Test whether I can offend a person. Do you tend to do spontaneous things? It's easy to spoil your mood

What is touchiness - a reaction to injustice, a method of manipulation¹ or an ingrained character trait? How typical is this quality for you?

Read now:

1. What is touchiness from a scientific point of view?
2. Why do we feel resentment?
3. Why is touchiness dangerous?
4. Touchiness test!

What is touchiness from a scientific point of view?

Psychologists say that touchiness is characteristic of emotionally immature people. Moreover, this quality does not depend on age.

Having lived his whole life, a person can emotionally remain a child.

Touchiness is characteristic, first of all, of the child’s psyche. The child, demonstrating resentment, tries to get his way in this way. Children's touchiness is considered normal. But when this trait manifests itself in an adult, there is, according to psychotherapists, personality disharmony.

Why do we feel resentment?

Resentment arises when a person feels unfair and believes that he deserves a completely different attitude towards himself. This is a subjective feeling, the measure of which is one’s own self-esteem.

On the one hand, touchiness is inflated expectations, and on the other hand, it is personal failure, the inability to defend one’s rights and interests.

The more a person waits, the more reasons he has for grievances, and those around him are sometimes unaware of their true reasons.

If grievances are regular, then this quality gradually becomes a character trait, a person’s way of life.

Why is resentment dangerous?

Each of us is endowed different features character, has different habits. However, if some of them are beneficial, others poison life:

• spoils the mood;
• reduces performance;
• worsens health;
• causes the appearance of obsessive thoughts;
• inhibits personal development;
• puts pressure on the psyche;
• lowers self-esteem;
• spoils interpersonal relationships.

The tendency to take offense causes either pity or irritation in other people. But neither one nor the other helps to establish normal friendly relations.

Touchiness test!

Of course, grievances are sometimes justified, however, more often they arise out of nowhere. This test will help you find out how easily you succumb to this feeling, and you will learn how to get rid of the feeling of resentment at the end of the article.

1. Is your mood easy to spoil?

b) sometimes;

2. Do you remember grievances for a long time?

b) sometimes;

3. Do you worry for a long time about unpleasant little things (stains on clothes, broken dishes, being late for work, etc.)?

b) sometimes;

4. Do you have long periods when you have no desire to meet or communicate with anyone?

b) sometimes;

5. Are you distracted by background noises and conversations?

b) sometimes;

6. Can you think about your feelings, experiences, and actions for a long time?

b) sometimes;

7. You tend to commit spontaneous actions?

b) sometimes;

8. Do you often have bad dreams?

b) sometimes;

9. Are you worried that you might be worse in some way than others?

b) sometimes;

10. How often are you subject to mood swings?

a) yes, often;

b) sometimes;

c) no, almost never.

b) sometimes;

12. Is it difficult for you to get angry?

b) sometimes;

13. When you're down, can delicious food lift your spirits?

b) sometimes;

14. Do you get annoyed when others cannot understand you?

b) sometimes;

Test results!

If you scored between 23 and 28 points, you can be called a non-offensive person. You, like everyone else, periodically have disagreements and troubles, but they cannot make you angry. Such serenity and calm seem like indifference and indifference to many, but you shouldn’t pay attention to it, perhaps they are just jealous of your self-control.

If you scored between 17 and 22 points, then touchiness is inherent in your character, and sometimes it is a serious problem. You can get wound up, so to speak, half-heartedly and provoke a major conflict. It’s hardly worth reacting this way to small things; it’s better to protect your health and the nerves of those around you.

Test result from 0 to 16 points indicates that you are not just touchy, but vindictive and even vindictive. Your sudden mood swings give you a bad name. You are too dependent on the opinions of others, you react painfully to insufficient attention and respect. Believe me, the Universe was not created at all to spoil your mood and create obstacles. Like attracts like. Forgive yourself and others, and the world will reciprocate. Here is an effective technique that will help you regain peace of mind and...

Notes and feature articles for deeper understanding of the material

¹ Manipulation is a type of social, psychological influence, which is the desire to change the perception or behavior of other people using hidden, deceptive and violent tactics (

This touchiness test will show how easily you can be offended, and will help you figure out whether you are a touchy person or are the most tolerant.

Touchiness test

1. Is it very easy for you to ruin your mood?

• Sometimes;

2. If someone offended you, do you remember this incident for a long time?

• Sometimes;

3. Do you worry for a long time over minor troubles (torn your shirt, missed the tram, broke a plate)?

• Sometimes;

4. Are there times when for a long time you are in a mood when you don’t want to talk to anyone and don’t want to see anyone?

• Sometimes;

5. Are you very distracted by various noises and extraneous conversations when you are busy with work?

• Sometimes;

6. Can you analyze your actions, experiences and feelings for a long time?

• Sometimes;

7. Are your actions often driven by a momentary impulse?

• Sometimes;

8. Do you often have scary dreams?

• Sometimes;

9. Are you tormented by thoughts that you are somehow worse than other people?

• Sometimes;

10. Does your mood often change?

• Sometimes;

• Sometimes;

12. Do you just lose your temper and lose your temper?

• Sometimes;

13. If you're in a bad mood, even delicious food can't lift it up?

• Sometimes;

14. Are you very annoyed when you encounter misunderstandings?

• Sometimes;

Calculation of test results

Now calculate the result. For each answer “yes” give yourself 0 points, “sometimes” - 1 point, “no” - 2 points. Sum up your points.

Touchiness test results

23 - 28 points. You cannot be called a touchy person. Minor disagreements are not able to “unsettle” you and take you out of a state of peace of mind. Perhaps some even consider you “thick-skinned” and indifferent. Don't pay attention, it's probably just envy.

17 - 22 points. You are touchy, and this character trait creates a lot of problems for you, your loved ones and the people around you. Because you are touchy and hot-tempered, you often have conflicts at work and at home. Always remember this aphorism about resentment“Carrying grudges only makes relationships worse.”

0 - 16 points. You excessively touchy person , your mood changes often. Know that your painful reaction to any criticism will not lead to good. Relax and stop being offended by the sun for not always shining brightly. Start fighting resentment, the next article will help you with this - “ How to get rid of resentment».

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Test "Touchiness"

This test will help you figure out whether you are really touchy, as you sometimes hear. Or you are tolerance itself. If you are in doubt, answer: “I don’t know,” “it varies.”

1. Is it easy for you to ruin your mood?

2. How long do you remember the insult and the offender?

3. How long do you worry about minor troubles (someone’s unkind glance, a caustic remark, a stained coat sleeve)?

4. How long can you be in this state when you don’t want to talk to anyone?

5. Are you easily distracted by outside conversations and noises?

6. Are you able to analyze your experiences, feelings, and actions for a long time?

7. Do you often act under the influence of a momentary mood?

8. Do you often have nightmares?

9. Does the thought that you are somehow worse than others bother you?

10. Do you have frequent ups and downs in your mood?

11. Does it happen that during an argument, the timbre of your voice noticeably changes and low or high tones that are usually not typical for you appear?

12. Are you easily angered?

13. Even delicious food is unable to correct your bad mood?

14. Do you often feel irritated when you are not understood?

Now count your points. For the answer “yes” 0 points are awarded, “I don’t know, it happens differently” - 1 point, for the answer “no” - 2 points.

From 23 to 28 points. You can hardly be called touchy. Your state of mind is stable and rarely changes depending on the situation. Some people consider you “impenetrable”, “hard-headed”. Sometimes they envy you, sometimes they condemn you - don’t pay attention to it.

From 17 to 22 points. You are a little touchy. This character trait gives you many bitter moments. You can easily flare up and say rude things to the offender. Because of this, you often have conflicts at home and at work (at school). Always remember the saying:

“There is no ford in the river of offense.”

From 0 to 16 points. You are touchy, vindictive, easily change your mood, and react painfully to the attitude of others towards you. These are serious flaws in your character. It is necessary to engage in self-education. And the lower the number of points you have, the sooner you should start doing this.

We become offended by people when their behavior does not meet our expectations. Sometimes our grievances are just, but often they arise because of mere trifles. The following test will show how easy it is to offend you. Choose one answer option that is most suitable for you.

To pass the test, you must answer the questions honestly. So take a pen and a piece of paper and write down your answers.

1. It’s easy for me to ruin my mood.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

2. If someone offended me, I remember this incident for a long time.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

3. I worry for a long time about minor troubles (I was late for the bus, I broke a cup, I stained the sleeve of my clothes).

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

4. I can be in a state for a long time when I don’t want to see or talk to anyone.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

5. Outside conversations and noises distract me a lot.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

6. I can analyze my experiences, feelings, and actions for a long time.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

7. My actions are guided by a momentary impulse.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

8. I often have nightmares.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

9. The thought that I am somehow worse than others bothers me.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

10. My mood changes very often.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

12. It costs me nothing to lose my temper.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

13. If I'm in a bad mood, even delicious food can't lift it.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

14. If they don’t understand me, it really annoys me.

a) yes;

b) sometimes;

c) no.

Instructions:

When calculating the results, for each answer “yes” give yourself 0 points, “sometimes” – 1 point, “no” – 2 points. Add up all the points you received.

Test results:

23-28 points. You are not a touchy person. Small disagreements are not able to bring you out of a state of mental balance. Some may even consider you indifferent. Don't pay attention, most likely they are just jealous of you.

17–22 points. You are touchy, and this creates a lot of problems, not only for you, but also for those around you. You easily lose your temper, which often ends in conflict with loved ones or colleagues. You shouldn’t get so worked up over trifles, save your nerves (both yours and others’).

0-16 points. You are touchy, vindictive, and react painfully to how others behave towards you. Your mood changes every minute. Relax and stop being offended by the clouds for moving too slowly. The world was not created to annoy you.

What could be more beautiful than waiting, what could be more painful than it?
Expectation good - hope. Expectation terrible - fear.
In an embrace with them there is uncertainty. Hope? Fear? Or the fear of hope?
What do we hope for, and for whom? What do we expect, and from whom?
Uncertainty, doubt – anxiety, fear?
Or is perspective - hope for the best?
Am I afraid or am I hopeful?
If I'm afraid, then why? If I hope, what?

In relationships, under any circumstances, there is always fear and hope at the same time. The dosage varies. But that doesn't matter.

Psychological comfort, as usual, is in the middle.
I'm always afraid of something, I'm always hoping for something.

We often enjoy our own fear.
Overcoming your own fear is also worth something.

But then it happened that they suddenly offended you. And this is not fear, and not hope. A banal insult.
There she is, and that’s it! So what should we do?

Think! Preferably in writing. Highly recommend.

1. Resentment always has a purpose. Try to define it. If it doesn’t work out, take a deep breath and relax. It's not an insult. Anger, anger, jealousy, finally. This is a normal reaction, it will resolve itself, wait a little.

2. Have you determined the goal? Now you know what you want. Think about it - now you have achieved this goal, what will happen to you? Will you become happier, healthier, richer...? And most importantly, perhaps there are other ways to achieve the same thing? Look for options.

3. Resentment is a demand, a compulsion to act one way and not another. Think again. What exactly do you require? On what basis? Do you know exactly why you need this? Also think about how you can achieve what you want differently? At the same time, ask yourself. Is the “offender” aware of your demands? Or do you think this is the default?

4. Resentment - strives for satisfaction. Demands revenge, blood. Well, if you take revenge, what will change? Are you sure you'll calm down? Imagine that you have taken revenge, feel relief. Didn't work out? Then it won't work. And if it works, imagine it one more time. And so on until it finally gets better.

5. Resentment is a defensive reaction of your personality. Was she really violated? What exactly does this person protect? And then who?

6. Perhaps you're just a touchy person? This happens. Here's the test.

Your level of sensitivity.

1. My mood can be easily ruined.
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
2. You remember both the insult and the offender for a long time.
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
3. You worry for a long time about minor troubles.
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
4. You are often in a bad mood for a long time. There is no desire to communicate.
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
5. If you are busy with something, everything gets annoying. Noise, movement, light...
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
6. You can spend hours analyzing your actions and feelings.
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
7. You easily give in to momentary impulses of feelings.
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.

8. Do you often have scary dreams?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
9. Are you tormented by the fact that you are worse than others, many?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
10. Does your mood change often?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
11. Does the timbre of your voice change when you argue?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
12. Do you often lose your temper?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
13. Even your favorite food doesn’t always cheer you up?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
14. Is something incomprehensible very annoying?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.
15. Do you consider yourself very touchy?
- Never.
- Happens.
- Often.

Now it's very simple. For the answer “often” - 2 points plus. For “it happens” 1 point. For “never”, respectively, nothing, 0.
All that remains is to sum it up and get the answer.

The result is less than 16. You don't have a lot of grievances. You live in harmony with yourself and those around you. Don’t believe it if they call you an indifferent don’t care. Advise to envy silently.

Result from 17 to 23. It makes sense to attract attention. The exercise suggested above is most likely sufficient to normalize relations. Don't be lazy. Perform as needed. Life will become easier and more comfortable.

Result 24 and above. Sorry. It's not easy. Are all the bastards and bastards around? Happens. But this is not a diagnosis. This is your personal feature. Don't try to overcome it. But it is quite possible to make your life more comfortable. There is a more detailed technique. You just have to devote more time. But it's worth it. For yourself!