The girl is offended over trifles what to do. Touchy person: how to communicate with him? What is resentment
At the very beginning, it is worth mentioning that girls, for the most part, are guided by emotions, and guys - by logic. On the day, the girl experiences a huge number of all sorts of events that should cause her certain emotions. Most often, these emotions are manifested in her young man. All this happens because for any girl a guy is the person who should always help her in everything.
And in the case when a girl is often offended, the young man, without knowing it, becomes a kind of assistant for her. A girl who splashes her emotions on him becomes much easier both morally and physically.
In addition to the fact that a girl splashes out her emotions experienced during the day on a guy, there may be other reasons for her resentment. It is worth noting that very often a girl is offended over trifles just because she lacks proper attention. It is attention, and not reporting calls every hour on the phone with the questions "what are you doing?" and "how are you feeling?". If possible, it is advisable to try to spend as much time as possible personally with the girl, and during calls, she should not just retell the events, but also let her speak out as well.
This is done in order to show how important the girl is. In addition, you should not constantly ask questions, pushing her into a story. At best, you should ask to tell the events of the day or any other news. If a girl does not want to tell, then this does not mean that she was offended. It's possible that she's just not in the best mood right now. In this case, there is absolutely no need to continue asking stupid questions, otherwise this time the girl may be seriously offended. The best way out of this situation would be to come to the girl on your own, while buying a bouquet of flowers or something sweet. If the girl was really offended for no reason, then she will be overly happy and there will be no trace of imaginary resentment.
Another reason for resentment on the part of the girl can be the fact that she herself is to blame for something. Yes, it is she who is to blame, but so that the guy is not offended, she tries to pretend that she is offended so that the young man becomes ashamed and he forgets his grievances
Among other things, very often young people believe that a girl is constantly offended because of nonsense. In fact, it is quite possible that the cause of the grievances is far from such nonsense. Do not forget that each girl evaluates the events around her differently, and it is quite possible that for someone the wrong word will be tantamount to the worst sin. In this case, having decided to apologize, you need to be strictly aware of what exactly. After all, often a girl simply says that she forgives, in fact, she, like a counter, remembers all the “jambs” of her beloved.
Nothing good can come from such forgiveness. Only after the guy himself realizes his mistake can he be truly forgiven. Very often this mistake seems stupid and ridiculous, but nothing can be done about it - the same female psychology is to blame. Having once understood what a girl can really be offended by, a good young man will immediately remember this and will not repeat his mistakes in the future. Without making a mistake, the guy guarantees himself and his girlfriend a long-term stable relationship.
According to popular belief, it is after swearing between a man and a woman that the most passionate sexual contact occurs. It is at such moments that the likelihood of conceiving a child increases. Thus, swearing helps to solve the demographic problem in the country.
The main thing is that resentment should not result in something serious. Often, after small quarrels in pairs, there is a much greater mutual understanding than before. In addition, it's just nice to make peace with your girlfriend and spend the evening together, forgetting about old grievances.
My boyfriend is offended over trifles. Because of every little thing. He does not arrange any quarrels or disputes - he simply defiantly turns away and is silent.
I just got tired of comforting him. More than half the time I think I'm right. How to deal with such extreme sensitivity?
amaranth
A similar situation! I'm already starting to get tired of such relationships! Recently, we almost broke up at all! Then there was a stormy trying on, brought flowers, went to a restaurant!
To be honest, this guy is behaving like a woman! Sorry for being so rude, but such behavior is more typical of young girls, girls, I would even say ...
"Wedge wedge" try
amaranth
Hmm, we're lucky...
StiFFleR
I've tried but it doesn't always work...
red ponytail
Hmm.... I usually do this... turn away and keep quiet and it's impossible to get anything from me...
how to deal with it? good question....
I just think you need to let it cool down...
why I don’t argue and swear .... sometimes I know that I was offended by a trifle .. nonsense ... it just takes time to digest it,
and understand that this is nonsense
I usually have 10-15 minutes ... and then I come up myself, I apologize, I can cry and say that I won’t do it again))))
maybe it's sensitivity...just taking things to heart.
my husband may casually say something wrong to me ... he didn’t notice, but I’m suddenly offended and tears well up ... I prefer to go out and not show my “nurses”)))
I don’t think that this is typical only for young girls ... rather, infantile persons))) like me.
in general, do nothing about it. just don't touch it
Tehhi
amaranth
hmm, girls... I almost broke up with one because of this.... well, at least this reason was not the last one.
really .. you say something wrong, and he is already pouting. I didn't even understand what he was offended by...
no, I understand once, twice .. then I'll ask for forgiveness and kiss ... but not every 5 minutes !!!
sometimes it seems that he just pretends to be offended ...
I don't know how to fight. I just couldn't resist...
Probably so do those who think that they lack warmth and affection ... maybe this is the reason?
Good idea! I also came to the same conclusion. Indeed, you can’t say something right, and the house is already full of insults and accusations: you don’t love, and, as a result, you don’t take care of yourself, you are inattentive and thick-skinned.
But on his part it seems that he behaves normally and is offended by the case. And from the side of the "offender" it looks like complete absurdity, because there was no intention to offend. Yes, and "warmth and affection" seems to be present in a relationship ...
Apparently the answer lies in the past of this man. Perhaps somehow there he did not have enough tenderness and attention, he was left deprived of this ... And now he has only one desire - to catch up. The only pity is that due to the nerves and good mood of his partner. I'm afraid that until a person grows up and understands what's what, nothing will change ...
amaranth
My mother said for a reason that they are all offended, but not all of them show it.
And here everything is clear ... Only this is a favorite lotion of girls ..... He is not offended, he just wants you to sit and persuade him, apologize ... and all that ....... Maybe he just stands with him talk openly on this topic, maybe he lacks attention or something else .... if he uses such a method ....
amaranth
!Prada
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I tried; he says that nothing like this happens and is offended again! This time already because I unfairly blame him
Tehhi How are you doing with conversations?
Probably you need to do something else now, such that he understands how much you love him! maybe then he will stop blowing up trifles in the size of an elephant
Tehhi
amaranth
Lol) Girls, you'll excuse me, but such a picture always weighed me) In general, this happens often ... There is a universal medicine. Tell him in the forehead: "What are you? A girl chtoli, to be offended?". A powerful blow to male pride usually leads to changes for the better.
marielena
Be more attentive to him. Extreme sensitivity comes from the fact that a person has some problems inside. Talk to him heart to heart. Maybe it's temporary for him.
alsh
Good idea, I'll try.
amaranth
You know when. he just doesn't want to admit he was wrong. And he continues to be offended already purely out of principle.
and it happens that after 10 minutes he realizes that he was stupid, approaches, kisses (but still does not admit that he was wrong). I especially do not demand an apology, the main thing is that he himself understands this.
You have to have great patience to deal with this person. By nature, I wouldn't be able to.
I sympathize...
Tehhi
there is usually some hidden reason behind this behavior.
It is quite possible that you are superior to him in some way.
for example, you earn more, or you have more friends, or you take a more active position in society...
he cannot directly express his resentment to you, therefore he takes it out on trifles.
you do not need to stream and reassure him every time, especially when you feel that you are right.
just try to help him cope with his complexes
Piranha fish
Moreover, often the cause of insults can be some insignificant phrase in which he found a hidden meaning or which seemed to him a mockery, despite the fact that no one meant it. Because of this, it is sometimes insanely difficult to communicate with him, because it is not clear what the matter is and who he once again strained. We somehow went to a disco with a company and suddenly we see him "goat" again (we have already begun to call it that). Because of what, because of whom, it is not clear. Everyone immediately starts to feel like complete idiots, because everyone understands that it could be because of him. And he is silent. But I, with my explosive character, said that I work in kindergarten 5 times a week and 8.00-16.00 and in my free time I have absolutely no intention of returning to work, so I want to bow and thank you for ruining the evening. This brought him to his senses. And do you know why he pouted again? His wife told him that he was charmingly twisting his booty.
So, Tehhi, I don’t want to upset you, but I advise you to think carefully about how much love and patience you have, if this is a character trait.
The only thing I can advise you in this situation is to sit him in front of you and say that you don’t like this behavior, because you want to see a man and a partner next to you, and not a little boy. That you absolutely do not mind the fact that he is offended, but if he does not frankly explain the reasons and try to extinguish the conflict, it will be very difficult for you to continue the relationship in this spirit. If nothing changes after this conversation, then you have to decide for yourself whether you can be happy with such a person.
Piranha fish
Long, twisted, but, damn it, how right!
The next time I get offended... I already wrote in principle.
Thanks everyone for the advice.
and I .... dry tears well up somewhere under the throat ... a little higher than the heart ... stand up in a lump and ......
I also think so and in general this is the only way out of the situation. It was so with me, I endured, endured, but when something comes to a limit, and now everything has more or less calmed down. I really don't know for how long
I meant something else, is the one who is outraged by such infantile behavior himself so independent and reasonable, is his partner completely and completely freed from empty insults, puffed out cheeks and suspicious demonstrative silence in response to some trifle? is he so "adult" that in his eye there was not that "speck" that he sees in the eye of another?
you have two options:
1. "To be offended in return" ... with all sorts of phrases that bring feelings to life, etc. - easy way. Suitable for those who "torment" with a touchy partner. Pursue your own interests.
2. Go to heartbreak, arrange heart-to-heart talks and bebebe, etc. Show a benefactor.
Only to a person who sincerely needs attention, support, sensitivity and other things when he "loves", and accordingly gives himself for it, then your decisions are not suitable, because they do not solve the main thing, but only struggle with the consequences.
Whatever he was - infantile, childish, touchy, etc. all the causes of resentment speak very bitterly in him and make him even weaker, until his inner self hardens and feels these resentments, there is only a small side effect - the warmth of another person, love, joy - it will also not be able to feel.
I, too, sometimes get offended by terrible nonsense, accept criticism of something at my own expense, and so on, but this only happens when I am under stress and I don’t care about anything. True, I perceive support in such situations more sharply.
In general, I can say personally about myself - if I am offended, I just need to give time, leave me alone. Questions about what happened are annoying, sometimes it’s dumb to tell what’s the matter, because it’s embarrassing to admit that you pouted because of such garbage, and attempts to hug and kiss cause discomfort, as a feeling of guilt appears. So the best thing is to leave me alone for ten minutes, then I'll caress myself.
The most meaningless feeling that a person is capable of is resentment. A touchy person, by his behavior, tries to prove his importance to the whole world and to a particular individual, without confirming this with anything other than illogical attacks and accusations. Looking at relationships through the prism of resentment distorts the worldview so much that they stop taking a person seriously and try to end the relationship with him, giving rise to an even greater feeling of disappointment in the latter.
Resentment and resentment: what's the difference?
Resentment is a reaction, often demonstrative, in response to a statement, action or lack of action. A person is trying to show that he is dissatisfied with the course of what is happening, that he expected another, and with his whole appearance demonstrates how much his disappointment is. Disappointment is woven into the insult (one thing was expected - another thing happened), pain and sadness (“I didn’t expect this from you”), excitement and anxiety (suddenly it will happen again), powerlessness (“you are stronger - therefore you consider yourself right”), irritation and anger ("I will avenge you").
Resentment is like the flu: you can get a fever and recover in a couple of days, but perhaps inflammation will take over the entire body and cause an already chronic condition or destroy the carrier. This state is called resentment. A very touchy person is ready to be constantly offended by all possible irritants, sometimes erecting heaps of non-existent problems from scratch, showing with his whole appearance how unfair the world is to him.
All human feelings are a subjective thing, but the feeling of resentment is several times stronger than all the others, since one's "I" and personal dignity are put above the rest.
Why are people offended?
Psychologists divide all causes into four categories:
- Misunderstanding of jokes: most often a touchy person is devoid of a sense of humor, even a small undercoat can hurt him - this is his defensive reaction and an indicator that you don’t need to do this. This is the easiest form, although it happens that a person becomes obsessed and bears resentment for years, developing a plan for revenge.
- Manipulation: wanting to get what was planned, but not seeing the desired result, the touchy person “pouts out”, moves away and is silent - showing with all his appearance that he is waiting for completely different actions.
- Deceived hopes: often people give in to fantasies or attribute non-existent character traits to others, expect unusual actions, and then are deeply disappointed with reality. With resentment, they try to show the magnitude of their disappointment, as if unobtrusively trying to change a person.
- Inability or unwillingness to forgive: too high self-esteem and hyperego make people blind to other people's emotions and motives for actions. At the same time, this category of people can combine all three previous categories, turning a person into a paranoid one.
How does resentment turn into resentment?
Due to an excessive sense of one's own “I” and increased self-pity, a person often has internal strife: “Why me? Why can they and I can't? I deserve better, more.” This further immerses a person in an illusory reality, invented by him and, most likely, significantly different from reality. And the more often this happens, if the cause of resentment remains unresolved and settles inside, the more a person becomes touchy, obsessed with his experiences and blind to the feelings of others. Excessive resentment becomes a natural state, destroying the inner world of a person.
Four types of offended
Psychoanalysts divide touchy people into several types, after analyzing which, you can understand why they hold evil on you and how to correct the situation.
People with an eternal victim complex: they are constantly offended by everyone and everything, with or without reason: any careless word, sidelong glance or gesture can drive them into deep depression, a week-long silence or, conversely, constant whining. This type of overly touchy person in the heat of passion can do anything, up to a suicide attempt, so you need to be extremely careful with them.
Paranoid: people who are touchy because of excessive suspicion, jealousy and fear of being deceived. They hear only what they want, understand the situation only from their extremely subjective point of view, and look for a catch in almost everything.
People with an inferiority complex: their total self-doubt gives rise to a feeling of insecurity, it seems to them that others constantly want to offend, laugh at shortcomings (sometimes visible only to themselves) and assert themselves at their expense. Often such people are touchy in a quiet way, they do not scandal, do not try to manipulate, but simply withdraw into themselves, accumulating a lump of resentment.
The Avengers: their distorted view of the world, combined with it, makes them constantly replay plans for revenge, retribution for offense and encourages further immoral actions. Moreover, their gnawing resentment is so great (even for a trifling trifle) that for years they can hatch a plan of vendetta worthy of Moriarty himself.
Male resentment
Men are actually offended extremely rarely - they are more likely to be upset, angry or disappointed in some actions of loved ones. The logical mindset simply does not allow them to keep the reason for a long time - in half an hour the male consciousness will find something more interesting for itself than talking about the past action.
The only thing that can really hurt him for a long time is criticism of his "male" behavior: sexual failure, comparison with other men, public condemnation and depreciation of his gifts. Then a man can either close himself in himself, or, while maintaining external habitual behavior, keep resentment in himself for quite a long time, and during a strong quarrel, express everything.
Women's resentment
Women own the palm for insults: they are offended several times a day, while for some these are fleeting states that you can’t even call an insult - so, I was upset for five minutes and forgot. For some, this is an idea-fix of their whole life: “You offended me - you didn’t see my tears,” because of which they begin to poison life for themselves and those around them. At the same time, she looks like a madman: she absolutely does not own her mind, emotions and can say mountains of superfluous, rude and unnecessary things. Excessive sensitivity is what destroys such women.
Childish resentment
Resentment of a child is a great psychological trauma, which can lead to a lot of complexes, rejection of the realities of the world and a distorted perception of people around. The danger is that an unstable child's psyche cannot cope with experiences, cannot correctly respond to an irritant and imprints negative experience on the subconscious, forming an illusory reality.
Most people who are too touchy brought this feeling with them from childhood, they have grown together with it and can no longer live without it. 80% of all fears, phobias, complexes and reactions are laid in a person at preschool age, most of them come from parents and close relatives. Therefore, the next time, before scolding a child for something, think ten times whether it is necessary.
What is the danger of communicating with such a person?
When a touchy person is present in the company, it is like a boil: it is very disturbing, but at the same time no one dares to touch, so as not to cause pain. An imperceptible ring of alienation is formed, which offends a person even more - the circle is closed. In addition, a very touchy person reacts sharply to criticism. Therefore, openly judging him for his susceptibility is the same as
The constant need to select the “right” words, expressions and actions already indicates that you are being manipulated, which means that a person has understood the power of his influence and will use it every time as necessary.
Why don't all people get offended?
The psychology of a touchy person is different: some are extremely rarely subject to such a painful reaction, while others, on the contrary, are hypersensitive. With some, you can joke on the verge of a foul, while others react sharply even to a comment about a hairstyle. Why is this happening?
In fact, everything depends on the internal state of a person: how much he is self-sufficient or dependent on public opinion, what is the magnitude of his sense of pride and self-importance. Everyone has their own weaknesses and pain points: for some they are on the surface and painful, while for others they are hidden under a thick layer of character and willpower.
How to communicate with a touchy person?
For others, this is sometimes a problem. How to call a touchy person so as not to offend? How to communicate with him at all if there is no opportunity to end the relationship (this is an employee, relative or husband-wife).
The first way is to try to ignore attempts at manipulation, provided that one's rightness really is. You can ask the opinion of a disinterested person (of course, tactfully, so as not to offend the offended person even more).
Second: try to take the situation into your own hands and turn it from sensual squabbles into a calm discussion of the problem.
Communication with overly emotional people teaches tolerance and loyalty, this is a good reason to look at yourself and others from a different angle. You need to be condescending to sensual outbursts - after all, if the reasons for such a reaction are known, then it becomes clear that a touchy person has internal problems through the roof. Have pity on him, only mentally.
The all-in method: feign resentment in response. Perhaps, feeling in the place of a “pseudo-offender”, a person will change his behavior and attitude. Try to put yourself in the place of the offended person and mentally scroll through the situation, trying to look at it through his eyes. Ask yourself what percentage of your fault is it that the person is offended. Be objective: maybe you unknowingly, without thinking, hurt a person.
How to help get rid of resentment?
Explain to the person why you acted and said this and not otherwise. Explain in detail the reason in the smallest detail, make it clear with all your appearance that there was no desire to offend. If the situation really demands it, you need to apologize. Just remember: to apologize means to regret what you have done and promise to do it more. Human reactions come from actions, not just words.
Try to explain that resentment is a destructive feeling, showing how much the offended person does not respect himself as a person. Show that you respect him, but you will never have close relationships if they develop so one-sidedly.
What will accumulated grievances lead to?
Does everyone know that resentment is a manifestation of one of the seven sins of Christianity: pride? A wounded sense of superiority spurs a person to break relationships, break marriages and family ties. Everything happens because everyone puts himself above the other, and this is a manifestation of pride.
Focused on their inner experiences, a person loses the ability to think sensibly, working capacity decreases, which, in turn, can lead to job loss. In an attempt to numb the pain of resentment, some people turn to drinking or taking drugs.
Why does a touchy person often get sick? His nervous system is constantly overloaded with stress, depression and neuroses. Under the influence of feelings, it disrupts the usual diet, which will adversely affect the digestive system: gastritis, stomach ulcers are side effects of stress.
From constant experiences, migraine develops, spasm of the muscles of the neck and shoulder girdle (which can lead to problems with the spine). Spasmodic muscles, in turn, block the free functioning of the lungs, hyperventilation is disturbed, and this is the first step towards colds and various inflammatory processes.
In the process of communicating with a touchy person, try to convey this information, perhaps common sense will win, and the offense will go away.
Confident people don't usually get offended. It's hard to get them out of your mind. And even more so, some trifle will not be able to do this. And there are those who, as they say, do not feed honey, but let them take offense. They are just waiting for a reason.
Let's figure out why people are offended by each other?
Take offense
What is resentment?
Each of us experienced this unpleasant feeling - resentment. And he knows how bitter she is. And more for the one who is offended.
No amount of evidence will convince an offended person. He withdraws into himself, and no one and nothing is cute. Cherishing resentment in oneself, it leads to depression, and the most real anger. It seems like the whole world is against you. It's embarrassing as hell.
Small grievances, grievances over insignificant trifles grow to incredible sizes, like a snowball, and cover a person with his head. This makes them very dangerous.
Why are we offended?
Those who are immensely confident in themselves are usually offended. Such people believe that the whole world owes them, they are the center of the universe, everything revolves only around them. Sometimes it hurts and hurts to realize that this is far from the case.
Irritability and resentment can be caused by constant failures. At some point, everything stops working. When a person is sick, he can also begin to take offense over trifles.
We cited overconfidence as the reason. So uncertainty is also the cause of constant resentment. People feel sorry for themselves, blame others, and even a careless remark offends them to the core.
In addition to all of the above, there is also misunderstanding and misunderstanding. They can often cause resentment.
This is just a small list of reasons for trifling insults.
Take offense
Treatment of grievances
Resentment is subjective. You need to treat yourself first. To stop being offended for no reason, you need to look inside yourself. There is no need to blame anyone. It is important to understand yourself, your "I".
Try to reason, but is it worth being offended, is it really offensive. Maybe you just made it all up?
Or maybe you’re just so tired and exhausted that you become touchy, you wind yourself up. Review your work schedule. Does it have enough time for rest? No. Then rest will help a lot, or at least a couple of days off.
Treatment of grievances
Avoiding misunderstanding is also very simple:
- ask again
- Ask to paraphrase
- Explain your statement
In such a situation, resentment seems more likely than it really is. When everything is cleared up, all that's left is to laugh. And continue to avoid this.
Take a closer look at your grievances, and you won’t even notice how they melt away. Fast and without a trace.
And one more piece of advice - do not focus on your grievances. Even if the words or actions are actually offensive. Try to look at it differently. Forgive the one who made you upset. Don't waste your time, enjoy life instead. It's much nicer and more useful.
From forgiveness, your soul will be light and light. And henceforth, resentment will not be able to sneak up on you, you will learn to simply avoid them. Try it. It is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. Everything will work out!
Resentment poisons life and complicates relationships with other people. Like a sticky web, it entangles you and leaves you alone. It makes you not notice the good around, makes you always return to the situation from the past and think about the offender again and again, scrolling through this situation in your head. The mood is spoiled. I do not want to communicate with others. Offensive, unfair words lie like a heavy stone on the soul. A plan of revenge is brewing in my head. And then words of discontent, criticism and insults fly to the offender.
All this puts pressure on relationships with other people. And long-term and frequent grievances are a source of constant stress and can even lead to various psychosomatic diseases. Thus, resentment is simply dangerous for our psyche and we need to get rid of them. Only here is the question: how? How to stop being offended?
The answer is given by the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.
The cry of the soul, or tired of being offended
The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan tells in great detail about those who tend to be offended. These are honest and straightforward people who value quality in everything, and in order to do something with high quality, they are ready to make efforts and spend as much time as they like. Such people are carriers of the anal vector.
They have an innate desire to have everything equally, in fairness. This is the trigger for resentment. In the understanding of a person with an anal vector, if he made you a ruble, then you should answer him the same. If more, he won’t take it, he doesn’t need too much. And if less, then that's just a reason for resentment. The ruble is, of course, an image. Anything can be used as a ruble.
The wife is offended by her husband: “I spend so much time and energy on you, cook all day, clean. And you don't notice it! At least give me one compliment! You lie on the couch all the time, watch TV, drink beer with friends. And I?" She feels unfair because she does everything for the relationship, and he gives her very little time and attention and does not thank her for the efforts that she puts in every day. But praise and recognition of merit are very important for a person with an anal vector. Simple words: “Honey, what a delicious borscht you have today!” - will make it clear to your wife with an anal vector that you really appreciate her and need her care.
The father is offended by his son: “My mother and I work tirelessly, and you get only “failures” at school!” After all, this is unfair: the son must also respond with good studies, otherwise he will dishonor his father, does not justify the expectations placed on him.
Resentment is a severe, destructive state of the human psyche. When resentment appears, the opportunity to fully live disappears. Life literally stops. You stop feeling joy from everything that happens around you, you constantly think about how the other person treated you unfairly.
Tired of resentment, we are storming the Internet with questions: how to stop being offended - and further down the list: to my mother, to my husband, to people, to stop being offended over trifles.
They wanted justice, but it turned out insulting
By nature, a person with an anal vector is endowed with a good memory and an analytical mind, that is, the ability to analyze and systematize information. However, it is a good memory that sometimes plays a cruel joke with the owners of the anal vector: they are able to literally get stuck in the past. They remember well any information, and even more so insulting, humiliating words and unfair deeds. Said or done some time ago, they pop up again and again in your head, burning through you all through. It seems impossible to forget all this, let alone forgive.
In fact, resentment arises from a misunderstanding of the other person and the reasons for his actions. A person with an anal vector is distinguished by directness and honesty towards others. And they expect the same from others. But the surrounding people, their family, work colleagues can be arranged in a completely different way, they may have different life values and different life experiences. And they live their lives according to the given qualities and properties. The wife, when she promised to do something and did not, in no case did not want to offend her anal husband. She does a hundred things at the same time and did not even notice that she had not kept her word. And for a husband, this is a reason for resentment. After all, they themselves are very obligatory in relation to other people. And again such heaviness, pain, melancholy, feeling of deprivation. When they didn’t finish it to the extent that you yourself imagined it ...
Resentment arises as our natural reaction, such behavior seems to us the only true, or rather the only possible. In fact, we stop living our lives, and live as our resentment dictates. And this is not a literary turn of speech. It is resentment that stops our life, forcing a person to return to the past all the time. It spoils relationships with loved ones, forcing them to go into silence and coldness. Pushes for reproaches and insults. Deprives us of the opportunity to take a step forward and forces us to abandon the relationship. We become its hostages, cease to be free in our actions and decisions.
How to stop being offended by people?
The system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan helps to find the right way to get out of a state of deep resentment. Awareness of oneself, the characteristics of one's psyche, occurs already during free lectures, which reveal the qualities and properties of the anal vector.
When there is an awareness of the problem, then it ceases to torment you. You will stop being offended as soon as you understand the root of this condition. The moment of awareness will become the moment of your healing. This is confirmed by a large number of reviews of people who have completed the training and received their main result - getting rid of resentment.
“...Grievances... Mamadaragaya, how they poisoned life! Now, after an instant reaction of resentment, everything somehow resolves and this painful state, resentment-for-the-remain-of-life DOES NOT COMING. All my life I was tormented by resentment towards my mother and a subjective attitude towards her. Now she - oh joy! - is perceived simply as a stupid aunt in places, in essence the same as me. Native, much more understandable, in need of care, attention ... "
Elena R., artist, St. Petersburg
“... Gradually, I began to unwind this tangle of terrible grievances that choked me and did not give me the opportunity to enjoy life. I realized what made me be like that, I understood myself, I learned to understand others. It is difficult to convey in words, but now I have a state of “no offense” at all. After the feeling of deprivation had gone, the inability to be offended in principle by people came. Living without resentment is a huge achievement and relief for me. As if hundreds of kilos fell off my poor neck. It's an incredible feeling...”
Anna M., Tver
Man is a social being and the ability to interact with others directly depends on whether he will be happy in this life. Other people are our relatives, relatives and loved ones. These are our colleagues and simply those whom we encounter on the way to work, in the store or at the clinic. We get the greatest happiness from other people and the most unpleasant experiences also from other people. Training "Systemic Vector Psychology" helps to understand yourself and other people and start living happily, freed from years of resentment!
