values \u200b\u200band has a strong desire to meet them.
Excessive Requirements
The feeling of one’s own stupidity is also a consequence of excessive demands on oneself coming from childhood. A child whom loved ones consider the best (or, conversely, underestimate), gets used to building relationships with others based on how he will look in their eyes. Therefore, any communication causes him anxiety and fear of losing self-confidence again. His inability to maintain conversation is compounded by derogatory thoughts. And after a meeting, alone with himself, such a person severely reproaches and once again convinces himself of his stupidity.
What to do?
Try to sort out your emotional state.
Try to more accurately name what you feel when you say to yourself: "I'm stupid." Anger, sadness, fear? Clarify: anger towards whom, why? What inspires fear in you? It is important to understand what caused these feelings and what lies behind your recognition of your own stupidity. Most likely, we are talking about deeper and stronger experiences, you should work on them.
It is useless to console another with phrases such as "No, you are not stupid at all!" Only on his own can a person reassess his personality. To help him do this, often turn his attention to his own successes. For example, congratulate him at the first opportunity - celebrate the conclusion of the contract, the appointment, which he had sought for so long. This is the best way to help him increase his self-esteem.
Try changing your usual behavior strategy. Perhaps in childhood you were a shy child and thus tried to justify your need for loneliness. Or your parents pressed you so hard that you, in defense, put on a fool's mask. Such a role promised benefits, but, on the other hand, you were often depressed and alone. No matter how convenient this role was once, there comes a time of maturity and choice, when you should think: is it time to part with it, because it does not give your personality the opportunity to develop.
Now higher education has become almost mandatory. Parents insist that you must do and be sure to graduate from the university, otherwise ... you will either get it or you won’t get a normal job, the variant of what they say depends on the parents, but there’s only one point: you need to study. But what if you are dumb in school or dumb? You already understood this at school long ago / understood and reconciled / reconciled. Now I’ll tell you what awaits you if you can enter a university.
So you somehow managed to write off the exam or somehow contrive to successfully pass it. You are enrolled in a university for a specialty for which you passed points, it does not matter which, most importantly, you are at the university and halfway to the goal.
And here the session quietly crept ... Don’t be offended, I say it as it is, but you yourself understand this internally, but you will have three options for taking the exams successfully:
- cheating
- bribe
- humiliation.
I will tell you clearly by examples.
Here’s sitting, I explain, he looks incomprehensibly, not even incomprehensibly, just without emotions, I realize that ANYTHING does not come and NEVER, as if she spoke into the void, it was a set of sounds for him, but he saw that they said something, but in his head there is nothing to cling to this information at all, there is no other similar information, analysis and assimilation of information cannot be carried out there.
You don’t even get mad at him, you just take it as it is, the person is like this: he can’t, there are a couple of convolutions there, only for everyday moments.
He did not miss a single pair of mine for no good reason, he wrote everything down, was polite and generally outwardly he was very neat and well dressed. There’s nothing to dig into. He even went to paid courses in English at our university. He seemed to be doing everything. Everything to pass the session successfully, realizing that he is stupid.
Of course, he knew that he was stupid, accepted this, he mastered the so-called algorithm of the student’s correct behavior and carried out all the fad.
Back to the paid English courses. There he also made a kind of sensation. It is clear that people who did not speak the language very well enrolled in the courses, but, like him, who do not know anything. But, as his teacher told me, later asking when she explained a new topic, everyone understood, but he didn’t, from the first or from the fifth or tenth time. He approached her after couples, and she tried in vain to convey information to him. Then he tortured her so much that she begged me to set him off, only so that he would not come to her anymore. NEVER.
Once his classmates asked me in his absence, why I give him the same ratings as some others, because his level of knowledge is clearly lower. And why does he pass exams well and in other subjects too, despite the fact that he is stupid. (I don’t vouch for other items, but I know for myself that he didn’t carry bribes to me, either candy-bouquets or money.) They baffled me with this question.
I began to babble about the fact that I compare his present knowledge with his past and, based on progress, give him an assessment, but, in truth, there can be no talk of any progress, the person has not learned anything.
I don’t know why I put him fours. It seems to me that she also wanted to get rid of him as soon as possible, and there was nothing to dig into to put the three in, he was doing everything, but he could not master the knowledge during the training.
Needless to say, he passed the English exam well for me, I don’t know how it turned out. He somehow managed to complete all the tasks, I could not find fault with anything again, but to ask additional questions, it’s like to hit a mosquito, you’ll kill right away, but I’m not a killer, right ?!
Think about how this boy felt, realizing that he was stupid like a cork? Want to be in his place and feel the same?
Another example, about a girl.
No information reached the girl, just like the previous boy. She never understood anything, even the most elementary.
And then, once, I was delighted, she began to do the exercises correctly, I think, well, finally, I understood! In my heart I was so glad)
But it turned out she just got the answers to the exercises from the textbook ... and she was pleased with her “knowledge”.
When I conducted the quiz, of course, she could not give the correct answers, at first, but then, she suggested, and predicted what some of the following questions might be, found answers to them using the Internet in her mobile phone and “flashed” the correct answers. Classmates were surprised, she said that it was to this question that she KNEW the answer! Cute smiling, without a twinge of conscience, but rather, pleased with his behavior.
She is generally always so polite, attentive, always trying to please, and her face says: “I am such a good girl,” and it is written so clearly that it can be read accurately, as if all this could replace her inability to understand and master the subject. In general, I don’t care whether she is good or not, the main thing is that she does not behave disrespectfully, completely neutral, business conduct would suit me perfectly.
This girl survives at the university thanks to her immense cunning and a conscience forgotten somewhere. I wonder how she really feels.
I have long noticed that the level of human intelligence, and how often he resorts to lies and deception, are interconnected.An intelligent, self-confident person can not use any tricks, and without them he will calmly pass the session for good marks, thanks only to his knowledge.
If a student “does not pull” objects at the university he is studying, he will have to cheat and dodge constantly: write off, look for answers to the test, figure out how to appease the teacher, etc.
And to the question: "How to pass the session if you are stupid?", I will answer this way: "You need to be very cunning, forget about your conscience, and also pachyderm: not notice either your feelings or the views of others."
Think about whether you really need to meet the expectations of your parents? Let me remind you that it is they who demand that you graduate.
I used to have a negative attitude towards those who dropped out of school and did not finish high school, now I think differently. If this is not the case when people are too lazy and simply could not be “motivated”, they haven’t been given a good kick, but the one when the person is really stupid and understands this, realizes that he cannot master the university’s program and quits.
I shake the brave hand, those who evaluate their capabilities sensibly, make their choice in accordance with them, do what he believes, and not another, albeit close one.
There are working specialties for guys, and in the field of fashion and beauty, for girls. Why not become a hairdresser, makeup artist or salesperson? Shifting papers in the office, having a university diploma, you get tired no less than painting and cutting people. And the salary can be the same, or more, but you will not feel stupid either during training or at work.
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What if I am dumb? Signs of dullness. Why does a person feel dumb
November 5, 2017Why am I so stupid? A similar question can be asked by any person who finds himself in a new, unfamiliar situation. Moreover, the level of education and the degree of well-known does not play any role here. He simply does not know what to do, because he has not formed certain patterns of behavior.
This is not scary, but it makes you think a lot. To some extent, your own knowledge may even prevent you from feeling true self-confidence. A person who suffers from a lack of self-esteem, in many cases finds himself in a situation where he begins to doubt his mental abilities and raises himself with the question: "What if I am stupid?"
A person who is dissatisfied with his relationships with people around him, as a rule, begins to search for the truth within himself. In some cases, the search stretches for several months or even years. In order to determine your true values, you need extra time. If you do not push yourself and do not rush to conclusions, then you can restore peace of mind. The main thing is to be able to understand your own feelings, understand the true causes of the events.
Signs of dullness
By what criteria do we usually evaluate ourselves? After all, it often happens that we exaggerate our own shortcomings, constantly examining them under the magnifying glass of our complexes. The habit of constantly monitoring your experiences can gain a foothold over time and lead to an unsatisfactory result. What does it mean, dumb person? Let's try to figure it out!
Inability to hear the interlocutor
Such a person is extremely inattentive to what is happening around him. He focuses only on his own needs, and therefore tends to not notice the reactions of people.
The inability to hear the interlocutor as a result turns out to be that people around him begin to consider such a not very distant person. From the outside it seems that he is completely unable to delve into the subject of conversation, does not represent what is being discussed, that is, he is a vivid representative of stupid people. In fact, such a person is overly focused on his own experiences.
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Poor learning
If it is difficult for a person to memorize any material, it is likely that he has a small amount of memory. In this case, concentration of attention necessarily suffers. Poor academic performance at school and subsequent educational institutions forms, as a rule, a significant degree of self-doubt. And many young people ask: "What if I am dumb in school?" They consider it completely useless to learn something new and put into practice the knowledge gained. Extreme self-doubt gives rise to additional problems associated with communication and self-realization.
It becomes difficult for a person to concentrate on the task at hand. Reflecting on the question "What if I am stupid and lazy," you should be guided by an individual approach. Each person is unique and has distinctive characteristics.
Causes
In order for such a sense of self to take shape, good reason is needed. Just because no one considers himself a complete insignificance. The sense of worthlessness is dictated by the feeling of one's own uselessness and the inability to somehow express oneself in society. Even once faced with misunderstanding, a person then expects ridicule all his life.
Unsure personalities tend to take too much at their own expense, even that which is not directly related to them. So, what are the reasons why many consider themselves stupid people? Let's consider them in more detail.
Habit of comparing
When a person feels stupid, in most cases conclusions are made based on a comparison of one’s own shortcomings with other people's merits. And this is a big mistake! People cannot be the same and have an equal supply of knowledge in all areas. Almost everyone has the habit of comparing themselves with others. She is due to a lack of self-confidence. The more we dig in, the more difficult it becomes to focus on everyday tasks.
When a person compares himself with others, he thereby signs his own weakness, takes away precious energy from himself. This condition cannot lead to something good, as it impedes development.
Disbelief in oneself
Only fully aware of their own prospects, a person can move forward. Everyone has opportunities, but not everyone understands how to apply existing knowledge in life. Disbelief in oneself actually blocks a lot of undertakings, does not allow a person to open up. Thus, self-realization becomes impossible, since it is hindered by the strong fear of a potential defeat that arises at the same time.
Each failure is experienced very hard, as if the happiness of a particular individual depends on it. "Well, why am I so stupid?" - the person constantly asks himself, asking himself and numerous other questions about his inferiority. In most cases, he has long been looking for ways to remake himself. This is because there is a fear of loneliness inside, coupled with a fear of not being up to par.
Diffidence
Self-doubt is another reason why a person may begin to consider himself a failure. It is hardly worth wondering that much is incomprehensible to him in life. If you constantly think about your own insolvency, then you can never advance in important matters and issues.
Self-doubt makes it very difficult to enjoy life, comprehend its boundaries and open up new perspectives. It is impossible to achieve success if you constantly look back at yourself in search of answers to a wide variety of questions. You can not oppress yourself with excruciating thoughts about your personal unrealization.
Psychological trauma
A traumatic situation is one of the most serious reasons that can undermine confidence in one's own abilities for a long time. It is very difficult for a person who is convinced of his impassable stupidity to begin to perceive himself in the exact opposite way.
Psychological trauma and internal conflicts are a serious barrier to being a full-fledged person. The feeling of happiness depends on many factors, and it is always subjective.
When there is a conviction inside that you cannot master the most basic skills, this creates an obstacle to the formation of a happy sense of self. It really seems to man that he is not capable of anything. Such thoughts are destructive: they do not help to build self-confidence in any way, but only convince the person of complete failure.
Interpersonal conflicts
Another reason why a person may consider himself near-minded is a feeling of resentment. It usually prevents adequate perception of the surrounding reality. When some need for life is not satisfied, the individual develops internal deprivation. Sometimes a person does not understand what is happening to him, because he has developed the habit of considering himself incapable of realizing the most ordinary things.
Existing conflicts with people often interfere with building normal harmonious relationships. Emotions such as fear, anger, resentment impede personal development in many respects, and prevent the appearance of a feeling of satisfaction. A person always needs to feel his need and involvement in the life of other people.
What to do
In order to get rid of the feeling of internal awkwardness, it is necessary to take certain actions. Without taking concrete steps, it is very difficult to free oneself from a sense of inferiority. What if I am dumb? Asking such a question, one should be extremely frank in front of oneself. Having a set of clear steps, you can quickly get rid of the problem.
Work with self-esteem
Stop calling yourself stupid! It is very important to free yourself from the feeling of internal discomfort, if you really want to start feeling different.
There is no need to constantly torment yourself, trying to cope with the existing problem. When a person calls himself stupid, then he signs in his own weakness. Most likely, other people will begin to perceive it accordingly. However, it is worth remembering that a short-sighted person will never begin to think about his own shortcomings.
Developed reflection just suggests that the person is smart enough. Just some people do not know how to value themselves, to find their strengths. You must learn this! Work with self-esteem begins with the adoption of one’s personality. It is impossible to achieve something substantial if no attempt is made to do so.
Self-education
What if I am dumb? Such a question usually occurs to those who suffer from low self-esteem. And in order to feel confident, it is necessary, in fact, to make significant efforts. It would be best to start self-education. Systematic exercises increase self-confidence, contribute to the release of a huge amount of energy that can be used for useful purposes.
Self-education undoubtedly enhances self-confidence. Thus, a person ceases to consider himself stupid and near-minded. Sometimes it will take a lot of effort to break free of an inner sense of inferiority.
Acceptance of responsibility
This is an important and necessary step in order to continue to move forward at the moment when the hands drop. Taking responsibility means stopping complaining about life.
When we stop blaming others for what is happening in our lives, visible changes begin. It is necessary to try so that self-confidence grows and strengthens every day. If this is not done, then the person will constantly feel his complete failure in anything, will not be able to start a new business without feeling guilty.
The feeling of one's own stupidity is a purely subjective feeling with which one must try to work. You can’t get rid of the problem once and for all, because there is no magic pill, but you can work on yourself and change for the better.
Skills development
What if I am dumb? It is imperative to try to improve your abilities. You can’t just stand still and not make any attempt to self-change.
The development of communication skills contributes to the formation of overall productivity. Then any business will be on the shoulder, and will bring moral satisfaction.
It is necessary to strive for a feeling of joy and emotional fullness. The more we work on ourselves, the more prepared we become.
Thus, it is never too late to try to change something in your life. If a person feels rather insecure in the environment of other people due to a lack of knowledge, this means that he needs to expand his inner vision. There is no need to focus on the problem. You must always remember that there is a way out of any situation.
