Process Management Blog. Who is a neurotic and what type of personality is

Good afternoon.
  I am 29 years old, I have been on maternity leave for 2.2 years.
  I can’t achieve goals, especially long-term ones and I can’t find work to my liking (I tried many opposing professions, for example, hairdresser, waiter, personnel manager, secretary, massage therapist, salesperson, data processing specialist in accounting and even a trainer in aerobics (it’s been 15 years ago), I don’t remember everything, maybe I was doing something else ..
  And the only thing that worries me today is the issue of self-determination, professional first of all.
  I went for career guidance and paid a decent amount for the consultation and seemed to draw a beautiful picture, but it seems to me that my gut is thin for achievement and that I won’t succeed ... I rummaged the entire labor market .. I can’t try on the profession for myself, I’m trying more precisely and trying them on myself easily, but I quickly get disappointed when I find out the details and it just becomes uninteresting to me ... a vicious circle for me.
  Need advice on where to start?
  I understand that we need to work on goal setting.
  That in any work has its drawbacks, and there can be no ideal place
  I do not want to work in the office from call to call.
  The last thing I came to in terms of the profession, I want to be a personal trainer or instructor in group programs, so this is not enough for me, I have megalomania or maximalism, I immediately want sports achievements, gold medals, etc. etc.
  The fact that I am a neurotic, I already understood, but what to do with it and how to live with it, it bothers me, I can not.

TheSolution Psychotherapist Response:

It is wrong to treat a person as something static and unchanging.

Of the components of the personality, only temperament, the biological component of the personality, is that quantity that cannot be changed. Character and belief system can be corrected for the better with the help of Character - must be understood as a set of algorithms learned by a person in early childhood as a result of education. With the help of psychotherapy, you can learn other algorithms of thinking, decision making, behavior. Thus, if you apply new algorithms, and apply old models as little as possible, then outwardly it will look like an improvement in character. It is important to note that the phrase “improving character” does not mean the neurotic attitude “to become ideal so that everyone loves me”. Improving human nature means moving to the side. It means acquisition

Neurosis is an intrapersonal conflict, a form of cognitive psychopathology

Cognitive psychopathology means that a person is trained in harmful psychological habits. He makes judgments with, accepts, behaves illogically so as to be

If you draw a three-dimensional model of the conscious layer of the psyche of such a person, you can see the following. Mutually exclusive, polar attitudes are recorded in different layers of the psyche. Imagine a computer in which one program conflicts with another. How will this affect the performance of the device? That's right, most likely the computer will freeze. About the same thing happens in the human psyche. When he tries to follow two or more mutually exclusive installation programs, the result of his behavior is simply none. Outwardly, it looks like laziness and the inability to achieve goals, that is, complete.

Neuroses are overcome by the accelerated development of personality in the framework of psychotherapy

Inside the neurotic personality, a conflict between polar beliefs and attitudes flourishes. It is with the correction of conflicting attitudes that it is necessary to begin the correction of neurosis. We have the beginning of psychotherapy - this is the course. The whole chain of courses aimed at overcoming any type of neurosis (not to be confused with neurosis-like conditions!) Consists of ten consecutive courses.
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Psychotherapy is carried out exclusively in the format of individual consultations, so that the specialist pays attention to individual characteristics in case of a neurosis in a particular person. Cognitive psychopathology can be corrected in itself. If you decide to work on yourself and improve yourself, you will certainly succeed in becoming. It will take a lot of time, 2-3 years by the standards of psychotherapy - this is short-term psychotherapy. Have to move in small steps a little bit. But, fortunately, any missing psychological skill can be developed. Good luck to you!

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9 thoughts on “ The fact that I am a neurotic, I already understood. But what to do with it and how to live with it?”

1.   Eduard

   I understand that a neurotic is a person who is behind his potential. He wants something, but is looking for why not and is suffering from it.

   A person becomes a neurotic when he is psychologically traumatized and deprived of opportunities for development. This is a form of cognitive psychopathology associated with incorrect thinking, incorrect behavior, incorrect emotional response, incorrect beliefs. The brain as an organ in a neurotic is healthy. But the reactions to the world around him are unhealthy because of the terrible pain he experienced. The neurotic has “broken” important elements in the three-dimensional structure of the personality - personal boundaries, self-esteem, self-image, locus of control. Fortunately, all this can be repaired with the help of psychotherapy. If the neurotic gets the right information and the right psychological skills and knowledge, he will be able to heal his psychological injuries, develop and become an authentic person.

   •   Nail

     The word “cognitive” is not clear. Could you put it "in Russian"? I read the meaning of this word in the dictionary, but it does not fit the word "psychopathology" (... cognitive psychopathology ...). Thank!

     • “Cognizio” means thought. “Cognitive” means the cognitive, associated with thinking. “Cognitive psychopathology” means the unhealthy emotional reactions of a person that are disproportionate to the stimulus that arose due to logic errors in reasoning. “Cognitive psychotherapy” is dedicated to how to improve your emotional reactions and conditions by tracking and correcting errors of logic in your premises and conclusions.

       •   Nail

         Thanks for the answer! It turns out that this means (roughly) “mental psychopathology”. I get it now. Simply put: a person thinks, but "wrong." Continuing the topic of treatment: one psychologist (it seems A .. I ... c) said that simply knowing the causes of neurosis to patients and the formation by the therapist of a patient’s behavior system, way of thinking only aggravate the situation, because the patient will turn from just a neurotic into a “psychologically integrated neurotic”. The patient's behavior, his way of thinking is only a symptom of a neurosis. By changing the attitude towards life, the patient will only eliminate the symptoms of neurosis, and not the disease itself. Over time, this will only aggravate the situation, because the patient’s neurosis has not disappeared - he simply received a dose of pain medication. True, the treatment that he offers is at the level of some “shamanism” and paranormal. And the 29-year-old girl - the author of the post - will not be helped by the suggested advice either after 3 or after 20 years of treatment. She was not offered to eliminate the cause itself - she was offered to figure out the causes of the neurosis and change her attitude towards them. This is not a cure, but a “conspiracy” of the disease. As a result, she will “peck herself” all the time - “I know the reasons for my relationship, but now I am a self-sufficient person and I know how to relate to this”. And inside the worm will sit and continue to nibble it, only with increased zeal, because it (the neurosis) has been driven even deeper. She does NOT need to change her attitude towards life - she needs to understand and survive the causes of her neurosis. A very rude example: as if a person did not change his attitude to the bladder, which hurts because it is full - the only thing that will help him get rid of the pain is urination. Only here is how most likely no one will tell her, because he himself does not know.

         No, Nail. In your reasoning, logic slipped in the second sentence. The term cognitive psychopathology is narrower than the term neurosis. It would be wrong to make the mistake of equipolance by equalizing the scope of concepts and the identity of meanings. Metaphorically, your mistake of logic could be shown to our readers using a practical example. The statement “palm is a tree” is generally true. But the statement "all trees are palm trees" is incorrect. It is this type of logic error that you make by equating terms with a different scope of concepts.

         Neurosis is a cognitive psychopathology in which consciouslevel there are errors of logic of thinking, at subconscious - conflicts between compulsive neurotic drives and unregulated repressed rage as a suppressed emotion of an aggressive spectrum.

         Describing the correction of thinking only at a conscious level, you apply, knowingly or involuntarily, a manipulative device. You put forward a logically incorrect statement and refute it yourself. Moreover, on this distortion of logic you build your speculative concept and come to false far-reaching conclusions, mislead our readers.

         Subconscious compulsive drives in neurosis are unconscious beliefswhich are grouped into three attitudes and several subgroups. Beliefs are also kind of thinkingby the way. In case of neurosis, they take the form of aimless obligations, or Compulsive means applied automatically without a goal, where it is needed and where it makes no sense.

         In psychotherapy, the effect depends on whether the specialist was able to open the neurotic defenses and show the person his inner conflict between unconscious beliefs. Whether the person has decided the contradiction or is striving, like a buridan donkey, to tear between mutually exclusive elections.

         When resolving internal conflicts, a suppressed, repressed into the subconscious aggression reacts, then, after resolving the conflict, intrapersonal changes.

         When we talk about the correction of thinking in neurosis, we are not talking only about the correction of logic errors on conscious  level. We are also talking about correction   unconsciousbeliefs, subconscious conflicting beliefs that are hidden by a layer of neurotic defenses.

         In a professional language, this type of thinking, unconscious beliefs, is called compulsive neurotic drives (for example, to power, to superiority, and many others). More often in literature, a conflict between unconscious beliefs is called an internal conflict.

         The conflict between healthy and unhealthy unconscious beliefs is called central conflict. The contradiction between two unhealthy beliefs (synonymous with compulsive neurotic drives) is called a basic conflict.

         No one can analyze his subconscious beliefs himself. This is impossible due to the protective mechanisms of the psyche, which block the conscious processes from the subconscious. That is why, if you are at least seven spans in the forehead, if you want personality changes, you need to understand what you unconsciously believe. Without the help of a specialist from outside, you can only be aware of your mental processes on the layer of consciousness. Work only at a conscious level does not bring the desired result for neurosis, these are the basics of psychotherapy.

         The essence of neurosis psychotherapy is to help subconscious and consciouslevel. If a person has problems with the correct understanding of spiritual and humanistic issues, then in addition to psychoanalytic sessions and cognitive psychotherapy, existentially humanistic psychotherapy is prescribed. This allows you to work out the upper superstructures of the personality, in the form of moral-value attitudes, understanding your mission and purpose. In general, something like that ...

I'm a neurotic in a relationship, I understood it well ... please help me

Hello!!!
  I realized that I am a neurotic in a relationship ... tell me how can I cure it?

Since the end of the 19th century, Sigmund Freud closely studied the neurotic personality disorders, the world realized: this condition persecutes a person relentlessly, especially when meeting active and educated people.

There are a great many causes and symptoms of neurosis - they are all individual, and most often only a good psychotherapist can recognize them. Among the most characteristic manifestations are irritability, mood instability, fixation on problems, sleep disorders, somatic symptoms (headache, pressure problems, digestive disorders).

For the average person, the neurotic will most likely seem overly anxious, fussy, gloomy or aggressive person with whom he does not want to deal. But in order to build harmonious relationships with others, we should better understand the reasons for their behavior. First, let’s try to understand what neurotics really want and are afraid of.

Unattainable ideals

Like any person, a neurotic dreams of love, recognition and personal success. But his desires are hypertrophied, reinforced by obsessive thoughts about failures and fear of any external resistance.

• If I succeed, he must accompany me in all matters.
• Any, even minor defeat is a disaster.
• Love and sympathy must be expressed by all the surrounding people, without exception.
• Criticism or disagreement is a sign of public contempt.
• If people think badly of me, I’m not worth anything as a person.
• Having missed the slightest opportunity to become better in the eyes of others, I will regret it bitterly.

These far-fetched rules dictate to the neurotic a certain line of behavior, an ideal image of himself.

• I will become a worthy, courageous, generous “knight” without fear and reproach.
• I will have no equal in love, friendship, study and career.
• I will endure any hardships and life troubles steadily, with my head held high.
• There is no problem that I cannot solve.
• I can foresee any outcome of events and will never be mistaken in my assessments and choice.
• Fatigue and failure will never touch me.

Let's be honest: no living person can meet the criteria for the success of the neurotic. But he tirelessly demands perfection, and comparing expectations and reality, experiences unbearable mental anguish.

Neurosis dictates the conditions

Anxiety, relentlessly pursuing a person with a neurosis, greatly affects his physical well-being. How to cure a neurosis? Alas, no way, until the patient himself is aware of his problem. It is incredibly difficult to do this, because in order to admit the disease, you need to accept the terrible truth: "I'm not perfect, and that's fine."

The neurotic is held captive by his inner dictator. When he manages to do something in accordance with his self-image, he receives a powerful surge of strength and energy. Alas, the effect of such pseudo-happiness is short-lived. A repetition of a past achievement is no longer considered as such, and a person begins an exhausting pursuit of prestige and universal recognition. As long as you cope with the tasks, while you are praised, cared for and cherished, you exist.

As soon as the stream of public recognition is exhausted, the neurotic plunges into the abyss of despondency, and in order to protect himself from attacks, shows aggression. Such a reaction makes him arrogant, arrogant and extremely unpleasant in the eyes of people, and the pursuit of an ideal turns into a collapse in his career and personal relationships.

Neurotic and his love

A very important and interesting aspect is the love of the neurotic. With her, he does not develop catastrophically due to the substitution of concepts and his own inadequate reactions. Love can be described as the ability to give and receive care and warmth. For a neurotic, this feeling is surrounded by the same number of unrealizable expectations as his own personality.

It’s hard to meet even in movies and books, not to mention real life. Neurotic seeks to immediately receive it from each new partner. Admiration, attentiveness, caring, patronage, inexhaustible passion - his most modest demands.

While the feelings are still fresh, it may seem to the neurotic that he really got into a fascinating melodrama. But crystal locks are broken on stone blocks of reality, and burning jealousy, unreasonable suspicion, tantrums, obsessive thoughts enter the arena, or, on the contrary, indicative coldness and detachment.

The salvation of the neurotics is the work of the neurotics themselves

To get in from a neurotic is an unenviable fate. Such a person is not inclined to let go of failed relationships, because this is comparable to recognizing his own failure, and the fear of loneliness crowds out the remnants of common sense. Once warm relations turn into crazy roller coasters of quarrels and reconciliations, but the neurotic will always prove his sacrifice and innocence by exposing his partner as a tyrant.

The signs listed above are equally characteristic of both women and men. The neurotic is a man of extremes, and the concept of the golden mean is absent for him, and the world is divided into black and white. In an effort to protect the “white” in his soul, he paints in a “black” surrounding reality, suffering himself, and causing suffering to loved ones. But do not put an end to a person with a neurotic disorder. Comprehensive treatment, the lion's share of which is psychotherapy, tranquilizing drugs and sedatives (adaptol, etc.) will help the neurotic to understand the causes of his problem and learn to cope with his fears.

Currently, individuals with different psychological problems are considered not so rare, for which there are many reasons. When a person’s nerves are called loose, it’s important to help him cope with such a negative state. In light of this, I will consider the topic “Neurotic - as a personality type, how to cease to be it”?

Who is a neurotic?

You can get rid of a neurosis at any stage, the main thing is desire; you should not consider this condition a mental illness. Sometimes this process is quite lengthy. A neurotic is an individual who is distinguished from the rest by constant anxiety, has emotional instability, and low self-esteem.

To date, the type of personality - a neurotic is considered the most common. There are several reasons for this. An internal crisis, when a person has experienced the loss of a loved one, a war or other overwhelming event, this can provoke some malfunction in the nervous system.

In addition, the cause of this condition can be a stressful situation and various psycho-traumatic factors, for example, dismissal from work, unhappy love. In addition, hormonal changes characteristic of the menopause or the period of the so-called puberty can lead to neurosis.

Signs of Neurotic?

The following symptoms may indicate psychological problems: the presence of phobias; constant expectation of any failures; man never achieves what he wants; projecting your problems onto other people; irritation from extraneous sounds; constant desire to go to extremes; in reasoning there is naivety and stupidity; sexual disorders; insomnia and fatigue; the so-called pressure surges; panic health care.

How to behave with a neurotic and how to help him?

You can meet a person with a nervous disorder at any time, so it’s important to know how to communicate with him? First of all, one should not persuade him and talk about his problems, since such an approach will not bring the desired effect. Persuasion does not affect such a person, you should act with him quickly, and also act against his will.

In order to achieve a positive effect in therapeutic measures in the shortest possible time, it is important to provide specialized assistance to the patient, in this situation a consultation of a qualified psychologist can help, who will apply the necessary techniques and manipulations to normalize the so-called nervous background of the patient. In addition, the specialist will eliminate the cause that triggered the neurosis.

In addition, it is important for the patient to normalize living conditions. It is important to eliminate the existing symptoms of neurosis, which will help to more adequately perceive the surrounding world. It is necessary to activate a person’s personality so that he can return to society and begin to react correctly to life situations.

Sometimes a neurotic can encounter the so-called split personality, accordingly, it is important to recognize the reason and get rid of the so-called invisible shackles that impede the full development and normal life.

How not to raise a neurotic?

You should not focus on achievements or failures. You can not make fun of a child. You should explain and justify your decisions by answering questions. The neurotic nature can be laid down by parents, if we say that all people are bad and you should not expect any good deeds from them.

How to stop being a neurotic?

It is important for a neurotic to learn to relieve stress, it is necessary to hear your body, to free yourself from the so-called subconscious fears, various complexes and stereotypes. You can rebuild the neurotic personality type by applying some exercises to relax.

It is important to learn how to focus on yourself. To do this, you need to stand with your back to the wall at a distance of about fifteen centimeters and relax, after which it is recommended to focus on your own condition, then the person closes his eyes and begin to carefully lean toward the wall, that is, fall back.

The monotonous rocking of the body will help relieve nervous tension; this method often works at the so-called instinctive level. It is important to find your own rhythm. In addition, it is important to keep a psychological diary where a person will reflect his feelings that occur in his inner world. It is necessary to realize your own "I", as well as to understand the relationships and values. In addition, it will not be amiss to conduct an internal dialogue with oneself.

To help the neurotic cope with his condition, he is advised to read special literature, which contains useful information on the normalization of the so-called nervous background. Among such books, A. Kurpatov “With a neurosis in life” can be noted, in it the author mainly tells how a person himself has a destructive effect on his life. Accordingly, having understood the problems, changing it will be much easier.

The next book by K. Horney “Neurosis and personal growth”, where the type of personality and the inner world of the neurotic is described in an accessible language, as well as information on the treatment of such a disorder. In addition, you can read Sigmund Freud, his work "Family novel of the neurotics", which contains several outstanding works of a psychiatrist who have become classics of psychoanalysis.

In fact, there are an incredible number of people around us with an unstable psyche. These are the fruits of the influence of mass consciousness on neurotics. But now this is not about that. Now it's just about neurotics.

No person with a mental illness acknowledges this. Typically, such people become closed, homebodies, and at work - neurotics. Neurotics can destroy any business (and any family).

There are two rules when dealing with neurotics.

Rule number one: to teach the neurotics of life is an ungrateful and completely useless exercise.

Neurotic is not able to work vigorously and effectively. The neurotic will never come to his senses with the words "hell, I was wrong than I thought all this time."

Despite the number and level of professional and personal achievements, the neurotic remains an insane person. And this must be understood. Mentally handicapped people like physical persons with disabilities are not capable of certain actions. They are clamped, notorious, hysterical and take everything negative into their own account.

It is useless to try to tell a mentally unhealthy person about the delights of the world through the eyes of normal people. He will not understand, and will only reproach you with the fact that "you are the smartest" and "climb wherever you need to." It is absolutely pointless to wait for a neurotic to change his attitude to the world, work, family, changes in his opinions and worldview as a whole.

Decisions about the mentally ill must be instantly and ruthless. If you try to prove your case to him again and again, nothing but annoyance shines on you. If you want to communicate with such people, you will have to constantly face problems of mutual understanding and make a difficult choice between demonstrating your innocence or working efficiency / pleasure from living together. It is impossible to achieve both.

In fact, in the relationship between a normal person and a person with a significantly shaken psyche, there is more bad for a normal person than good for a neurotic. The concept of “relationship” means the existence of some kind of dedication between these two people. But the neurotic is unable to give anything. But it is able to receive from you. This is not a relationship, they are not here. These are just two people, one of whom gives (a charge of vivacity, ideas for the weekend, jokes in the morning, hopes for the future, anything from the arsenal of an ordinary person), and the other absorbs. In such a situation, a normal person begins to get angry (a natural reaction of the body to a lack of bestowal with full dedication). A normal person becomes dissatisfied because he believes that a relationship has been established between him and the neurotic. But they are not installed at all. This is already a mistake of a normal person - a naive hope for healthy communication with a mentally ill person.

If a person is not able to give, then your personal expectations will always be unsatisfied, and you will be annoyed and upset. Gradually turning into the same neurotic, if you keep the same format of relations.

This is how we come to rule number two: drive the neurotics out of their surroundings.

Good day, dear readers. In this article, you will find out who such a neurotic, as a type of personality, what are the characteristic manifestations. You will learn how a similar personality can be formed from a child. Find out how to communicate with such a person and how to resist such a state. Let's talk about neurotic disorder.

Definition of a concept

A neurotic is called an insecure person who concentrates on the negative, is unable to resolve his conflicts, both internal and external.

A person with this type can be found in any layer of society. Such an individual is not adapted to life in the real world, is a psychologically immature person, and when solving contentious and problematic situations, he uses basic behavioral reactions and instincts.

People who are close to such a person are usually uncomfortable. Such personalities are often offended by trifles, vulnerable, they sharply react to criticism and comments.

Characteristic manifestations

In neurotics, similar fears may arise:

• rejection;
• errors
• failures;
• conviction;
• relocation;
• rapprochement with people;
• demonstrations of their emotions;
• life
• loneliness;
• close relationship.

Over time, fears turn into phobias.

Let's look at what signs are characteristic of neurotics:

• such a person subconsciously programs themselves for failure;
• he is practically unable to achieve his goal;
• easily distracted, puts off important matters for later, peculiar;
• such a person is easily suggestible, served up with manipulations;
• when communicating with people, experiences distrust, sometimes hostility;
• there is no emotional stability; a person cannot adapt to changes;
• the instability of emotions becomes negative, from which it is very difficult to free oneself;
• fears are characteristic that can arise for various reasons, sometimes for little things;
• samoyedness and self-destruction;
• propensity to blame;
• uncertainty;
• focus on problems;
• obsessive statements are characteristic.

Let's look at what a woman is a neurotic, what manifestations are characteristic of her:

• irritation is caused by any extraneous sounds, for example, the voice of neighbors behind the wall;
• such a woman wants to hide, take refuge in silence;
• low self-esteem is observed, which prevents success;
• deviations in one's own desires may be observed - such a woman may become or begin to eat a lot;
• such a person, as a rule, does not have a middle ground, it constantly flows from one extreme to another;
• when communicating with people, such a young lady will wait for some kind of negativity on their part;
• when a conversation comes up on serious topics, she begins to show her stupidity and excessive naivety.

The fact that a man turned out to be a neurotic can be indicated by similar manifestations characteristic of women. With prolonged presence of this condition, physiological abnormalities may occur:

• persistent headaches;
• sexual disorders;
• pressure surges;
• severe tiredness;
• panic fear for your health.

Communication with the neurotic

1. You should not try to convince such a person, in particular, to convince such a person that he has problems of a psychological nature, there is an incorrect perception of the world.
2. Your attempts to indicate that the world is beautiful will not be correctly received. The neurotic will remain in his opinion.
3. Try to identify what exactly provokes neurotic reactions. Try to eliminate these causes.

When communicating a healthy person with a neurotic, the first can acquire the same psychotype. Therefore, it is so important to limit yourself from the society of people with a neurotic personality type or to minimize communication.

How not to raise such a child

If you are wondering how to become a neurotic, then you need to understand that everything is laid in childhood.

Parents may not suspect that by their actions they can cause irreparable harm to their baby, violating his psyche. It must be understood that a neurotic is one that can develop in the presence of improper upbringing. In order to prevent mistakes in this process, it is necessary to adhere to certain recommendations.

1. It is unacceptable to focus exclusively on the victories of the child and certainly not to focus on failures.
2. It is important not to make fun of the baby, how ridiculous his actions would be, and even more so the appearance defects, if any.
3. It is important to always explain your decisions and answer the questions your child asks. He must understand any situation and realize what is bad and what is good.
4. Some parents provoke the development of phobias by their actions. For example, they intimidate a child by the fact that Baba Yaga will come for him if he is naughty or is taken away by gypsies.
5. You can not use phrases like "stop whining" or "do not be a coward."
6. It is unacceptable to convince the baby that nothing good can be expected from people. For example, the situation with a single mother is not uncommon when she tells her daughter that all men are goats.

How not to be a neurotic

1. It is necessary to learn how to avoid nervous tension, get rid of fears and complexes.
2. Concentrate on yourself. To this end, the following exercise may help. You need to stand near the wall (ten centimeters from it), turning your back. Now you need to relax, close your eyes and start to fall.
3. If you feel nervous tension, you can begin to sway from side to side. This will help get rid of it by using the instinctive level. Movements should be rhythmic.
4. Keep a diary where you will bring your own changes and feelings that occur in your inner world. You must be aware of your Self, determine your values.

A neurotic condition can be very dangerous. If you do not pay attention to its manifestations, soon a person will switch from a neurotic to a psychotic, and then it will be much more difficult to return him to a normal lifestyle.

Neurotic disorder

If increased anxiety, panic, anxiety and a sense of fear persist for a long time, a neurotic disorder begins to develop.

It is important to know what symptoms indicate the presence of this condition:

• sharp mood swings;
• feeling of constant anxiety;
• irritability;
• low stress resistance;
• obsessive fears;
• decreased performance;
• guilt
• decreased intellectual ability;
• tearfulness;
• touchiness.

Physical manifestations may also be present:

• regular headaches;
• fast fatiguability;
• chest pain, in particular in the area of \u200b\u200bthe heart;
• dizziness;
• photosensitivity;
• bulimia or;
• tachycardia;
• decreased libido;
• dyspnea.

The diagnosis of a neurotic disorder is made only when there is a complex of mental and physical manifestations, and not one or two signs. Moreover, this condition should persist for several months and significantly worsen a person’s life.

There are four forms of this disorder.

1. Hysteria. At the time of emotional breakdowns, speech disorders are present, in particular absolute silence, seizures, sensory disturbances, manifestations of vegetative-vascular dystonia.
2. Neurosis. There is a constant sense of anxiety, a fear whose origin cannot be explained, and panic attacks can also be observed.
3. Obsessive condition. Regardless of desire, fears and doubts arise in a person, which cannot be resolved. The individual begins to think about situations that can only be imagined or already existing, for example, he can worry about whether he has locked the apartment, will recall this event in his head.
4. Neurasthenia. Characterized by the presence of weakness, irritability, sleep disturbance.

Now you know how to stop being a neurotic. As you can see, this psychotype is manifested by negative qualities, which significantly interferes with the normal life of a person, and hinders his development. Parents must remember what features of upbringing must be taken into account in order to prevent the formation of a neurotic personality type in their child.