Everyone sometimes experiences an attack of uncertainty, especially in difficult life moments: making an important decision, a difficult choice, on the eve of a significant event (exam, interview) or an exhibition performance (creative, sports), when you need faith in yourself and your strengths, abilities and capabilities.

The situation when important life moments are accompanied by increased excitement and anxiety is a standard model of behavior that fits into psychological norms, and it is common to everyone.

But not everyone has the ability to step over these psychological barriers and bring the business started to a productive end, especially if the result may be personal defeat: the employer's refusal, poor performance, failure in the exam, failure in love.

What it is

The concept of "inferiority complex" was introduced into the scientific terminology of the section of psychology by the German psychoanalyst Alfred Adler. He identified the following components of the complex:

1. Strong and persistent;
2. strong and undeveloped self-esteem;
3. feeling of superiority of others over oneself.

In a simplified version, it can be described as a "loser complex", in classical literature it is described as "a superfluous person complex."

A notorious person is convinced of his own uselessness, inferiority, insignificance, insolvency.

The complex is based on fear: to be inferior, unnecessary, lonely, rejected, superfluous. This fear is rooted in the main unconscious fear of death.

An inferiority complex forms related, interdependent complexes, one of which is a superiority complex, expressed in boasting and arrogance. For example, a number of crimes of young people are the result of a complex of human superiority over those people over whom he was able to rise at the expense of the crime.

Characteristic signs

Internal symptoms

• Destructive inadequate self-criticism, reaching the level of self-deprecation;
• dependence on someone else's opinion, assessment, especially on praise;
• constant anxious tension caused by the fear of making a mistake, which can develop into a fear of people or turn a person into a tyrant.

External signs

An inferiority complex is often expressed in a constant desire to compensate for one's own shortcomings by:

• Demonstrative behavior, which in men can be aggressive;
• exposed;
• demonstration of status symbols;
• pronounced arrogance, sometimes taking on a rude form.

Complexity can manifest itself in children with speech defects, and bring an adult to psychological dependence:

1. From a self-sufficient independent person;
2. from alcohol;
3. from drugs;
4. from computer games.

An extreme manifestation of a complex - or even a suicide attempt.

Causes of occurrence

According to Adler, the emergence of a feeling of inferiority refers to early childhood, when a child is faced with a forced limitation of the realization of his desires by the level of development of physical capabilities.

In the future, a person falls under the influence of two types of restraints:

1. Physical capabilities: age characteristics, natural disabilities;
2. Psychological abilities as a result of mistakes in upbringing and personality formation.

An inferiority complex is laid in childhood for a number of reasons:

• Physical or cosmetic disabilities;
• unfavorable conditions for the formation of skills of independence due to excessive parental care and control;
• lack of parental support and attention, which creates a low level of self-confidence and self-confidence, inadequate self-esteem;
• discrimination;
• serious psychological trauma;
• repeated setbacks, accompanied by exaggerated and even derogatory criticism from significant people.

Such polar conditions of upbringing, both receiving limited attention from the parents, and its overabundance in the form equally negatively affect the formation of personal self-perception, the inclinations of a self-confident, independent and self-sufficient person.

If we generalize and sum up all the reasons "under a common denominator", then the main one can be designated as follows: any rigid uncompromising suppression of a person's individuality, starting from childhood.

Features of the complex in men

The most common reason for the development of a male inferiority complex is an excessive love of a mother for her son or a lack of maternal unconditional love, support, and positive appreciation.

An inferiority complex differs in men and women in the way they experience it.

In men, feelings of inferiority and the desire to compensate for it are most often expressed in arrogant treatment, aggressiveness, addiction to things that emphasize status - in everything that can be attributed to evidence of masculinity.

Varieties of inferiority complex syndromes in terms of the spread of feelings of self-inferiority in men:

King David Syndrome

Boss Syndrome

The constant need to prove your male superiority and your masculinity in all positions.

Napoleon's syndrome

An irrepressible desire for success, fueled by exorbitant vanity and ambition. Most of all refers to men of short stature.

Lost Time Syndrome

It manifests itself in the age period when the energy capabilities of a man decrease (after 50 years).

Male impotence syndrome

The most painful fear of a man.

Lot syndrome

A zealous attitude towards all applicants for a daughter.

Hercules Syndrome

It arises in the case of dependence, especially material, on a woman.

Kotovsky syndrome

Fear of baldness. They prefer to hide it by shaving their head.

Don Juan syndrome

Taking the initiative to break off relations with a woman.

Alexander syndrome

Fear of being counted among men with non-standard sexual orientation.

Manifestation in women

Women are much more emotional than men, so they are more prone to both experiences and a critical attitude towards themselves and their shortcomings. Almost every representative of the fairer sex has an inferiority complex in her psychological space.

The most frequently repeated reason is exclusively female in nature: dissatisfaction with their appearance.

Below are the most common reasons:

• Dissatisfaction with your external and physical data;
• denial of your gender;
• a developed guilt complex;
• rejection of the male sex;
• fear of loneliness;
• unrealized potential;
• suspiciousness about what no one likes.

What is dangerous

The feeling of one's own worthlessness and inferiority can lead to a number of disorders of a person's psychological health:

• psychological dependence, leading to self-destruction;
• thoughts of suicide.

It is necessary to overcome your complex so that it does not have destructive consequences for the psyche and does not lead to personality degradation.

Diagnostics and treatment

Children's fantasy easily compensates for the feeling of inferiority: in games, the child realizes his most transcendental dreams.

Insecure adults compensate for feelings of insecurity and inferiority in other ways:

• In creativity;
• in the tyranny of others;
• in delusions of grandeur;
• in immersion in the fictional world of cinema, TV series, computer games or the Internet space.

The most psychologically healthy and acceptable way to compensate is to achieve success. Success in any area subject to your abilities and desires will preserve and increase your self-esteem, personal self-sufficiency and usefulness.

In order to achieve success, it is necessary to overcome insecurity, insecurity, get rid of the feeling of one's own failure.

12 steps to overcome

Highlight your uniqueness. We are all different, each of us has his own purpose, role and place. We must accept and appreciate it.

You should not adjust yourself to someone's accepted standards: neither external nor internal: creative, intellectual, behavioral (but this does not apply to moral and ethical norms of behavior).

1. Understand the reason for your complex. Look at the unfair words and actions addressed to you in an adult way: these are not your mistakes, but those of those people - classmates, teachers, parents. Let go of your grudges. Admit that the characteristics they gave are erroneous and inconsistent with its reality. Find positive contradictions and negative assessments. For example, you are not stupid, you are capable, because ... Or your appearance has its own individual virtues, such as ...
2. Change the vector of your thoughts about yourself with.
3. Analyze and write down your strengths and weaknesses: strengths and weaknesses.
4. Recognize and address your shortcomings. Everything can be corrected. You just have to really want it.
5. Emphasize virtues, including looks.
6. Do not transfer criticism to your personality - this applies only to a specific situation, and not to the personality as a whole.
   Remember, the complex does not arise from criticism, but because of your reaction to it.
7. Chat with self-sufficient, independent people.
8. Develop communication experience, don't avoid people.
9. Engage in personal and spiritual growth, intellectual and physical development.
10. Focus on people worthy of emulation.
11. Read educational cognitive literature.
12. Keep a diary for daily personal assessments, especially marks of your own success in overcoming feelings of inferiority.

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Everyone sometimes had to feel uncertainty, for example, before making a difficult choice, before some exciting event or public appearance, i.e. in any situation when you need to have unshakable faith in your capabilities, abilities, yourself. Such situations are found in the professional sphere, in creativity, in education, in sports and in personal life.

For such cases, anxiety and excitement are characteristic, and this is common to everyone, because, in fact, this is a completely normal and standard reaction of the human psyche. However, not every person is able to always believe in himself, not to doubt his capabilities, overcome psychological barriers, start a business and achieve goals. And if, as a result, there is a failure, failure, refusal or some other negatively colored event, especially if it happens often and systematically, he may develop an inferiority complex.

In this article we will tell you what an inferiority complex is, what are its signs and symptoms, especially in men and women. You will also find out why it occurs, what it can lead to, and how it is dangerous. And, of course, we will offer several ways to overcome it.

What is an inferiority complex and its causes

The term "inferiority complex" appeared in science (c) thanks to the famous German psychoanalyst Alfred Adler. It was Adler who gave it a definition and identified several components.

An inferiority complex is a combination of emotional and psychological sensations, which are expressed in a sense of one's own inferiority and an unfounded conviction in the superiority of others around oneself.

The complex consists of several elements:

• constant and strong self-doubt;
• excessively low self-esteem;
• undeveloped self-esteem;
• feelings of superiority of others over oneself.

In simple terms, it can be called a loser complex, because a person believes his own failure, insignificance, inferiority, uselessness, lack of positive traits and abilities that will allow him to achieve success. By the way, references to the complex can also be found in classical literature - there it is described as a complex of "an extra person".

Alfred Adler believed that an inferiority complex is based on fear - the fear of being superfluous and lonely, being rejected, unnecessary or inadequate, and is drawn from an unconscious fear of death. The scientist also said that a feeling of inferiority arises in early childhood, when a child has to face all sorts of restrictions due to age, physical and mental development.

In general, the reasons for the inferiority complex are:

• physical or cosmetic defects;
• lack of favorable conditions for the formation of skills of independence;
• excessive control and guardianship by parents (suppression of personality);
• lack of attention and support from parents (development of self-doubt);
• serious psychological trauma (violence, divorce, upbringing in an orphanage, etc.);
• discrimination;
• constant failure, followed by derogatory criticism from others.

Here we cannot fail to point out an important nuance: both the overabundance of parental attention and its lack equally provoke the development of an inferiority complex, because do not allow the makings of a self-sufficient, self-confident and independent person to form.

And if you bring all the reasons to a single denominator, you can see that the main problem that serves as a catalyst for the emergence of a complex lies in the harsh suppression of a person's individuality from the very first years of his life.

Among other things, the inferiority complex is the source of other related complexes, such as, for example, the superiority complex, which is expressed in arrogance and bragging. There are also examples of this: children and young people often take the path of a life of crime, feeling an imaginary superiority over weaker people and those at whose expense they manage to assert themselves.

However, the consequences can be even more serious and should be discussed separately. But first, let's see what psychologists have to say about the inferiority complex.

What is the danger of an inferiority complex and how it manifests itself

We will not analyze the consequences of the inferiority complex in all the details, but simply point out them. We think that just by describing them alone, it will be possible to come to a clear understanding of what the feeling of one's own inferiority and worthlessness can lead to.

Mental disorders of varying degrees are common consequences of an inferiority complex:

• suicidal thoughts and tendencies;
• psychological dependence on people, habits, living conditions;
• various manifestations of neurosis;
• prolonged depression;
• degradation of personality;
• self-flagellation, and other forms of self-destruction;
• discord in relations with others, up to the collapse of the family;
• loneliness, seclusion, escape from the world.

As we can see, individuals with an inferiority complex run the risk of being in a very unpleasant situation, if not in a deplorable situation, the consequences of which may be irreversible. Therefore, it is imperative to fight with it. However, you should not take on too much, and think that you have an inferiority complex just because sometimes you feel insecure and incapable of something.

This negative state has a number of characteristic signs - symptoms, by which we can confidently speak of its presence. Let's take a look at them:

• inadequate self-criticism, descending to self-deprecation;
• unhealthy dependence on the opinions of others;
• a painful lack of praise and appreciation;
• and inexplicable fear;
• pronounced demonstrative behavior;
• inappropriate aggressive behavior;
• victim behavior and hypertrophied fear of making a mistake;
• arrogance and rudeness in communication;
• self-isolation from society, isolation;
• excuses and a desire to shift responsibility to other people;
• fear of competition and lack of interest in achieving success;
• endless search for flaws in oneself and in others;
• hypersensitivity to criticism and objections;
• immersion in fictional reality: computer games, movies, TV series, the Internet.

Everything we have said can be attributed to the general symptoms of an inferiority complex. In addition to this, it is imperative to know that it can manifest itself in different ways in men and women, and also be experienced in different ways by them.

Men with an inferiority complex are characterized by aggressiveness, arrogance, a desire to emphasize (including with the help of appropriate attributes and accessories) their status and significance, masculinity and position in society. Also, in men with such a mental state, you can often observe:

• don Juan syndrome;
• boss syndrome;
• napoleon's syndrome;
• lot's syndrome;
• alexander syndrome;
• king David syndrome;
• kotovsky syndrome;
• hercules syndrome;
• male impotence syndrome;
• lost time syndrome.

As for women, they themselves are more emotional than men, therefore they are more inclined not only to experiences, but also to self-criticism, and also pay increased attention to their shortcomings. For this reason, some psychologists argue that in the female psychological space, an inferiority complex is present a priori.

Be that as it may, the manifestations of this complex can be expressed in women in the following forms:

• dissatisfaction with your own physical data;
• dissatisfaction with their appearance;
• aggravated guilt complex;
• fear of loneliness;
• dislike of the male sex;
• denial of one's gender (desire to be like a man);
• a feeling of unfulfillment;
• feeling of uselessness;
• the feeling that no one loves.

It is possible to speak about the presence of an inferiority complex only when the majority of the symptoms we have cited are present in the behavior and manifestations of a person. As a rule, it can be dealt with quite simply and painlessly, but in aggravated situations, the help of a specialist may be required. Below we will touch on both.

How to get rid of an inferiority complex on your own

So, what should a person with an inferiority complex do - this serious obstacle on the way to a happy and joyful life? We, of course, believe that a simple awareness of one's uniqueness, acceptance of oneself and refusal to "fit" one's personality to any standards can affect the feeling of oneself in the world, but this does not always work and not with everyone.

Therefore, we offer you some simple, but no less effective recommendations that will help you to inquire about an inferiority complex, like a bad dream:

• Determine the cause of the complex... First, you need to look at all the injustices and offensive words and actions addressed to you from the perspective of an adult: you are not always mistaken in something and turned out to be bad. Secondly, you need to pull down the load. Everyone can make mistakes, stumble and be wrong, but you need to be able to forgive and forget the bad.
• Start thinking about yourself in the opposite way.... Switch from negative to positive. Analyze yourself, your qualities and actions, and get creative - start looking for advantages, not disadvantages. Make a list of your successes and positive qualities and look at it often.
• Start working on your flaws... Most of them can be fixed. Books, seminars, trainings, audiobooks, new knowledge and acquaintances - all this motivates you to work on yourself. Think about what you can and should do better, and find a way to do it. Develop mentally, physically and spiritually.
• Stop... In most cases, people do not criticize other people, but their actions, actions or situations in general. Taking everything personally is a big mistake. Remember that the cause of the inferiority complex is not criticism and annoying remarks, but your reaction to them.
• Treat compliments appropriately... Don't try to find a catch in praise or encouragement. Most likely, it is simply not there. And if the author of kind words is an insincere person, just, as they say, never mind. Say "Thank you" and switch to another topic.
• Try to communicate more with successful, positive, confident and self-sufficient people.... The environment in the most direct way affects a person and his perception of himself, the world and life. The better your environment, the better you yourself will become. In addition, it is beneficial to develop communication experience, so forbid yourself to avoid people.
• Find an example to follow... It can be a famous politician or businessman, a hero from a movie or a favorite book, a real or fictional character. This person should have qualities that you lack. In any incomprehensible situation, act as he would. Try on the image of who you would like to be, and over time you can become that person.
• Keep a Success Diary... Write down all good events, successes, achievements, successful acquaintances, cool expressions and interesting ideas in it in the abstract form. This diary will be a constant confirmation that you have something to be proud of, and self-pride is the best way to build self-esteem and overcome an inferiority complex.
• Love yourself... A positive attitude towards oneself is not narcissism at all, but. If you do not have enough positive from the outside, often stand in front of the mirror and say something good to yourself, for example, the same compliments.
• Entertain yourself, attend entertainment events, concerts, clubs and parties... Participation in such events will allow you to unload emotionally, relieve the burden of the disorder in life and dissatisfaction with yourself. Don't hide from others and the outside world. On the contrary - go to meet them!
• If you are used to comparing yourself to other people, this is one of your biggest mistakes.... Stop being the shadow of others and try to be like those with whom you communicate. You are an individual, and self-respect will only appear after accepting it. Everywhere and always strive to be yourself.
• Go in for sports... This is remarkably liberating, trains character and willpower, and strengthens the spirit. Swimming, fitness, martial arts, ice skating, soccer, or even a simple morning run will boost your self-esteem.
• Pay attention to your image and start making changes in your life by changing your appearance... Get a new hairstyle, buy some cool clothes you've wanted, get a tattoo (like a temporary one), or change your style altogether. The external transformation is sure to be followed by the internal one.
• Talk about your concerns with a friend or family member... External support can be of great benefit. Ask to name your positive qualities and merits, tell you what you can be good at and why; ask if these people are disturbed by thoughts like yours. Most likely you are not alone, because everyone sometimes has to deal with the fact that he is not good enough at something.

And we also want to remind you that an inferiority complex can be used as additional motivation. For example, he pushed many people to achieve success and accomplishments in life. There are examples of people who have managed to overcome a lot of difficulties and problems associated with self-esteem and become quite wealthy and successful individuals.

Perhaps you did not know, but at one time you suffered from an inferiority complex:

• military leader Napoleon Bonaparte;
• empress Catherine II;
• ancient roman orator Demosthenes
• singer and musician Elvis Presley
• actress and public figure Brigitte Bardot;
• princess Diana;
• actress and singer Marlene Dietrich;
• actress and model Liv Tyler;
• fashion model Claudia Schiffer;
• actress Greta Garbo;
• tV presenter Oprah Winfrey;
• singer Christina Aguilera;
• singer Lady Gaga.

All these and many other people not only managed to overcome each of their inferiority complex (or reduce its influence to a minimum), but also become famous persons, gain a foothold in society, and gain the authority and respect of others.

By the way, achieving success is one of the most powerful ways to form, preserve and increase self-esteem and self-esteem, usefulness and self-sufficiency. However, success can be achieved only by constantly overcoming the feeling of inadequacy, insecurity and insecurity.

If all of the above is difficult for you and you understand that you are not able to cope with the problem on your own, or if there are people in your environment with an inferiority complex whom you want to help, you can turn to professionals for help.

Overcoming an inferiority complex with the help of a specialist

There are many methods that allow people to gain self-confidence, normalize self-esteem, and believe in themselves and their potential. But, unfortunately, they cannot always find and apply them without outside intervention. That is why many psychologists and psychotherapists specialize specifically in helping people with an inferiority complex.

The specialists have the relevant knowledge, skills and experience, and can offer their clients different therapy options. The most popular are:

• Psychological training... There are many variations. Here is one of them: the psychotherapist offers the client to divide the blank sheet into two parts, on one of which he should write his negative qualities, and on the other - positive ones. At the same time, the specialist analyzes what the client has said and gives his assessment of this. After the client completes the task, the sheet of paper is cut in half. The “good” part is left for regular reading (for example, placed in a conspicuous place at home), while the “bad” part is torn to pieces or burned.
• Family therapy... If in the course of the conversation the specialist comes to the conclusion that the cause of the inferiority complex lies in some kind of childhood trauma, the client's relatives, for example, parents, are involved in the work to neutralize it. Joint conversations and various tasks that the psychotherapist gives during the training have a powerful effect in solving the problem.
• Impersonation method... A specialist, talking with a client and analyzing his problem, gives him the task of conducting a dialogue with some inanimate object. This allows the person to express everything that worries him and to speak out. Often the task of "talking" with objects is given to the home, where the client will be alone and nothing will distract him or bother him. By the way, in many cases you can talk to pets.
• Protective field method... The meaning of this method is that the psychotherapist instructs the client to “surround” himself with a “protective field” in any situation when someone makes comments or objections, criticizes or outright insults. A person imagines that he is surrounded by some invisible substance that does not let the flow of negativity from the interlocutor and protects him from the effects of offensive, caustic and unfair words.

Naturally, these are not all the methods used by psychotherapists. It all depends on the characteristics of each situation and the severity of the inferiority complex. Sometimes they resort to complex therapy, due to which it is possible to solve the most complex psychological problems in whole or in part.

Conclusion

It doesn't matter in what way you decide to get rid of the inferiority complex, it doesn't matter if you do it yourself or with the help of other people. The main thing is that you consciously begin to change the negative perception of yourself into a positive one. You must make a decision to overcome the complex and not give up until the goal is achieved.

There will be difficulties and obstacles on the way, but if you continue to walk, albeit in small but confident steps, you will certainly cope with the task - free yourself from your inner shackles, breathe deeply and feel like a full-fledged and happy person. Believe in yourself and that you deserve to live a harmonious life filled with joy and love for yourself and others.

And to get things done faster, watch this video on how to overcome an inferiority complex.

- This is a set of negative feelings, manifested in the form of anxiety, inferiority and shame, which are based on the perception of their shortcomings in an unfavorable light as a result of comparing oneself with other people.

In most cases, an inferiority complex is associated with physical disabilities, i.e. a negative attitude to one's own appearance, but its origins may also have social status, intelligence, personal qualities and character traits.

Some people struggle with feelings of inferiority for many years, others suffer from it all their lives. And, of course, suffering, a person considers himself unhappy.

As a result, the problem under consideration can lead to the destruction of relationships, an incorrect lifestyle or.

The presence of an inferiority complex means that you are focusing on your flaws and constantly comparing yourself to other people.

And while everyone has flaws, when you have an inferiority complex, your obsessive flaw is the only thing that you constantly notice about yourself.

The causes of the inferiority complex are varied, but many of them are most common at an early age.

For example, it is quite possible that your parents, as a child, hammered into your head that you are not good enough at something, or an event associated with harsh criticism at school left a deep imprint on your mind.

The opposite of an inferiority complex is a superiority complex, which is driven by your belief that you are the best. Often, a superiority complex is a veiled inferiority complex.

An intermediate life position between the above two complexes is the natural golden mean when you are not worried about your shortcomings and are not trying to prove anything to anyone.

The inferiority complex is reminiscent of a musical melody that was set to “Repeat”, as a result of which this annoying composition does not stop playing in your head, repeating over and over again “She is so beautiful. She will never date someone like me. ”,“ I'm fat. ”,“ I'm short. ”,“ I'm insecure. ”,“ I'll never get this job. ”,“ I'm not smart enough. ”... blah blah blah.

However, if you do not have the talent, qualities, skills, drive, or audacity necessary to achieve the desired result, then you will only continue to fuel the fire of your complex, whether you like it or not.

And how long will you continue to torture yourself? Maybe it's time for a change ?!

1. Comparing yourself to others:
   - Physical defects - disproportionate features of the face or body, height, weight, physical strength, dexterity, slowness, vision, etc.
   - Social factors - race, culture, religion, economic status, social adaptation, etc.
2. Lack of personal opinion and low self-esteem:
   - Parental education - the disapproving nature of the upbringing, negative remarks, accusations of the child for problems, etc.
   - Environment - a lack of understanding of who you are and where you are going, as a result - the imposed opinion of others and adherence to other people's goals.
3. High standards and expectations:
   - The problem associated with perfectionism.

The people around you have limited knowledge and capabilities. Therefore, they tell you exactly what they know or understand.

If you take on faith the opinions of only a small handful of people, you thereby limit your horizon of opportunities and prospects for development with your own hands.

The trail of an inferiority complex can be traced back to childhood when you listened to and took into account the advice, knowledge and beliefs of people who, with good intentions, made you an unhappy person.

These people told you, “You're not good enough,” and you believed them. They said, "You are weak," and you think you are. They shouted, "You won't succeed," and you agreed with them. They recommended “You must be like Petya,” and you did not contradict them. They said: “Sasha is better than you,” and Sasha became a reason for you to feel your own inferiority.

But the reality is

• What people tell you and think about you is just a subjective opinion, limited by their knowledge, experience and level of intelligence.
• Ten people have ten different opinions about your personality, none of which are true.
• Some people only see in you what is convenient for them to see.
• Feelings of inferiority are part of your subjective self-image, but it is not the objective and real you.
• No matter what you believe in, you can change your beliefs.
• You are much better and much more capable than you think.

Signs of an inferiority complex

1. Feeling worthless

Instead of treating the erroneous opinions of the people around you appropriately, instead of adequately assessing your best qualities, on the contrary, you begin to follow the value judgments of others, belittling your own merits and being confident that you are worse than others.

2. Increased sensitivity to criticism

Are you very sensitive to what others think and say about you? Do you immediately feel hurt and insecure when a critical comment comes up in which you are the protagonist? And even constructive criticism makes you feel a mixture of aggression and shame?

Bad sign. Surely a psychological attitude has arisen inside you, which periodically whispers to you, "You are not good enough."

3. Representation of negative judgments about oneself in society

You are convinced that other people do not like you by default or think that you are flawed, regardless of what they tell you completely differently.

You hate any form of comparison that might be inevitable if you belong to a particular social group. As a result, you do not like to be in society, because you cannot get rid of the secret suspicion that you are worse than others.

On top of that, you don't want others to know the truth about how awkward and lousy you are, so you prefer to be alone.

4. Envy and looking for flaws in others

You will experience feelings of jealousy, envy, and melancholy when you observe the happy experiences of the people around you.

Plus, you have a trained eye for identifying the shortcomings of others. Your principle is an eye for an eye: since it’s bad for you, it should be bad for the rest.

No one should be better than you, so you need to make others feel worthless in order to exalt yourself.

5. Thirst for flattery

Compliments make everyone shine with joy, but if you have an inferiority complex, you are addicted to flattery.

You constantly try to be good to everyone in order to get approval. Your ego is strongly influenced by the opinions of other people.

6.P perfectionism and hthe feeling of anxiety

You hate competition and are afraid of losing because losing makes you feel like a failure.

Every time you have to participate in competitions, speak in public, etc., you start to sweat profusely.

You can be called a perfectionist, so if something doesn't go perfectly, you perceive it as a failure.

7. Obedience

You don't seem to be because you are convinced that no matter how hard you try, you will never be good enough. As a result, you do nothing to change the situation.

You rarely defend your interests or your opinions, and you can easily stop considering your own needs as important. This behavior, which continues over time, leads to an accumulation of anger.

Inferiority complex symptoms

Only when you realize that you are under the influence of an inferiority complex can you find ways to change your thinking and overcome the complex.

Therefore, one of the most important steps in getting rid of an inferiority complex is to identify its symptoms.

However, it is unlikely that you have any of them, because from time to time we all touch feelings of inferiority.

1. An inferiority complex and personality

An inferiority complex has a direct impact on a person's self-image, which is corrected under the influence of value judgments of other people.

And such a distorted vision of oneself becomes part of the personality, even when a person is alone with himself, distancing himself from society.

The favorite object of the inferiority complex is the human appearance. And even those who are perceived by the absolute majority as outwardly attractive are often influenced by an inferiority complex based on the fear of losing their value in the eyes of society.

Often, complexes become an impetus for choosing one of two options for the development of human life, and only the person himself determines the direction of movement for himself.

Some people conclude that they deserve the fate of a flawed or a failure, since this position reflects their inner sense of themselves. This approach can lead to negative thinking, unhealthy eating habits, and addictions.

In another case, people experience an overcompensation effect, as a result of which they begin to work hard to achieve physical perfection. Indeed, they gain confidence in their appearance, but sometimes too active movement towards the goal can lead to overexertion, exhaustion, dependence on fancy diets, etc.

When it comes to intelligence, the same rules apply.

An inferiority complex can lead to inadequate appreciation of praise. When a person is made sincere, instead of creating pleasant emotions, he may feel alert and see an attempt to ridicule.

Equally, the complex often makes you go into aggressive mode if someone speaks negatively about you. Overestimated sensitivity to criticism is a clear manifestation of feelings of inferiority.

2. An inferiority complex and relationship

An inferiority complex can make you look at your romantic relationship in a distorted way.

If you are single, you may believe in failure to maintain a relationship. If you are tied in love with your other half, your attitude towards her may be distorted by your personal subjective view, which is far from reality.

You can overestimate the importance of your partner in your life, which is quite capable of causing a distance between you.

On the other hand, if you mentally endow your partner with unrealistic qualities, he will inevitably disappoint you the moment you fail to meet these unreasonable standards.

Lonely people with an inferiority complex tend to have a distorted vision of potential lovers. When they notice attractive people, they begin to compare themselves with them, stating their inferiority and inability to make them a part of their life.

An inferiority complex affects not only romantic relationships, but also your relationship with your parents.

You may feel excessive pressure and high expectations from your parents. And if you cannot meet the existing expectations, you, unfortunately, will feel unworthy of your loved ones, even if they are mistaken in their own life position.

In addition, an inferiority complex can arise as a result of rivalry between siblings.

Unfortunately, the consequences of the events of our childhood can haunt us throughout our entire life.

This is why trying to overcome an inferiority complex is not so much about getting rid of harmful thoughts as about mastering control over them.

3. Inferiority complex and success

People with an inferiority complex often dream about. They may have an unrealistic idea of \u200b\u200bwhat success entails, thereby overestimating their expectations.

By observing other people, they celebrate their accomplishments against their careers and social relationships. The revealed discrepancy in various areas of life can make them feel defective.

Plus, feelings of inferiority can affect your career growth. Most likely, you are able to succeed in many areas of activity, but the present inferiority complex will easily convince you otherwise.

As a result, you can continue to vegetate in the same position, feeling limited and frustrated.

Not having the confidence to move forward, and without making the necessary adjustments in life, you continue to drown in a circle of disappointment, from which, as it seems to you, it is impossible to get out.

On the other hand, an inferiority complex sometimes manifests itself in the form of overcompensation. You can push yourself to achieve something unrealistically large-scale, which, of course, will endow you with some attributes of success, but will not get rid of the complex.

If you constantly feel inferior, then it doesn't matter how successful you are in other areas. Ultimately, you may even perceive the positive aspects of your life in a negative way.

An overwhelming sense of inferiority can make you feel frustrated no matter the level of success you achieve. You may be sure that you are always not enough, because you are not good enough.

4. Inferiority complex and society

A common trait characteristic of those with an inferiority complex is a feeling of anxiety, which can lead to a false sense of exaggerated requirements in any area of \u200b\u200blife and the need to meet these requirements.

If you feel the need to be in the spotlight all the time, this can be a manifestation of complexes.

Self-confident people do not feel the urge to draw attention to themselves, because their self-esteem is unconditional and does not depend on the opinions of others.

People with an inferiority complex may seem confident in themselves, but often such confidence is false. Possessing external attractiveness, their inner world is a bunch of fears and constant negative experiences.

How to get rid of an inferiority complex

1. Determine with whom you compare yourself

Instead of dwelling on the awareness of an inferiority complex in your life, take a step further and find out with whom you most often compare yourself.

Be as specific as possible and consider not only people from your environment, but also celebrities and even imaginary images such as, or London dandy.

If you find it difficult to independently determine the object of comparison, use this list:

1. Very physically attractive people.
2. Rich people with beautiful lifestyles.
3. Smart people with several advanced degrees.
4. People with impressive careers.
5. Public people, or those who have many friends and fans.

Once you have a clear understanding of the subjects that make you feel inferior, try to select specific people in your life who have these attractive traits that are important to you.

Then identify your strengths that your idols lack equally. There will be something!

2. Understand the nature of the inferiority complex

Remember the first case and the person whose behavior caused an inferiority complex. As a rule, this is a case from childhood.

Feel this unpleasant emotion, become this emotion, dissolve in it. Think about what is positive about this emotion? Why do you need it in your life? What did she protect you from all this time or what profit did she have for you?

Then give a materialized form to this emotion, say "Thank you" to it and mentally throw it away.

3. Stop worrying about other people's opinions.

Public opinion is the opinion of those who were not asked about anything.

Indifference to other people's opinions is one of the most important steps towards getting rid of an inferiority complex. No wonder that b aboutmost of the complexes are based on dependence on the judgments of other people.

At the end of each day, only your own opinion of yourself should matter to you.

Research shows that when we feel better about ourselves, other people also start to treat us with more respect.

But how to stop worrying about the opinions of others?

First, focus on what makes you happy, what brings passion, joy and fulfillment to your life?

When you waste time on things that really turn you on, you stop wasting your energy worrying about someone else's opinion.

Secondly, do not forget that the people around you are usually too preoccupied with their own problems, and will not pay special attention to assessing your person. They are also worried about something and not sure about something.

When you become impervious to the opinions and actions of other people, you cease to be a victim of completely unnecessary anxiety and suffering, and you gain a huge supply of personal freedom. It's like drinking the most precious medicine on earth. You are free!

4. Promote

1. 
   When you treat yourself as an object, you are laying the foundation for a subconscious belief that you are a value in itself and deserve close attention.
   Do you exercise regularly, eat well, get enough sleep, develop skills, pamper yourself with pleasant shopping? If not, work on these areas of life and you will see that a lot will change.
2. Do what you love
   Ask yourself what keeps you from doing what you love, and then with a decisive jerk, break down all existing obstacles.
3. Develop yourself
   When you are young, your head is often filled with all kinds of nonsense, completely unnecessary junk, including the importance of public opinion.
   If you engage in various areas of human activity, instead of smoking and drinking beer in the company of dubious individuals or crying into your pillow about your failure, after a certain time you will notice how much you have become detached from others. It will simply disappear.
   You will realize that those who once acted as idols have actually remained at the same level, the level of losers and wasted lives.
4. List of their merits
   Make a list of ten qualities that you consider to be your strengths and post them in a prominent place to remember what a wonderful person you are every day.

5. Internal dialogue

Having become obsessed with the negative, he begins to harbor an inferiority complex and a sense of self-denial. When you are possessed by positive attitudes, your inner voice encourages a positive vision of yourself, helping to maintain a state of harmony and happiness in the long term.

Therefore, you need to identify your negative thoughts and then replace them with positive beliefs.

Try to jot down some of your inner critic's self-defeating statements and then replace them with positive alternatives: “I'm the best,” “It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.”

Repeat these positive affirmations daily, ideally in front of a mirror, and over time you will feel confident, “Well, yes, I'm the best. What's wrong with that? "

Also, replace any negative words that you generously endow yourself with, even if you really fit their meaning, such as being clumsy or overweight, because that is no excuse not to be kinder to yourself.

Come up with substitute words. You might say to yourself, "I have to practice getting graceful," or "What a fine fellow I am to go to the gym."

Another effective way to stop negative self-talk is to simply stop believing in these wacky beliefs.

If you direct the focus of objective logical thinking to your negative mental attitudes, you will find that they are not really based on anything.

For example, if you think you are of lesser value because you do not have good looks, you probably just didn’t realize that some of the missing links in your life were missing:

1. People's opinions are always subjective, and, for sure, many will disagree with you.
2. You most likely have many other, more valuable qualities.
3. Well, hair, great physical shape and, in the case of girls, make-up can completely change your self-image and the attitude of others. No wonder Coco Chanel said that if a woman by the age of 30 has not become attractive, then she is a round idiot.

Likewise, if you are unsure of the strength of your personality, your beliefs, habits, hobbies, etc., it is because you are constantly listening to other people's opinions.

But in reality, there is no right or wrong path, and no one can objectively claim that you are second class person for some reason.

The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself, and what matters to you, and it is absolutely not important what other people say and think.

Keep in mind that more than 95% of the people on planet Earth are not completely confident. So when you start to worry about the attitude of those around you, just remember that they are also worried about what others, including you, think of them.

If you find yourself with an inferiority complex, then now is the time to think about why it could arise.

For example, if your parents were neglectful of you, then this is probably their problem, not your fault. Likewise, if you were teased at school, there may be many reasons for this, you could even be trite envy.

You should not feel guilty, just because sometime on your life path you met narrow-minded people.

6. Surround yourself with positive people

It is important for you to recognize that an inferiority complex is associated with the people with whom you spend time.

Take an inventory of your environment: Think about your relationships with family members, friends, colleagues.

If in your circle of communication you identify people who are actively trying to lead you off the intended path, do not reciprocate your goodwill, bring chaos and unnecessary negative experiences into your life, the best solution to the problem is to distance yourself from them.

Eliminate toxic people from your life entirely.

To increase self-esteem and develop a more positive attitude towards yourself that will genuinely support you. Build friendships based on mutual help, kindness, and responsibility.

7. Help from a friend

Ask your boyfriend (girlfriend) to list your best qualities. Surely you yourself know them, but it is very important and pleasant if someone else confirms them.

But even if you yourself do not realize your strengths, a good friend will be able to find that zest that you so cleverly and for a long time try to hide from everyone else.

8. Small achievements

Focus on your accomplishments, no matter what the scale. Many successful people practice this approach all the time.

Going out to the gym, preparing healthy meals, helping a longtime friend, complimenting a colleague are all significant daily accomplishments.

9. So what?

Someone may discourage or insult you. So what?

"So what?" Is one of the greatest questions you can ask yourself.

All, without exception, great and successful people went through many trials and failures, but each time after another fall, they got up and continued on their way. What would happen if they lost faith in themselves?

Successful direct selling salespeople who are professionals in the field of seduction have been sewn hundreds or even thousands of times, and nothing bad happened to them. They are alive and well and reaping the wonderful rewards of their perseverance.

A huge component of success is developing the ability to do what other people are not capable of, usually because of their laziness and fear.

Therefore, as a result of doing unpopular things, you can easily throw your inferiority complex in the trash can, and also stop taking life too seriously.

Instead, start using your energy to remind yourself that you are a citizen of the universe who deserves the very best.

10. Self-compassion

Self-compassion is the best form of self-help.

Have you made a mistake? Well, so what? Don't let your inferiority complex re-enter the stage of your life.

Reflect on what you have learned and learned as a result. Most mistakes and failures are of immense benefit in teaching us new things.

There is no life without mistakes, so treat your mistakes as valuable experiences. Learn to use every life event to your advantage.

After making the conclusions and realizing the experience gained, release the past event and focus on new achievements.

Anyway, where did you get the idea that everything should be perfect. Nothing characterizes an inferiority complex more clearly than a mistaken belief in the need to be perfect.

11. You create your own complexes

The real source of the inferiority complex is in your head, in your thoughts, and it doesn't really depend on the opinions of other people. Realizing this helps to get rid of it.

We move so quickly to self-flagellation when we begin to consider ourselves worse than others. We represent them in the form of supermen, living in the illusion that their life is beautiful and free from problems and personal problems. They are beautiful and flawless, they know everything and can.

The best way to get rid of such vicious beliefs is to understand that such a cardboard idea of \u200b\u200bthe surrounding reality is created by your thoughts. Your inferiority complex is generated by you and you alone.

12. Appreciate what you have

I had no shoes and felt sorry for myself until the moment I met a man with no legs.
George Carlin

And what if there is samsara - the wheel of death and rebirth ... What was your chance of being born a human? You could have been born an insect and not bother with anything at all.

Go to the oncology department at the children's hospital and see how much people value the mere opportunity to live to their fifteenth birthday.

Think how much others would give for what you have, but that you absolutely do not value.

You can always use your energy productively by focusing on what you have and not what others have. This approach puts the inferiority complex in its rightful place - out of your sight.

When you cannot sleep, stand in line, wait for the bus at the bus stop, it is much more useful to focus on those valuable things that are already present in your life.

With your eyes fully open, you will see how many good things are around you. You cannot feel gratitude and inferiority at the same time.

So, inferiority complex, catch the air and goodbye!

Conclusion

An inferiority complex is an old familiar to every person and does not represent something new and unusual. There will always be someone better than you, so comparison is a completely useless exercise. And besides, you are better than others in something, aren't you?

Never let your feelings of inferiority get in the way of your success. Instead, use it as a tool to push yourself to get better, take it to the next level, and get what you want.

The main approach to overcoming an inferiority complex is to realize the true cause of its occurrence and mentally work out this emotion, in the ability to focus on your strengths, rebuild your internal dialogue and reduce the importance of someone else's opinion to a level that does not exceed the height of the plinth.

Letting go of the inferiority complex will give you freedom and confidence, and you can breathe a sigh of relief.

At the same time, do not forget that you can always turn to a competent specialist for a solution to problems related to the functioning of the psyche, who will provide assistance taking into account each specific case.

Freud's influence on the subsequent development of personality psychology was enormous. His students and followers disputed certain provisions of his system, but their categorical apparatus and spirit of reasoning constantly maintained a relationship with the theory of the founder of psychoanalysis. In the context of conflictology, disputes between psychoanalysts are of particular interest, and their further analysis of personality conflicts is of fundamental interest. Freud argued that a child, comparing himself with his parents, begins to feel powerless. Freud's student and ally Alfred Adler made this observation the fundamental basis of his theory: in childhood, any person experiences a feeling of inferiority.

In the conflict between the feeling of powerlessness and the desire to get a high result lies the desire of the individual to overcome his weakness and reach the heights of the possible.

“Throughout its development, a child has inherent feelings of inferiority in relation to parents, brothers, sisters and others. Due to the child's physical immaturity, due to his lack of self-confidence and lack of independence, due to his need to rely on a stronger one and because of the often painfully experienced subordinate position among others, he develops a feeling of inferiority, which manifests itself throughout his life. This feeling of inferiority causes the child's constant anxiety, a thirst for activity, a search for roles, a desire to compare one's strengths with others, prudence, a desire for physical and mental improvement, the entire upbringing ability of a child depends on this feeling of inferiority. Thus, the future becomes for him the area that should bring him compensation. "

Adler considered the process of compensation of inferiority to be a creative force capable of leading a person to higher achievements. Even real ailments and defects can be overcome by this power. History has confirmed the paradoxical fact that many great musicians had hearing impairments, many great artists had visual impairments, and among famous generals there were often people of small stature who were frail in childhood.

The most famous orator of antiquity, Demosthenes, in his youth spoke quietly and stuttered.

The most charming and wisest Athenian of the late 5th century, Socrates had a comically unattractive appearance. “He looked funny: a bald skull, a steep forehead, a snub nose, thick lips. Once a learned healer came to Athens, who knew how to unmistakably guess character by facial features. They brought him to Socrates - he immediately said: "Greedy, depraved, angry, unbridled to fury." The Athenians burst out laughing and already wanted to beat the witch doctor, because there was no man in Athens more kind and unpretentious than Socrates. But Socrates restrained them: "He told you, citizens, the true truth: I really felt both greed and anger in myself from a young age, but I managed to pull myself together, educate myself - and now I became the way you know me."

Overcoming his inferiority, a person develops a sense of community, which Adler considered an innate human desire for cooperation, mutual understanding, and mutual support.

A different picture emerges if the personality cannot cope with the feeling of inferiority. Adler believed that the main obstacles to personal growth were the lack of attention of the parents to the child, his too much care from the elders and the excessive weakness of one or another diseased organ of the body. In this case, all the suffering from failure is, as it were, compressed into an inferiority complex - a constant deep experience of one's own failure, inferiority. Instead of achieving real results in life-building, a person strives for overcompensation, for a noisy and assertive conviction of himself and others in his imaginary successes... Healthy social feeling is increasingly drowned out, and the deplorable desire for power grows.

Having failed to cope with his inner conflict, a flawed personality spills it out. Having become socially conflicted, the person drags others into painful clashes generated by the struggle for power for the sake of power.

“There is a type of people to whom humanity and all its problems seem alien and distant. Doing too much with themselves and striving for personal power, but still being in a certain dependence on people, they often consider them their personal enemies, wanting only the worst for them. Not believing in their victory and with even greater fear of anticipating their own defeat, they end up in such a position that, due to their excessively grown vanity, they do not see and cannot avoid impending defeats, so it is not surprising for us that many of these people feel inferior. "

Until the 20th century, rulers were protected from criticism of their subjects by a wall of authority. Images of unattractive or vicious rulers (Nebuchadnezzar, Herod, Pilate, Nero) revived in the mass consciousness most often at the moments of a sharp fight for a staggering throne. But in this case, the ruler seemed great - albeit in evil. A different direction of thought was given by the theory, according to which the loud self-glorification of the ruler was compensation for his inner weakness, real pettiness and pettiness of nature, for his inability to resolve his intrapersonal conflicts. But Adler created his works in the 1920-1930s. - in the era of the "great" Fuhrer and leaders who turned out to be petty despots.

An inferiority complex is an irrational experience of one's own inferiority, when one feels like a defective product, which, if not regretted, will simply be written off and thrown away. An inferiority complex is one of the main causes of all neuroses. This topic has already been highlighted on the site from different angles: vanity - all these are manifestations of fluctuating self-esteem, which rushes between pride and inferiority.

Surrogates for a "fulfilling life"

Alfred Adler argued that an inferiority complex is formed in early childhood, when a child begins to realize that his possibilities are not unlimited, and not all desires are realizable.

Perhaps the two most obvious constraints on our capabilities are the physical body (at the material level) with all its needs, and moralizing education (at the psychological level). Children's fantasy games are one way to compensate for these limitations. Using toys, the child, overcoming limitations, plays out various roles that cannot be realized in real life - thus he indirectly embodies his desires.

Over the years, the grown-up child continues to act out his limitations in his actual position. You can sublimate your energy and express it in creativity. You can act out your complexes by terrorizing others - not the most productive option. You can pretend to be special, or a great person, as they do. You can realize yourself, like children, being carried away by the world of imagination, plunging into computer games, reading novels, watching TV series, where, forgetting, they live someone else's life.

One of the most popular and publicly approved options for compensating for an inferiority complex is the so-called "success". It doesn't matter what, the main thing is that the person himself no longer doubts his worth

That is, there are many options to calm doubts at your own expense. It is not necessary to practice tyranny, megalomania, picking stars from the sky.

Inconsistency of an inferiority complex

At the heart of the inferiority complex is fear. On the surface, this is the fear of being inferior, and therefore unloved, rejected, humiliated, abandoned and lonely. At a deep level, these experiences boil down to.

No matter how artificial and clumsy it may be, on the whole it (we must give it its due) in its own way encourages constructive changes. Everyone is familiar with the taste of satisfaction when the so-called “correct” way of life was offered to feed the conscience. We rejoice and rest with peace of mind after the work done. In this perspective, the inferiority complex works in conjunction with the survival instinct; nature thus protects us from life-threatening idleness. Therefore, both the feeling of guilt and the feeling of one's own insignificance cannot be unambiguously called some kind of harmful neuroses. They encourage us to develop.

But this is the whole problem. This is how they are drawn into a vicious circle, when the inferiority complex causes both the thirst for self-realization and the fear in the process of this “realization” of screwing up, experiencing their own worthlessness and helplessness now in an exacerbated form. As a result, an inferiority complex stimulates to move simultaneously in two opposite directions. A person longs for change and at the same time is terribly afraid of these changes, because they require real actions, which clearly reveal all the weaknesses.

In the confrontation between the thirst for change and the fear of them, as a rule, one after another wins in turn. But if fear wins, in addition to all other negative sensations, depression can be added as an experience of the hopeless meaninglessness of one's own life. And in this situation, the inferiority complex blooms and bears fruit, lowering the consciousness into the abyss of personal hell.

Self-deception of an inferiority complex

An inferiority complex is a rotten thorn in a person's soul. And so that the grimace of pain from this splinter does not distort the facade of the personality, they dress themselves with superficial masks to show themselves and others. Our social personality is in many ways a "collective image", a kind of mental showcase. According to Jung, this is the archetype "persona", the mask behind which a person hides his unwanted features. ...

An inferiority complex gives rise to doubts about your own truths, about who you are and what you can rely on while following your life - all this leads to general self-doubt. A notorious, insecure person is afraid that his inflated image will not withstand contact with reality, and he will face his own insignificance face to face.

We create self-deception in order to hide from reality, in order to maintain false masks that protect us from the realization of our own helplessness in the face of life. In the most advanced cases, this mechanism manifests itself in serious clinical abnormalities.

Under the influence of an inferiority complex, the only thing they really want in the depths of the soul is not to be rejected, but without any condemnation to be accepted with all their giblets. We ourselves want to accept ourselves in our true guise in order to get rid of self-flagellation and self-deprecation. But on the surface, we expect approval, praise, good grades, medals and diplomas, and at an advanced stage - admiration and prostration.

Dependence on someone else's opinion is the inability to rely on one's own opinion about oneself, doubt in one's knowledge of oneself - it is also self-doubt.

It is not for nothing that in Hollywood films one of the most "offensive" swear words - "loser" - a person who ignores opportunities, focusing on the reasons for passive inaction, hiding from fear. There is an opinion that a loser is every bus passenger over 30 years old. But in reality, absolutely everyone can feel like a failure under the influence of a personal inferiority complex. For example, when among the usual images of the mind, unrealized dreams begin to glow.

Often we buy expensive, luxurious things solely for the sake of self-affirmation, simply because we are ashamed to travel on public transport in cheap clothes. In this case, a car is not a means of transportation, but only a luxury - just another toy and a tribute to the insatiable complex. Exterior decor is just a temporary way to maintain your status and drown out an unquenchable inferiority complex. When they savor their unfulfillment, they become a failure in any situation - with or without money, until they change their own pernicious beliefs.

Product psychology

An inferiority complex is the psychology of a product. A person himself puts himself on the showcase of life in order to disrupt the approval of potential "buyers". And if the "product" is not taken, it itself includes itself in the list of unusable. An inferiority complex is a fictitious smell of rot, due to which the product independently classifies itself as "spoiled" and therefore suitable for disposal. The “buyer” thinks quite differently in this market.

When a person's inferiority complex is absent, or weakly expressed, he is not afraid to lose, he is not afraid of mistakes and failures, because they cease to symbolize the low quality of himself, but only provide a useful experience.

Such a person does not feel the need to rise at the expense of others, calmly accepts criticism and compliments. In assessing the situation, it relies not on emotions, but on logic and reason.

To restore and strengthen your own psychological health, you must study and know yourself. There are many methods. One of the most effective is working with a psychologist, or systematic introspection. Mindfulness and meditation, journaling, any conscious work with thinking and feeling help. Interaction with people is powerful when we get to know ourselves deeper in relationships. In general, it all comes down to revealing the deep truth about yourself and life.

When a person knows himself, he is not afraid to test his own beliefs for strength. Even if we all follow the path of least resistance, the desire to simplify and simplify our lives is an excellent motivation for personal growth.